It's like reading something I wrote years ago. I understand you because my concern was not small either. I had a fever and I was nauseous. I went through presentations and presentations as if I had the flu. At university I found myself in a completely new environment, fortunately I quickly found friends because everyone wanted to have a group of relatives. The first year I got very low grades and that affected my self-esteem even worse because I really spent a lot of time studying. After the second semester, I started having panic attacks. It's normal because I was stressed by everything and it was expected to happen to me sooner or later. In fact, I panicked for no good reason, without myself realizing the cause of these conditions. I consulted a doctor, we talked. They offered me medicine, but I refused, because I didn't want to go on a cycle where my lifesaver was an antidepressant and I wasn't even 30 years old. I told myself that if I resorted to extreme measures in such simple situations, it would become a habit for me to do so. I did not want such habits. Anyway, the doctor in question helped me realize that I was hurting myself and worrying unnecessarily about things beyond my control. I was recommended to engage in activities that make me happy and to be more active in my daily life (ie to go out and communicate). Gradually, I started to step out of my comfort zone because I wanted to get better and lead a normal life. I had been annoying myself for years, I had already reached a climax of stress, it was time for me to calm down. I learned to protect myself in ways I didn't suspect I could protect myself. I stopped thinking about projects, deadlines, presentations, reports. These were some of the duties I always did. What weighed so much on me? I write what I write, I give my best and whatever the sword shows. Assessment can be anything, but I realized that I am not learning about assessment, I am learning about knowledge. I don't know what to tell you about communication. At one point I stopped caring that I might expose myself or not be liked. It happens, I guess to everyone. Not everyone can like you, but it's not your job to worry about the thoughts that other people have. It's not your job to bother with other people's actions. If someone does you harm, it lies on his cross, not yours. If someone annoys you, he harms himself with all this negativity, not you. If you do not accept negative comments and evaluations, they cannot touch you. I stopped accepting the bad, I stopped bothering about him and started living at times freer. I started communicating with more people, I still had worries about the topics of conversation, but at least I didn't tremble or sweat. I met, held out my hand and smiled broadly, then began to have a conversation. If the topic starts, great ... if not, great again. What is the worst thing that can happen to you when dating? Ignore you? Tell you they don't want to talk to you? Come to think of it, these things aren't so bad at all. Nothing in this life is so scary, you just have a tendency to see small things as huge and give them importance that they don't have. Whatever happens, you will be pressured by circumstances and you will cope, even if you do not want to. The clock doesn't stop for anyone, the arrows will push you forward in time and gradually everything will be arranged. Even if you expose yourself, this will be forgotten. Even if you are late, you will be forgiven someday. Even if you miss an important date, you will still have the opportunity to reappear. I was very scared about graduation. I had a classmate who was seriously ill at the time and was in hospital. He didn't show up with us, he went to the September one. However, she was again accepted to the university where she wanted to study. If you lose your job, you will find a new one. If you lose a friend, you will have other friends. If your heart is broken, it will heal again and beat even harder for another person with whom you may really belong. I had to go through catharsis, something very bad had to happen to me to come to my senses and tighten up. I hope, that you will do it before you reach the bad peak, that you will simply go around and you will not have to face such difficulties. Think as much as you need. Think every day. Push your head with the idea that life is not scary and you will have a lot of opportunities. Don't worry, you will learn to communicate, simply because you will need to communicate. You will get used to presenting, because in the future you will have many more presentations. This is not scary. Tests are just a piece of paper on which you have to write your knowledge. The presentations are just to stand in a hall with several people and present what you have been working on for some time. It's not scary. Divide the big events that scare you into very small actions. Step by step. The presentation, for example - you enter the hall, go to the computer, open your file, you get on the podium (if there is one), keep your eyes at the level of the middle row or below low at the end of the hall, read-explain-change the slide (several times). Finally, thank you for your attention, get off the podium and sit in a chair. That doesn't sound complicated, does it? Relax, take care of yourself and try to overcome your worries. If I succeed, you can too!
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It's like reading something I wrote years ago. I understand you because my concern was not small either. I had a fever and I was nauseous. I went through presentations and presentations as if I had the flu. At university I found myself in a completely new environment, fortunately I quickly found friends because everyone wanted to have a group of relatives. The first year I got very low grades and that affected my self-esteem even worse because I really spent a lot of time studying. After the second semester, I started having panic attacks. It's normal because I was stressed by everything and it was expected to happen to me sooner or later. In fact, I panicked for no good reason, without myself realizing the cause of these conditions. I consulted a doctor, we talked. They offered me medicine, but I refused, because I didn't want to go on a cycle where my lifesaver was an antidepressant and I wasn't even 30 years old. I told myself that if I resorted to extreme measures in such simple situations, it would become a habit for me to do so. I did not want such habits. Anyway, the doctor in question helped me realize that I was hurting myself and worrying unnecessarily about things beyond my control. I was recommended to engage in activities that make me happy and to be more active in my daily life (ie to go out and communicate). Gradually, I started to step out of my comfort zone because I wanted to get better and lead a normal life. I had been annoying myself for years, I had already reached a climax of stress, it was time for me to calm down. I learned to protect myself in ways I didn't suspect I could protect myself. I stopped thinking about projects, deadlines, presentations, reports. These were some of the duties I always did. What weighed so much on me? I write what I write, I give my best and whatever the sword shows. Assessment can be anything, but I realized that I am not learning about assessment, I am learning about knowledge. I don't know what to tell you about communication. At one point I stopped caring that I might expose myself or not be liked. It happens, I guess to everyone. Not everyone can like you, but it's not your job to worry about the thoughts that other people have. It's not your job to bother with other people's actions. If someone does you harm, it lies on his cross, not yours. If someone annoys you, he harms himself with all this negativity, not you. If you do not accept negative comments and evaluations, they cannot touch you. I stopped accepting the bad, I stopped bothering about him and started living at times freer. I started communicating with more people, I still had worries about the topics of conversation, but at least I didn't tremble or sweat. I met, held out my hand and smiled broadly, then began to have a conversation. If the topic starts, great ... if not, great again. What is the worst thing that can happen to you when dating? Ignore you? Tell you they don't want to talk to you? Come to think of it, these things aren't so bad at all. Nothing in this life is so scary, you just have a tendency to see small things as huge and give them importance that they don't have. Whatever happens, you will be pressured by circumstances and you will cope, even if you do not want to. The clock doesn't stop for anyone, the arrows will push you forward in time and gradually everything will be arranged. Even if you expose yourself, this will be forgotten. Even if you are late, you will be forgiven someday. Even if you miss an important date, you will still have the opportunity to reappear. I was very scared about graduation. I had a classmate who was seriously ill at the time and was in hospital. He didn't show up with us, he went to the September one. However, she was again accepted to the university where she wanted to study. If you lose your job, you will find a new one. If you lose a friend, you will have other friends. If your heart is broken, it will heal again and beat even harder for another person with whom you may really belong. I had to go through catharsis, something very bad had to happen to me to come to my senses and tighten up. I hope, that you will do it before you reach the bad peak, that you will simply go around and you will not have to face such difficulties. Think as much as you need. Think every day. Push your head with the idea that life is not scary and you will have a lot of opportunities. Don't worry, you will learn to communicate, simply because you will need to communicate. You will get used to presenting, because in the future you will have many more presentations. This is not scary. Tests are just a piece of paper on which you have to write your knowledge. The presentations are just to stand in a hall with several people and present what you have been working on for some time. It's not scary. Divide the big events that scare you into very small actions. Step by step. The presentation, for example - you enter the hall, go to the computer, open your file, you get on the podium (if there is one), keep your eyes at the level of the middle row or below low at the end of the hall, read-explain-change the slide (several times). Finally, thank you for your attention, get off the podium and sit in a chair. That doesn't sound complicated, does it? Relax, take care of yourself and try to overcome your worries. If I succeed, you can too!