Maybe a long time ago the topic, but I will express an opinion. We should not blame the children here, but those who made them. So you say they're 12 and 19 and that their father left them a long time ago because "it didn't cost five bucks." So the older one must have been under 18 when their father "abandoned" them. According to even if there were difficult periods for your children, this was not the way. And the problem is only in you as a mother and as a family. I'm sorry, but what mother would call her 12-year-old son a "freak," even if the kids were wrong, I don't think that's the way to go. The problem is entirely in you, the children are raised by you, not by the neighbors. And another question - HOW WILL YOU SORRY that you didn't get divorced when they were little? This is not clear to me. That the generation today is not a wrist to smell - it is not. But it is your parents' fault that you have no responsibility for them, that you accuse teachers of not raising their children properly, but the fact is that these children do not have the basis of home to be brought up in school. And what exactly would they beat the children for? What is the reason ? I am not waiting for an answer, but I would ask these questions.
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Maybe it all depends on their upbringing ...