My friend wanted a child at the very beginning of our relationship, there were no 4 months, now we have been together for 11 months, I am a student for 3 years part-time, I work and study and it is quite difficult for me, and what is left for 1 child. I love children very much, I like to take care of them, but I am afraid that 'our child' will not have a home, the necessary conditions, and our parents do not agree with our relationship, they are even afraid of getting into trouble. !! What to do I am often tempted, but I think I would not be able to cope for now. We talked to my boyfriend, but he wants to become a father and does not accept my opinion ... and I still think that one day he will 'spill' in me without realizing it!
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Is your friend also a student? I wouldn't trust him. I have a feeling he wants to bother you. You know things best, but that's what it looks like from what you've written. My advice, if you want one, is: keep one thing in mind and don't listen to anyone. Follow yourself and what you decide and judge. Even if you make a mistake, it's not scary ... it's scarier if you make a mistake under the influence of someone else.
I'm writing you a second comment, I hope it comes out this time. For your boyfriend: if you have such suspicions - that he will empty one day without knowing - then he is a lowly guy. I advise you not to trust him ... keep one thing in mind, don't listen to anyone. It is best to do as you choose and judge. What do you think? Write what is happening.
And how old are you?
Is he sure he wants to be a father? He needs to know that he needs to help you raise the child because you can't do it alone, and if you're sure he really wants to, why not.
Thank you very much for the advice. I have decided to follow and defend my opinion. Otherwise I'm 21 almost 22 and he's 23.
Ah, I'm much older than you, so I advise you to look at things from all sides. You are not very young for children, so why not. It is true that it is difficult to look after children nowadays in Bulgaria, but there is a folk wisdom (some cry for children and others for children). So think about it well. I wish you to make the wisest choice.
Hello! I'm just like you and I think that if my friend wanted a child from me, maybe I would pull away or at least think very seriously. Not because I don't want a child, not because we're not going to make it (he's 28), I just don't think I'm very prepared for that. A child is looked after by adults. I don't consider myself definitely like that. And you?
Are you crazy?!? NO MARRIAGE no children .. ahhaha
I think it's too early for you, but there's nothing wrong with sex, do it and whatever happens, happens
to comment 10 good that the author has been waiting for you for 4 years to give your opinion