Hello! This is something like a continuation of another post I did here some time ago. It's about a boy I liked somewhere from last school year and I drew him, and then I sent him the drawing. Those who read my previous post know what it's about, but I'll still tell in more detail about those who they are not. So last year was my first in high school and I liked a boy from 9th to 10th grade. While I liked him, he didn't even know I existed. When I found out that two of my classmates knew him, I was glad that I had a chance to meet him. And we met, we talked, and then I even realized he thought I was cool. So far so good. But we just stayed acquainted without actually talking often or going out. And I couldn't talk to him because every time I saw him, he was with friends I didn't know and I couldn't just go there and talk to him. And at one point I decided I still had to do something about it and decided to draw it. Which I know sounds weird, but I just want to say that we're in a drawing school. (I won't say exactly which one) and I sent him the drawing, after which he said that he liked it a lot and everything ... only that since then he ignores me and turns in the other direction when he sees me or just passes me like a road sign. Then I realized that the idea was not as brilliant as I thought it was because he was really scared of me very cruelly, considering that we are just acquaintances. At this point, it was absolutely pointless to take any action, and I knew it, but I wrote to him all this summer. To my surprise, he was not scared to chat, we even wrote to each other for a while, after which he invited me out. And at the moment, of course, I was very happy, but then I realized that she was too nice to be true .. Because I wrote to him somewhere on August 8 and he told me that he could after 20. And I wrote to him at 21 or 22 I think and I asked him if he still wanted to see me. He explained that he would only like to have an exhibition that he is preparing for and there is no time .. which is true .. there really was an exhibition .. which he won by the way .. but yes .. he said that he hoped to write to me before 15 September. As I assumed it would happen, he never wrote to me. We missed each other a few times last week and he still ignores me and doesn't even greet me. At the moment I feel like a complete idiot and I am absolutely powerless in case .. if anyone could advise me what to do in this situation I would be very grateful to leave a comment. Thanks in advance!
1 cos_play answered
First you have a little internal work, then an external one. It is best to combine them to see visual results that motivate you. You build a stable self-esteem, you start taking time to develop your strengths, as well as work on the negatives. Parallel work on hobbies, health, mental enrichment and appearance. Everything is extremely important, because in addition to appearance, people are also attracted by your energy, your intellect, strength of character and will ... iiiiii etc. Build yourself .. this is not only in your favor, but also in the eyes of others. This is your image that you impose in society. If you do not have one - you remain invisible. Also get it out of your head and get on with your life. Each grip will repel him even more. He is a man, even if he is an ordinary boy - he has "hunting" instincts. That is, he must chase you. And how does this happen? Only if you really break away from it and focus on yourself. Otherwise, if it is false - you will unconsciously sabotage yourself and it will feel you.