Hello, dear people! My problem is that I have a friend who wants to commit suicide. The harassment has been going on for more than two years now. After a few months of relationship, I realized that this man was not for me. I am a freedom-loving person who likes to be among people, to laugh, to have fun. I have never divided my friends into women and men, I already do. I have completely changed, I no longer have friends, I hardly go out with people, I am afraid to look somewhere so as not to become a scandal. You'll wonder why she hasn't left yet. Because I'm scared, that's why. Every time I wanted to leave, he threatened me with suicide. These threats started even before I said that, simply because there were big problems.
Well, now these problems are gone, but he repeats to me how I ruined his life and it was because of me. I used to be afraid of him, now I'm afraid of me. A few days ago, after another scandal that I went out without him, and there was no way he could come because it was a company party, I decided that I could no longer live like that. I decided to go home in peace and he screamed. He starts to accuse me of seeing me where I went and with whom, and I haven't moved anywhere, I'm not crazy. I was very worried. I went to them to see him, he had drunk half a bottle of alcohol and started shouting at me and throwing things, insulting me. He had cut himself on the body with a razor, as much as there was blood, he had knocked everything to the ground, broken it, thrown it. I was very upset about myself. Such scandals are common, I already know them, but it doesn't seem to have happened. I tried to talk to his mother about it, but she didn't seem to see or hear. From all the work, he knew I hadn't come home with him. We had different interests, to live my life and be happy enough to feel guilty. But I no longer feel guilty, I feel tired and scared. I want to get away from him and take action, but he continues to harass me. I think he takes drugs, in general he is very exemplary, but when he gets angry he becomes a different person. When he is not in these states he is very kind and good, so I suffer because there were signs of improvement and I was happy and hopeful. But I realize that if I stay, it will last a lifetime, and if I go with what will happen, I still love it and it hurts me for it, I don't want it to be bad, I don't know how to get rid of it all, so to stop harassing me and not commit suicide, and to continue my life. Tonight, when I get home, everything will happen again. His parents will not help him,
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I will try to be as useful as I can, I will follow your topic, I have experienced all this ... If questions arise, ask Listen, he will NOT commit suicide, this is a circus. He blames you because he can't keep you any other way. It is your guilt that keeps you there and the sick hope. You are not responsible for his life, you are 2 separate persons. These people are very good manipulators and can ruin you for months. My relationship lasted twice as long. As much as I've heard nonsense about suicide, he's been trying, and it's pretty scary. I want you to think very well what love is. It is love to make the other feel good. Does it make you feel good? He plays with you like a cat with a mouse, because you let him, he's got under your skin and he knows you to the core. These men are narcissistic in nature and never, but they will never put up with you being above him in any aspect of it. If he suffers, and you should, that's the law. The solution: You absolutely break any contact. You block the number, you block it in social networks, everywhere. To him and his family and friends. If you want, you change your number or move to another city, just without contact, because if you feel sorry for him, it will come into your head again and go the same way. They seek pity because through pity, manipulation in general, fear and guilt, they put on shackles that are difficult to break. And the longer you stay, the worse. Don't think of him, he'll be fine, he won't commit suicide at all. Save YOURSELF. This is rule number 1. You are the most important person in your life. Psychologically, recovery is a very long process, I'm still in it. Believe me, this whole thing is going to destroy you. Once you leave, all sorts of methods will begin to bring you back. He will be perfect again, he will pursue you, you will find it difficult to resist, but do not give in to memories and hopes. One big, solid, NO. He will pull out the heavy artillery, he will threaten you, he will roar to the whole world that you have broken his heart, and he loves you sooooo much that he will die for you. In the end, you wish him happiness, ignore him during this period and he will stop. In the meantime, he is very likely to process a new baby. :)) I wish you luck, I know how difficult it is, but fear is a weakness, and weaknesses must be trampled. that you broke his heart, and he loves you sooooo much that he will die for you. In the end, you wish him happiness, ignore him during this period and he will stop. In the meantime, he is very likely to process a new baby. :)) I wish you luck, I know how difficult it is, but fear is a weakness, and weaknesses must be trampled. that you broke his heart, and he loves you sooooo much that he will die for you. In the end, you wish him happiness, ignore him during this period and he will stop. In the meantime, he is very likely to process a new baby. :)) I wish you luck, I know how difficult it is, but fear is a weakness, and weaknesses must be trampled.