My girlfriends around 30 are quite offended by "ma'am", and those under 25 get really mad if they turn to them like that. I know that "ma'am" is already the norm, regardless of age and marital status, but it just sounds absurd and funny to me when someone turns to a 20-year-old with "ma'am." Or for teenagers to talk to "you" - somehow it's also unacceptable to me. I am a man of 23, to this day I address most of my peers as "you" and no one finds it strange. For women who look about 30, I always bet on "miss" because I know that the probability of being married is quite small nowadays, and I have always considered it more appropriate.
If she doesn't wear a ring, you can't know if she's married or not, so watch your age. Tell the younger ladies, and if they are about 40 and up, ladies. Because telling a girl of 20, ma'am ... well, it seems a little out of place.
It used to be the right Lady for married women and Miss for unmarried women. Now, under pressure from feminists, only Madame was accepted, because in the old version there was a division by marital status, unlike men. And no one is obliged to know who is married and who is not.
I've been knocking for 49 years and if you will believe me, my grandmothers still shout in the tram: "Girl, get up, child, let me sit down". It also happened to me that a mother pulled her child with the words: "Come here, you are preventing the poop from passing". I have always been indifferent to the address, but I was always annoyed when a stranger asked me, "Lady or Miss?" This is the most tactless question possible, although the person asks it so as not to make a mistake in the address, but agree that it is unpleasant. I've seen some young ladies blush and barely mutter "Amiiii ... miss." That is why I have introduced the following rule: if I can put the word "young" in front of the address, then it is (young) young lady. If "young" does not fit the visible age of the lady, then she is a lady. In this case, marital status does not matter. You're not going to talk to a 70-year-old girl with "miss," are you? All this refers to daily communication. According to the official protocol, the address must be "ma'am".
Supposedly a modern society, but elementary things are not known. How can a woman not be offended if she is married to a young lady? Miss is an appeal to young unmarried women and young girls. Even if she is an old woman, if she is not married, she is still a young lady. It would be best for women to treat only MRS., Without -ice or -zha. How to men is only a gentleman (s), and for young and old, for family and non-family. But we just get used to some order and a new one appears again, now we have to think about the third sex, how to address them, with gender? And soon we will remember again - comrades, we made a living as ladies and gentlemen !? Order is like fashion, it always revolves like history!
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