Hello, I am 17 years old and first of all, I want to say that this story is completely real and I do not make anything up. It's going to get a little longer because I'm going to tell you in a slightly shorter version what happened until yesterday. This is my second story on a similar topic, and after all the advice you gave me last time, I decided to let things go by myself to get better, but things have gone too far. It all started in May, when I took my mother's phone to take a picture (with her permission)and saw a former colleague of her writing "I pick it up" and at first I thought he had the wrong chat anyway. I didn't say anything to my mom, and I gave her the phone back. I doubted it and, going to my room, I checked Facebook, and if she answered it. I'm sorry I opened it because I saw her send him pictures of her breasts and he says "Can you take down a little bit? " and all sorts of stickers and emojis in love where I went into the living room and she came from her room and the question "Mom, why do you send such love stickers with [his name]? (I kept quiet about the photos and told her she left her profile open and when I wanted to get into mine I saw it) Where she got angry and said it was something normal and when I asked her what was normal as you were both married and having children (I know because when I went to work and saw it). She didn't just keep accusing me of deliberately digging into the profile where I would defend myself and that I would tell Dad where she got even angrier and said that if he found out and left her, she'd kill herself and that was it. It's been a while and just a few days after the sea we were waiting for my dad to come back from the village and going to the toilet I hear she whispers on the phone and occasionally she's talking about work, especially when she hears me going into the toilet and ends with the words "I'm on vacation until Monday, I'm going to take advantage but now I have to hang up because there are a lot of listeners" and after five minutes she came to me and my sister and we talked. with my father on the phone. Nothing more happened until yesterday, when my mother under the influence of alcohol (it was a birthday) playing romantic songs was explained in the love of Dad (she does it while she's sober) and after five minutes I saw her filming the glass of wine and sending the guy with text cheers from below and sitting 2 meters away from me and Dad. How can a man who, until five minutes ago, explained himself in love and kissed the love of his life to be such a hypocrite and a liar? I don't know what to do. I have 3 options: 1. Tell Dad everything, risking dad leaving us and mom killing herself. 2. Keep quiet. 3. To tell my mom that I know everything risking our friendship and being mad at me for life. I ASK YOU FOR ADVICE AND THANK YOU TO ALL WHO HAVE READ THE STORY TO THE END. P. S. Before you accuse me of anything I want to tell you, this isn't the first time he's been cheating on him. At least I know about one more time. I was 7 years old and she even started with him, but I didn't understand anything at the time, and I came to my sister, who was 4 at the time. For us, he was just a guy my mom was seeing and buying us toys and treats and so for a few months. My father also loved my mother very much and even made him a crazy scandal when he had a Facebook and added people from the village who are friends of his ex and he deleted it because he didn't want to risk their relationship and took advantage of the fact that he wasn't very good with technology.
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palomino832 answered · June 19, 2020
Don't get involved in adult affairs - that's all I can tell you. Your mother and father are grown-ups, and as such they can decide for themselves how to live their lives - your intervention is not necessary. Otherwise, you can do a lot of harm to your loved ones, and in the end you'il suffer yourself.
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kortiz26 answered · June 19, 2020
Your mom's obviously not very much in the class of how to hide, and she's just lucky that your father isn't very much in the tech class, or he's caught her many times by now.
There are people like your mother (and I'm in may) that make them happy and "alive." That doesn't mean he doesn't love your father, it's just that the routine is nestled in their family relationships and in this way she feels significant, desirable, etc. n. You watch your lessons and your girlfriends around you. She's big and she's going to make it. These things are transient. After she's been through one now with another, tomorrow third and her life goes.
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johan_900 answered · June 19, 2020
Hi. First, I want to say that not 100, but 110% I understand how you feel. I'm in exactly the same situation. Just like you, by text, I figured out and wondered how to proceed. So my mother doesn't know that I found out about her affair, but I talked to my father. I didn't tell him everything in detail, but he knows he has something to worry about. Even I'm still the only one who knows who this guy is. Anyway. So I'd suggest you talk to your father, but in a delicate way. You don't mention what you read or see in the messages or who the person is. Only there's someone else. I fundamentally agree with the above commenter that this is the work of adults, but since these people are our family, they deserve to know what is happening outside of this family. I'm 18, so I think you're going to trust me to understand you.
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canellatender answered · June 19, 2020
Tell your father, he doesn't deserve to live a lie
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ariannarealhorny answered · June 19, 2020
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He's been acting very strangely for a while. The other day while I was at home, she came out without saying anything. After about two hours, my father came home from work, and when my mother found out, she came home right away and said she had gone out for half an hour to see a colleague in the garden next to the block. It was even weirder when He said he walked past the garden, but he didn't see it. Also, mom when she's on shift two is by 2:30, and she comes home sometimes at 3:30, and her job is 10 minutes away. Number three, I don't know how to talk to Myta without saying any details. I'm just very emotional and I don't know what to do.
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adamoeaung answered · June 20, 2020
P. S. And Mom doesn't know I know about her affair.
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itshimwatchout answered · June 20, 2020
From number 3
Talking to your father shouldn't reveal everything. I mean, you can alluse at him by saying you're worried that your mom's been acting weird lately. You notice these outings, the cooking, and so on.
I can tell you my conversation with my father. M/d If you want, I'il give you my email to talk there, since we're in the same situation. I'm just suggesting you're free to reject my offer.
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aching_thick_throbbing answered · June 20, 2020
Author , how things have evolved.
Is your mother still seeing the lover?
Or your father, you already know what great love he has.
Years from now, you'il know when you watch and watch
You become their accomplice, your father, if he finds out.
that you knew and kept quiet, how your mother every day
Meeting the lover because they work together.
In the evening, how you look them in the eye, and you know very well
What's going on?
And he's going to work like an ox.
Your father will never forgive your betrayal.