No, you don't hold her ...
Men mature and women wither.
A man in his 50s can look good and be sexy.
There is no sexy woman in her 50s.
M49
Everything is individual. If your husband falls for such girls, he will sleep with them. And he will develop theories that he loves you, but he is a man and that is why he needs sex with them.
Such a girl usually has serious daddy issues. I'm not saying they don't like money. Everyone likes money. But what draws them to your husband is qualities that their fathers do not have, the attitude that they did not receive from their fathers, but could possibly receive from your husband. And in most cases this is subconscious.
I'm a woman of 30 and I'm not attracted to adults at all. I only like my peers. While I have a girlfriend who likes uncles. She has daddy issues and she even told me that she was always sick of her father being weak.
No matter how much men or women are cared for or loved, if they do not have the morality not to cheat, they will most likely cheat. This does not mean, of course, that we should not show love and attention to our partner, but if the person you are with is not moral, no matter how much you care for and love him, nothing will change.
Much depends on the man.
It is often a man who chose the most beautiful woman according to him and was madly in love as a young man, after a few years a crisis begins, he realizes that he is getting older and needs to feed his aging ego and prove that he is still on the love front and for this purpose he finds himself with 20-25 ladies, whose philosophy of life is - "I fall in love with mature men. Those my age do not know what to do" (and do not pay the bill)
As for the guarantee that it is only yours - you know him best, but keep one thing in mind - he is still a man and if he is given the opportunity with a young juicy secretary or intern - rarely a man would miss her.
Not all men would cheat just because we are cared for. Sometimes a man only wants sex with a young girl and that has nothing to do with care. In fact, there is hardly a man who does not want sex with another woman, the question is how strong his restraints are.
For example, I also have a happy marriage and I don't complain about anything in it, but the only reason I don't cheat on a young woman is that it will probably affect my marriage in some way, not that I don't want to. If I am sure that my wife will not understand and will not affect my marriage, I would certainly do so, if I have this opportunity, as long as I like the woman, of course.
In the crisis of middle age, men desperately try to keep their youth and to confirm their self-esteem that young girls are still looking at them and thus deviate from the right path. Of course, there are exceptions, and I sincerely wish your husband was one of those exceptions. But even if it isn't, it's normal and has nothing to do with you as a person.
"... But I don't understand what they're hoping for ..."
They are hoping for some other gift, a vacation in some nice place ... and in return the legs will just open. Don't worry, most don't want to get involved and "steal" men over 50, even if most of the muffins are ashamed to show off with their adult sponsors, just making a profit, that's what they want.
It's hard for me to imagine a man in his 50s who has a chance to sleep with a young woman and not do it.
This "background" must have existed around him for many years ... :) My father has always been something like what you describe for your husband, an extremely representative man, but he was born for my mother, period. And their marriage was far from smooth ... My brother and I seem to be like him - there are no other women for us. It's not a matter of will - we're just like that. There are easy-going men, but we're just not tempted. Probably due to a special gift from Above.
I hope this calms you down a bit.
(A man, and just at that age. :))
Of course not. You think like a woman, not a man. He would gladly knock a young lamb unless he was a moralist. The young is young, the body is like a baby, the skin, the sensations. I don't know a man who wouldn't eat a young roe deer.
Hello. I'm a 21, perfect looking, and I'm not saying that. I have received offers from men, from your rug. Even known for a seemingly ideal wife and children. Well, a strong card as far as you are the official halves. Young women, we are always the favorites. It hurts, I know, it would hurt me too, and I've thought about it. I personally have not come to action with such men, but it is common. I have no logical mental explanation, because I will grow old, I guess the same thing awaits me. We just live in such a world, I doubt your husband cheated on you. The sweethearts are playful and hide well, but no matter how well a woman takes care of a man, age means routine, it just fits. Think about it, when you write here, you feel something. I'm not saying she'll leave you for 20 years, but be ready to close your eyes if you want to keep your marriage. Success!
I'm a girl of 21. I really don't understand how it's possible for girls who are roughly my age to run into married gentlemen the age of their fathers, even older! Here I am in the specified age range, but I really do not understand what they are looking for and with what intelligence you will imagine that you will push yourself into twenty years of marriage with the idea to displace the mother of a man's children, who has been his partner for a quarter of a century. !! Whatever! Congratulations ma'am! For valuable young people, your story is a real inspiration. It's nice to read a person and a positive story about diversity.
This thing comes from a defect in the female mentality to want something more than what she has. This defect is described in the first pages of the Bible. In this case, the girls see the money and social position of your husband and him as a means to get them and fall into a state of enchantment and greedy visions of how they get all this ready (a woman's wet dream - to get a position and material goods ready, effortlessly, only with my genitals and making nice eyes :-)) About the strong card, I can not say because I do not know your husband and his way of thinking, character, weaknesses and strengths.
What card do you have which man will drop a chick at 25?
You or something else is holding us back. I'm 30 and a little. I look at 50 and plus men. And the combination of the stable with power and money makes me a predator. You and aunts like you take care of your husbands again and hope that this will be enough for them, but think about how your husband's ego caresses this woman with 20 years younger than him to prove to him that he is still good.
I remember a dialogue between *** and **** from the citizens of London, in which she says that 20-year-olds cannot give what 50-year-olds can, and he said that 50-year-olds cannot give what 20-year-olds give. I don't think you have any strong card, because the only strong card is your husband's money in this situation, rather rely on his conscience
Wow, I'm not on the topic very, very much, but let me tell you. Ma'am, the VI card is as strong as the VI card of the VI man. Therefore, the experts here do not philosophize very, very much that the woman is almost old. I am personally a woman in my thirties and I notice more and more sets with fifty-year-old women. it is a matter of firmness and principles not to take advantage.
I am a girl of 22. In my opinion, whether a man will cheat to the greatest extent depends on his values, the relationship with his partner is also a very important factor. As for the girls / women who "push" older men with families - it's disgusting to me. And let's not forget that they will also turn 50 one day and if there is no content under the package, very bad for them.
To be 30 as number 17 yes, but at 22 with an uncle at 50 is a pity, a child with an uncle.
Ma'am, there are men who would not sleep with such a girl because they have a daughter of that age, but most are a commodity.
You ask, “What are they hoping for? - You know very well what.
Hey, number one, you're a big idiot, man ... you'll forgive, but it's true. There are such women in their 50s ... that your chin may hang with admiration ... and you can't believe that this is their real age. A huge percentage of the men I meet on the streets, at 30, are already belly, with balding hair .. and at 50 what will be sexy to such, I do not understand .. just men have inhuman self-esteem, often without reason. I recently turned 26 and it may seem strange to you, but no matter how rich and powerful a man of 50 is, he would never attract me, because I have morals, and I can't imagine a man my father's age touching me. And how do you go to bed with so many younger women and then hug your daughters ?? Shame on you.
There is no man under and over 50 who, if he falls, will not take advantage of a young and beautiful woman, who is under pressure. And if someone resists and / or does not have the courage, he is a man under a slipper or a pedal!
So don't think of it: even if you fight on your head, it can still cheat on you. What so, one sex!
Caring has nothing to do with sexual desire. After all, he is not a baby to ask for care, he is a man with sexual needs and a variety that only a woman can not provide. Sex with a 50-year-old is one thing, a 20-year-old is another. Both have advantages.
The question is about moral values. It is neither to a lack of desire (in practice, there can be no lack of sexual desire except with certain exceptions), nor to care. If he has the opportunity to do it and if morality allows him, no matter how much you take care of him, that's it.
19, abe and she can catch a young lover, but that still does not mean that her husband will be faithful to her.
22, I'm not number 1, but it's a matter of taste. For example, I don't like 50-year-olds and so far I haven't liked a 50-year-old in 32 years.
My point is to talk about yourself and that you like them, not in general.
Madam! My opinion is quite different from the prevailing ones on the topic. I am 47 years old myself. My husband is 10 years younger. On top of that, he is a handsome man. Unlike you, I am completely calm. First, because our sex lives are varied and completely satisfying for both of us. Secondly, because I have turned our home into a place where he can rest, relax, feel a pleasant and calm atmosphere, be surrounded by aesthetics and attention. Third, because there are no taboo topics between us. We talk quite frankly about the most intimate things. Like any potential man, of course, he also looks at beautiful women, he has fantasies about them, we joke about it, etc. But what impresses me is that these women are not necessarily young. . On the contrary - in most cases he is impressed by ladies who are aware of their femininity and radiate intelligence and self-confidence. He himself has a 15-year-old daughter from his first marriage and claims that he simply sees in the young girls the children of another father, ie they do not provoke anything erotic in him. I've heard him advise his daughter to watch how I dress, how I put on my make-up, what vocabulary I use, what my manners are and my overall behavior, because "yes, my girl," she says, "must look like a real lady." Now! Someone will probably say that my husband just has a fetish for older women. No, it's not like that. What excites him in his partner is somewhere in the middle - between her appearance and her personality. With an ugly and smart woman he would hardly lie down, but with a beautiful empty-headed doll - absurd! He was attacked by such girls and I was even uncomfortable listening to the words he used to put them in their place. And the last thing that is good to realize, author, to be completely calm, is that men are inherently terribly lazy creatures. They hate change. Do you know what a tragedy happens when you replace his old slippers with new ones? It's the same with your spouse. If a woman arranges him as a wife, mistress, mother of his children, housewife, friend, interlocutor and comrade in common hobbies and entertainments, he will not replace her with another out of pure laziness. According to my observations, men start to look away seriously when they have irritants at home - they do not feel respected, loved, understood, appreciated. My husband divorced a woman younger than me, and his exact words were, "I didn't leave her either because she was stupid, or because she was lazy, or because she was neglected, or because our house looked like a pigsty - even though it was all there. "I divorced her because she didn't respect me."
My respects to the author and number 27, there is something true in the words of both of you. 27 is right that men are terribly lazy and with a big ego (ie they want to be respected). On the other hand, I'm a little over 30 and I see that men are showing a lot more interest in me now than when I was 20. I wouldn't say I look better or worse now, I just gained more life experience, self-confidence, I have developed in my profession. It immediately became clear to them that I would not be interested in cheap performances. Interestingly, men about 45-50 years old, married, have been hanging around me a lot in the hope that their financial status will impress me. I have a wonderful partner, and I'm not attracted to men with whom I have such a big age difference, but still they try ... And even without showing interest, they immediately start with the fact that they would never leave their wife , but I'm so smart and beautiful, and I've impressed them so much ... :))) The last such gentleman who tried to get me into his bed had a wife with whom we have only 1 year difference in age, t It was hardly simply because he wanted a younger lamb. But, again, according to my observations, in order for a married man to decide to look for something, it is very likely that he is missing something in the marriage - whether the mentioned from 27 respect, whether something more specific in sexual aspect, or just a delicious meal at home. . :) I'm far from thinking that there are no men who are just looking for another doll to flatter their ego. On the contrary, there are many, but even by the age of 50 they should have settled down. :) And yet, no matter what happens, a woman should not be afraid of separation and all her actions should not be dictated by protecting herself from such.
I am 20 years old and my father is 47 years old. When I see a 50-year-old man who is successful, I can always admire his deeds, but not feel sexually attracted to him. Don't get me wrong, if this man looks good, I have eyes and I know he looks good, but I just wouldn't sleep with him, I can't accept him as a sexual object, especially considering the fact that he's married and has children. my years. It does not seem to me that a normal mature man should go with a girl (for him it should be a girl, not a woman), at the age of his daughter or younger. If everything is fine with your marriage and your husband is as wonderful and stable as you describe him, then you have nothing to worry about.
I have seen similar stories about my girlfriends. Some men are more susceptible than others. I think it's a matter of morality, upbringing and worldview. Some 20-year-olds are more dangerous to marriages than others, but if a person does not want to commit adultery, he will not do so. However, the person with the relationship / marriage is cheating, the lover is only an accomplice. You know your husband, so everything is fine. Don't worry too much, I think that at your age you have a lot more to offer than me or another 20-year-old. I have a body that has not given birth, I have some household skills, but I really do not believe that with my experience I can meet all the needs of a mature and successful man my father's age. I say this because I am sure that I will have to travel a long way until I acquire the qualities of my mother, for example.
Most likely, your husband will not replace the old comfortable slippers with new ones, author, if you understand me. But that doesn't stop him from running barefoot on the beach.
And don't be afraid of women under 30 - stretch them at most once or twice. Be afraid of those over 30 and about 40 - they are dangerous. They know how to play with a man, set him on fire, attract and detain him. If the man is worth the effort, of course.
Honestly, I never understood what the hell young girls see in men over 30-35 maximum. It is clear to the uncles in question what they want. There is nothing else they can find with such a big difference in age, because no matter how wise a person is or how he imagines he is 20, and no matter how much another 50 wants to believe that he has a youthful spirit like as a teenager, I still think that their point of contact will not be very big. But as a 23-year-old girl, it has never occurred to me to have anything in common, outside of any friendly relations, with someone over 30.
And, author, don't you think that you focus too much on your husband's thoughts and desires. In a couple, a family in this case, both should take care of each other equally. No matter how much you tease him, if he is the typical dispersal uncle, driven by a crisis of middle age, and runs like an unseen after girls who may be the age of your children, if you have any - it is a lost cause. He is a lost cause. So I don't think he thinks that much.
Number one is a lot of fun. The fact is that women lose something very valuable after a certain age, we all know what. But let's not forget that men do not get along without consequences ... A woman, at any age, can always, if she wants. A man, on the other hand, may always want to, but after a certain age, it is not certain how much he can ...
I do not understand the reason for the author's post. If someone decides to cheat, no preventive measures will help. Eat Pray and Love!
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