Hi, I'd like to share a hard story. I was in a relationship with a boy for nine months. We lived together for five months and we were inseparable he was everything to me as I did for him, but I had to go back home because his parents moved to live with him, coming from another country. When that happened, he changed and started talking to me about how he didn't want to hurt me, and it would be better if we split up because his mother would one day want him to have a woman she chose, from their Muslim religion. My heart broke, too much fear I felt we wouldn't be together all the time, and that came from above. I felt hatred for this man from within because I loved him too much. He started to treat me with back, we went to work every day, but he wasn't the same, had suddenly forgotten how close we were and how we couldn't do two hours without each other. I needed some comfort. Unfortunately, this consolation was found in his best friend who was by my side during that time, but he took on the fact that he fell in love with me and we started spending a lot of time together, kind of like boyfriends. A month later, two of my friends found out about it and accepted it as infidelity, as a substitution as a mockery of him, as if he hadn't made fun of me enough, so he was brazen enough to push it on me. Of course, I felt very guilty. Weeks in a row, he was sick and just talking about his pain, from me. Somehow he found the strength to forgive me because he said he couldn't do it without me. I had my wounds healed and I was just looking for the best and how to get back what we had. He became very erratic, one day he treated me like I was everything to him and he'd do anything, the next day it was full of ice. I've suffered a lot because of that fact, but I thought it was something we're going through and everything would be fine if we both tried. My birthday was coming up and he was explaining to me how he had a great plan that I would love so much, but it's a surprise. A few days before his birthday, he broke up with me and told me he hadn't waited for the right moment to avenge his pain and sent me a picture of his best friend - who must also be told he had betrayed him if I was too, but he decided to stick a knife in my back. :) :(
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personaltrainerdave answered · June 15, 2020
How old are you, girl?
Not all men are badass, but you're too young to realize it. Next time, get to know the man before you live with him.
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zhalekal27 answered · June 15, 2020
No, men aren't jerks. You've been extremely mean in seeking solace in his closest friend, what if he'd done this to you? And what kind of hatred for his mother? She's more important than you right now. I can't understand you. He didn't stab you in the back, so did you, your friend. Yes, it sucks that he didn't fight his parents for you, I really think he's done bad here, but what kind of family life do you imagine if you're not on good terms with his parents? In the end, stop roaring, he showed you how much he really cares about you, he moved on with his head proudly raised.
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koketochka555 answered · June 15, 2020
I'd be mad at my friend, but you got your own guilt. Dying of love for someone, and finally starting something like a relationship with their closest friend... Men aren't badass, your ex may be mischievous and vindictive, but this common denominator insults me, and I'm a woman.
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prettypetite1 answered · June 16, 2020
''We lived together for five months and we were inseparable he was everything to me like I did to him'.
And then they want solace and support, well, it can't be with moronic themes like these. Here's a solution to your problem in steps:
1 - Stop walking junk and find a real man
2 - Stop being so naïve, 9 months is nothing
3 - Stop blaming others for your mistakes, you knew he was a Muslim, what, you didn't expect anything? There are so many decent men, and you get caught up in the biggest scumbags, you're guilty. Do you like to be used or what? I'm glad he dumped you just before your birthday, that's worth it.
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midnightblayze answered · June 16, 2020
The whole story is a total shock. I didn't know exactly what the case was. You lived with him and you had to move out because there was no place. Did that mean you broke up or not? If you haven't broken up, why did you sleep with his best friend? If you've broken up, why are you even thinking about this - some other person trying to burden you with his own care?
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hansyscwanzy answered · June 16, 2020
Don't insult all the men, it's nobody's fault of being frivolous and you're down to a Muslim! What did you expect to be accepted into their society? Get mad at yourself, and start thinking!
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perfectbutterfly2 answered · June 17, 2020
He's a psychopath.
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_sexy__girl__69_ answered · June 18, 2020
First, who did you go back to? Mom wouldn't give him, I don't know what, his best friend... turkish sedal.
You stop writing to him if he has to change jobs and you don't see him, and you're going to save someone who values you and knows what he wants.
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szoszon1233 answered · June 19, 2020
What do you expect from a "man" who doesn't have his own opinion, or if he doesn't care about it? His mother was going to pick his husband... I'm sorry about the expression, but that's the truth. If he really loved you, he'd act like a man and hold on to you! And it turns out he's a jerk who's under his mother's forehead. Get him out of here. He doesn't deserve you.
And on top of that, cheeky. He wants you to break up, but then why were you with someone else... Total failure as a man.
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scarlettannxxx answered · June 20, 2020
What are we to blame for some Arab mother deciding who to marry and he's a voiceless letter? Mind your own business and don't blame us. You're not going to find a nice guy with that approach.
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pleasurelovecpl answered · June 20, 2020
But I've never seen any of these "men" defend women on articles or anywhere. Thanks for the last comment because you understood what I meant! I'm not saying I didn't do the wrong thing, but when a guy tells me I can't marry you, don't wait for me, then what right does he have to accuse me of doing what I want? I'm not saying I did the right thing about my relationship with him, I know it's wrong, but after he told me, "don't wait for me, I don't know what you're going to do against me." And it's not about Turks, because I'm Turkish, but my parents are not Muslims, it's a crazy obsession that he should be with a woman his mother has chosen, I don't know what you don't understand all the time. Well, that's what the Bulgarians will be, unfortunately, we're talking before we read! too bad!
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melanieemme answered · June 20, 2020
Allo Vratsa... You betrayed the man and humiliated him, you listened to everything. As for his friend, calm down and his turn will come. They're all victims, and they're never guilty. The men were jerks... I feel sorry for you.