I want to ask mainly men - is there such a thing as "Sex in this place is boring" My husband and I have sex quite rarely. Once a week or sometimes less often. We always have sex when he wants, but when I want I am repelled many times. He wants us to have sex on the couch, on the table, etc., and when he decides he wants it in the light, and if we are in bed at night and I want him there, he says that it is boring to have sex in the bedroom and that the bedroom was intended for sleeping. Then I tell him that the table is for eating, and the sofa for sitting, etc., and he falls silent. It was dark in the bedroom, I wanted it in the dark (which is pure lie and deception) and when we did it in the dark it was like a meat handle. I tell him we'll turn on the light, etc., but he won't. And the problem is not in the bedroom, it must be an excuse, because I hung him on the couch and in the kitchen and he pushed me away again. He just wants to be when his urge is so strong that he has nowhere else to go and has to release the tension. Men, tell me now - is there such a thing as a boring place for sex or rather - in this case the partner is boring? Because I think it's the latter, even though he denies it - but he wouldn't admit it, as well as many other things. I remember in the beginning how crazy he was about me - he wanted me 5-6 times a day and even at night he woke up to make love. Now zero desire. I'm tired, I'm not a sex doll to satisfy a need only when nature gives a sign. I have feelings and I will no longer have sex with him and will ignore him until I judge that he wants sex, not because he is already in pain from detention. You can attack me, but I don't know any other way to solve my problem, I tried everything. And he doesn't want to hear about erotic lingerie - he didn't want to pretend to be a prostitute. It would repel him.
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You're right, author - not the place, but the partner is boring. And instead of pushing your husband away, catch yourself letting him go without problems when he wants and be sure that he won't let you down either. Someone has to take the first step. Otherwise - in the bedroom you can change the light, for example - there are table lamps in red, to put different furniture such as an armchair, where you can also have sex. Mostly diversify the program - classic lingerie also helps, but in general men want to have more often a blowjob, spontaneous sex (quicks), sex in different positions and why not - in different places. Men don't turn around, they say to themselves, what do they want and I don't see why you have a problem fulfilling your husband's desire to have more varied sex? Your pride will not fix your sex. It's all literally in your hands, lips,
Sometimes the bed can be very boring, while the more unusual places are more exciting and more spontaneous :) Sex "on schedule" is a horror
I'm a woman, but I don't think it's boring, but it's banal. Meaning, it's stronger to do it in a different place, it's nice to have variety and the place where you do it.
M39. Abe ours, for boring I do not know, but rare - for sure.
I think he watches more porn and gets full, which is why he wants to watch you while you do it. This is the effect of checks and porn. M28.
I don't know why it is widely believed that a man is a trouble-free sex machine and a woman has to play the role of a brake so that she doesn't take a turn. The woman was aroused with difficulty, and the man, whenever you push him (and without pushing him), fires at once. Well, it's not like that. The truth is that every man burns, but not every woman. There are uglier, but much more skilled women to light the wick of every man they want, and there are many enchanting drills who can kill any desire with the expectation of receiving and receiving and receiving ... because they are (?! ) krsivi for themselves in the mirror. Your husband will not court you, but will want to. You have a contract for that. And he will have his own fun with you, not yours. If you can take advantage of this, you will have fun too. If not - a pity! Look, outside of your contract, someone else will probably court (and not want to), but only to receive things that you have not been able to present to him. When you overcome the feeling that you are in a humiliating position in the family (because it really is not - this is just a perception of pseudo-emancipators), you will be able to enjoy sex in your family whenever you want. And if you did everything right, and the result is zero, there are hunters waiting in line for married women :) I know women with three divorces (it is unnecessary to get married after a divorce, but everyone decides for himself). And he competes with each of his husbands - who works better, who brings more home, who is the leader in the family, etc. And I know those who look like servants for their home, seen from the side, but in fact all turn in their family around them (they were called whirligigs) and achieve everything they want. They just know how to do it without affecting the man's ego. Unfortunately, I have to admit that our ego is great, but we are direct and predictable, and women have innate skills to manipulate, and I'm not saying that with reproach. In many cases, they are leading politicians in their home. Be all alive and healthy!
It's not a bed to climb on the front stand on the moon, is it boring with your partner ... Don't look for him. And you see, it's not about you or him. Don't listen to them to beautify themselves, to let him do other nonsense, just accept that there is no passion, isn't there it ... Swinging and cursing. Let's be realistic. And let's admit that passion is eternal! :)
Oh, I have the exact opposite problem. I want to do it somewhere else and he doesn't want to. He wants his bedroom and that's it. We may have done it several times in different places in the bedroom, but they are counted on the fingers of both my hands. I want to go outside, on a bench, in the pool, at night on a dark and deserted street supported by a fence ... How can I make him do it somewhere other than the bedroom ?? Not that we rarely do it or there is no passion .. on the contrary, every time it is better than the previous one, BUT ??
Your husband is selfish and you are too diligent. And he has to make compromises. м29
Author, there was a cool joke on the subject: The man says to his wife: - Penke, at 19'00, with you - without you I go to a pub with friends! The woman responds to his request: - On foot, at 19'30, with you - without you, sex at home begins! M37
№5, write complete nonsense. The man is arranged to watch, as he likes the woman in appearance, not in "appearance", so he likes to watch in sex, which arouses him a hundred times during the act itself. This is not new and if you do not know it, then you are very young, inexperienced and immature in sexual matters. I'm a woman, but I love light sex, I don't remember when I haven't watched porn, probably for 12 years or more. Sex in the light is not the effect of porn, but the desire of every normal person. It's just that most of us, mostly women, are worried. I don't know why in your opinion it is PARVILO to have sex in the dark ???? What nonsense ???
№6, glad to read you. I am a woman, I am married, I love sex, in the light, in the dark, in different places and I do not place taboos. My husband was tighter, but in the first years he relaxed and we are both happy in sex, I would not replace him with another, it is insane to have dirty sex, to close your eyes to the rest of the world and forget shame and age. I wish this to each of you! Great sex also helps the train of our life together to go straight, without unnecessary turns, to feel good there, the whole family and to wish each other again and again. I want once, the next time - he, we have sex and we want more. Because we are exposed to each other and each in the name of the other overcomes his shame or insecurity about some things in sex. Think about it!