I'm a 19-year-old girl. I've been in a relationship with someone for two years, who I love more than anything on this planet, and I'm very happy. But unfortunately, here are the problems. We had separated for a short period of time, and then rumors broke out that I had cheated on him, and therefore these rumors reached his friends and they gave him something, like an ultimatum, if he would come together with me to forget about them. Of course, such a thing, as infidelity on my part, there is no, and my boy trusts me. We talked to him, we got better, but now we have to until we decide what to do with his "friends" to hide our relationship because I'm of the opinion that no one should be left without friends. It's clear they're doing it for his own good, but don't you think it's too much? He doesn't have a lot of friends, only about three-four, and if he loses them, he's left with absolutely no male company (and he's generally hard to make friends with), which is not good, because only with me hanging doesn't work, he needs to have fun with the boys anyway, like any man. I'm asking you to advise me on what to do. In fact, the situation is much more complicated and there are other details, but I explain to you briefly, so as not to become exhaustive. We have to see the boys in question every day, which makes things even worse. We really don't know what to do, and it weighs on me like that. I feel bad that I can't have a full relationship right now, and I feel bad that my boyfriend is torn between the two sides. The only thing that comes to mind at this point is to try to create a better impression of me in front of his friends, which I suppose will help a little or a lot to think of me as a k*rv. I've always been level, but there's probably something to touch. I'd love to hear your advice. I hope all evil is for the good of us and to our situation...
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remibliss answered · June 02, 2020
Rather, go directly to his friends and talk to them decisively. Say you're pure and simple and loyal to him and you haven't done anything to anyone else. It's not to sound like a begging understanding, but a firm and honest one. Tell them that their friend and you trust each other, and he knows you didn't do anything, and they put him in a very awkward situation, supposedly for his own good. Remind them that they cite rumors, and only people who were there know what happened and what didn't, and you're the only one of them. Say that your friend and I love each other, and no one has done anything wrong about it, and trying to separate him from you, they cost him a woman who loves him and who is loyal to him and wants to be with him, all things good for their friend. Don't ask for their opinions, don't argue with them. Tell them how it is and that you don't appreciate it highly, that they parrot rumors and try to be the reason their friend is unhappy and separated from the man who loves and loves him.
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fatmagul_j answered · June 02, 2020
I don't understand what's wrong with his friends' business with who he's having to choose??? No one's ever come to me to give me ultimatums. Where are they going to spread any rumors and tell him who's his girlfriend? I really don't get what they're giving.
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tufelka_punta answered · June 02, 2020
Contrary to the first comment, I would advise you not to explain yourself to these fools at all. Explain to your man that these are not his friends at all! If he's a man in place, he won't hide your relationship. And he won't care about other people's opinions. New friends will find out what you're going to think about his comfort. Watch yours. Taman, now you're going to find out if your guy is or not. If he chooses them, get him out of here right now and find a good guy. Success!
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sexybrooke1234 answered · June 02, 2020
So, what kind of friends are these guys? Get away from them while it's time. These people want the bad.
Some people and I have been friends for over 30years now, they would never say such a thing about my wife unless they had evidence and I have no doubt. That is, if I haven't raised the issue, they won't interfere with my personal life. It's a bit of a scale here, whether they tell me or let me live a lie, but without evidence, it's rude.
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thermalsis answered · June 02, 2020
What are these friends who roughly interfere with your personal life and put ultimatums? I've done stupid things on a personal level, and my friends haven't always approved, and they've said their opinions directly, but they've never allowed themselves to set conditions for me. Nor have I interfered in such a rude way in their relationships and in their lives as a whole. Your friend has a head on his shoulders, he can tell you if you're important to him and if he's happy with you. And whether it's worth keeping such friendships. Friends can also be toxic, selfish and harmful.
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jessy_paradise answered · June 02, 2020
By the author;
Thank you all for your opinions. I'm aware that these aren't real friends and he's naïve, but there's nothing I can do. He stopped texting me all of a sudden, he stopped calling... but still interested in me (why and how I will not go into detail). I guess he doesn't know what he wants, and it's ruining me. I don't want to be in this condition, but alas, I got to the hospital. My stress is too much. I feel like everything's collapsed.