Hi I had a friend a few years ago who I loved very much. He's still the man I shed a lot of tears for. We lived together, at least we tried. He was 30 at the time. Me, 27. I knew he was living, women, parties, alcohol, friends. He had everything. I couldn't please him. I worked, it was always clean, tidy. His clothes were washed and arranged. I was cooking for him. Normal things, but he was always picking on something. I always found time to be comfortable. It was like I was the underdog in his eyes. I didn't have any friends or backgrounds at the time. But now things are different. I feel more mature and strong. I'm sorry we broke up badly. It was his fault, and I couldn't forgive him. He was already with another woman, and I hadn't packed yet. Call me at the Christmas holidays. He wanted to see me. I saw you. Give me a compliment on your appearance. He was surprised at how advanced I was in my career. He was asking me personal stuff from the very beginning of the evening. Where I live, what I work, if I have a boyfriend. He told me he broke up with that woman. Now he lives abroad. It works because he has loans to pay back. I'm being good. It was the first time we had a normal conversation. He was very tense. I don't know why. He didn't tell her specifically why she wanted to see me. I don't know what to think. Since you left, you've written me a line. I don't want to write to him because I remember how he treated me. I expected him to at least admit he was wrong. But you didn't. Now I don't know what to think about him.
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lavendarskies answered · June 12, 2020
You saw him because he's alone now, and he doesn't want to be. There's no good intentions. He's just left homeless, and he's wondering where to get stuck. How did you ever agree to meet?
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graape22 answered · June 12, 2020
Don't think about it at all and don't make the mistake of getting back together! You say you've changed for the better, and now you have to show him that besides everything, you're smart and you realize it's time for you to find a better one than your ex!
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delta_of_penis answered · June 12, 2020
Women still don't realize you have to stay away from your exes. Once you've split up with someone, you don't need it anymore.
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sweetphoenix07 answered · June 12, 2020
Don't humiliate yourself to look for him and wait for him, he's hurt you, and he hasn't even told you he's sorry... Moreover, living abroad, there is no point going back, stepping back and looking only forward. Of course, you can make the mistake of showing him that you're still in his hands, and if he wants to, he'il get you, as a convenience always available for him no matter what he does.. But you'il regret it.
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mikemack091 answered · June 12, 2020
He probably wanted to smooth your relationship because he felt guilty. He felt mental discomfort. Don't take it as an offer, I think it would be a mistake. Or at least don't do anything about it. If he keeps going, I think you should say no.
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chat_together answered · June 12, 2020
I feel like most women are at the dog level - and to beat him, he loves you more and more.
we, normal men, know how to manipulate women, but we don't.
you women, run like crazy goats after the one who treats you the worst.
what advice do you expect to receive? two lies to you and you're ready.
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tendre_agressive answered · June 13, 2020
Offf, number six, I love them like "normal" men who put all women under a common denominator and take them all out because they don't tie them up. I've met a few of them, and once they don't get theirs through their "great kindness and goodness" start such circuses that I've grabbed my head. I prefer whores, honestly. And like women, why are the "decent ones" always crying that you've done everything for someone, and she didn't appreciate it, and ended up going to have breakfast with someone else's banana? Doesn't that mean you're the same?
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mollysoulful answered · June 13, 2020
To the author. He's left alone, he's in debt, and now he wants to take advantage of your care again. I know how hard it is when you love someone, but they won't appreciate you if you act like their doormat. If I were you, I wouldn't look for him, and I wouldn't do him any more favors. If you have any use for it, fine, but listening to you, it breaks your heart again.
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zinzanrossi answered · June 13, 2020
Relive back together, and in just a few weeks it will become what it used to be.
Don't waste your time and your nerves because guys like him don't change.
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gwendydy answered · June 14, 2020
If you've dealt with your exes, it didn't happen to you, you found a normal man, you can't try a few other women, and then come back like nothing was, you should never be forgiven for cheating, betrayal and taunting... it's self-humiliation and self-destruction
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kristallmii0 answered · June 14, 2020
Dear women, don't believe the words of your exes if they want you. He didn't wake up suddenly one morning and realized what kind of woman he had, but he lost. The truth is, if his life were okay, he wouldn't have come looking for you at all. That's it. He's on his own, looking for an outlet. Maybe the other one didn't put up with it, maybe she didn't spoil him like that, and his numbers didn't go over there. That's why he thought of you, which you just put up with. In his eyes, you'd take it again because you've put up with it. Don't do it for you, you do it for yourself. Demek, you still love him and you've forgiven him. He knows it's humiliating for him, but for you. The dumped man is like that, looking for adoration in the eyes of his exes to make him feel better. He knows it's humiliating for him, but he needs female attention.
The next time he looks at you, just tell him you enjoyed seeing him, but you have a job and you can't give him any more attention. Cut it every time, if you have to. Don't be a surrogate for another woman. There's no point in dealing with a man who's drained emotionally and every way. Your time is over.