My Brother Is An Alcoholic

Hello! I decided to share my pain - I don't know if it will help me, but at least it will ease me a little (supposedly). My brother, whom I love very much, has a serious problem with alcohol. He is only 30 years old and is already waking up with the thought of the cup. In the morning he consumes beer instead of coffee, and the first glass of hard alcohol can be drunk before 12 noon. Accordingly, by the evening it is no longer adequate, and what is worse after drinking alcohol becomes extremely hot-tempered and rushes to fight. It's not uncommon for him to get my parents out of bed to scandalize them about "something" and even hit them lately. I do not live with them. I don't even live in the same town and that worries me even more. At least I used to be able to step in and throw it away (he was still listening to me), but now it's impossible for me. Therefore, to the concerns that he is ruining his life, those about my parents are added ... I have talked to him thousands of times - even when the problem was not so serious, ie. even when he was a teenager and occasionally made "white" under the influence of alcohol. I am 4 years younger than him, but he has always listened to what I have to say to him. It used to have some effect, but as I said, we no longer live together, and he has a wife who is supposed to help him (I doubt it is true in this regard). The problem is that talking doesn't help anymore. when I advise him to consult a doctor and try to heal, I already meet only rage and ridicule. Alcohol destroys him not only mentally, but also healthy - at 30 his liver is already totally and irreversibly damaged - but he doesn't care - he doesn't even try to take pills or treat himself. And when he doesn't want to help himself and what's worse, when he denies that he has a problem, I feel powerless to help ... I'm sick and I'm sad - I love him and my parents, not maybe I do nothing for one or the other ...