I read, read, and i always write, and there's talk of marital duties, and it makes me such a crooked... How long have you been intimate with your loved one? That if after marriage you make love on an obligation, on schedule, because it should, or possibly just to have a child, then you better not get married! I thought it was something intimate, personal, an expression of love and trust, and that was an obligation! I'm a little bit in my job, and I'm in bed! If I can't relax there and feel happy, I don't know. But apparently some people don't bond for love, but my account and then, of course, making love becomes an annoying obligation that they try to push in a hurry to account for because they are annoying or even repulsive. Horror! And then there were cheats, dramas, broken families, hundreds of themes of unsatisfied people of both sexes, themes "I caught mine with another", "my wife has a lover" etc. And why are you even together? Because of the kids, the dog, the mortgage, the business, the real estate... but not because you truly love and hold each other. I've even heard of people doing it on schedule! Just like in offices, shift schedules are made, but the same system people make a schedule when to make love and when they don't... Wow! And at the same time, they claim to be happy and love themselves? I do not know, do I do not understand something, explain, please! However, for me to sleep with someone on schedule or on duty, it seems disgusting to me, and if one day I get there, well, it's better to part with my husband about having sex on a Wednesday or postpone it for Friday, because on Wednesday he has other plans for the evening. It also remains a table to draw and hang it on the refrigerator, so that you know who plans to make, so as not to confuse the schedule! Finally, we are very proud to say that this month we have fulfilled the OBLIGATIONS according to the schedule and have had sex exactly the number of times. Oh, oh! What do you think? Is it normal for something so personal to turn it into an OBLIGATION?
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meatpackingbubba answered · June 13, 2020
it's a personal obligation, otherwise everyone finds another and you're in an open relationship or you're separating
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faaduaa answered · June 13, 2020
You know, the sea always looks knee-deep before you get serious about it...
If life were as simple as you imagine - IF-THEN-ELSE, as you imagine it, we'd be robots or computers, not humans.
Live another 10 or 20 years and you'il see what it is.
Of course, if you choose not to have a partner, because "if you're one- what you are, then you better not get married," you'll never understand these things, and you'll continue to wonder until you're old.
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bost8 answered · June 13, 2020
We're not married to mine, and we're not married if, for some reason, someone's got to pick up their pears and who's where it's from.
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yourdirtysecrettt answered · June 13, 2020
Come back after the kids.
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evelyn_213 answered · June 13, 2020
They and the lovers are on schedule. It's not a bad thing to schedule your commitments at all.
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sammrocker answered · June 13, 2020
Well, you're not married, maybe?
People get tired, some aren't very sexual, passion diminishes...
And I proposed to my husband one day, he said no, he came to him a lot every day, and I offered to make a schedule something, but we're not. Otherwise, it's not his initiative...
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drakexoxo answered · June 14, 2020
Well, not every obligation should be unpleasant. I have another perspective on so-called "marital duties." I think they forget and neglect their mates because they take them for granted and don't feel responsible for them and their happiness. It is this "i don't have to" attitude that is ruining the relationship. My opinion is that when you commit to one person, you become responsible for it. For me, for example, sex is such a responsibility. I can't imagine i'm going to say no to my soul mate all the time because I'm not happy and he wants to. It's just not right. Sometimes you do it just for him. And honestly, it doesn't weigh on me, it's nice to meet you. Because I know he's counting on me. I expect this attitude to come back to me. Otherwise, what kind of relationship are we talking about?
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thippy69 answered · June 14, 2020
A woman who does not have a husband can not understand something quite natural about husbands.
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nice_angel answered · June 15, 2020
Well, when the kids show up, things can't happen when you want it. And if there is no schedule or some time released specifically for this (understand without the presence of children, which is difficult to provide without outside help), nothing will happen.
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deasstonish answered · June 15, 2020
Number 2, I'm over 30, I've got a few long connections, including... and a failed marriage that lasted over 10 years, and I still never let things get there. To me, it's murderous! And maybe that's why I preferred divorce to such a life. And that's why I wonder why people let life give them a turn into this?!
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blacknwhitehott answered · June 16, 2020
At last, someone write something meaningful on this site. And I'm all about how men wanted sex from their wives every day, and if women were pulling, men would start threatening them and all that. In the 20 free minutes, a woman had to have sex and I don't want to, i won't. And he shakes his legs all day, and he doesn't even help. And that attitude is to your own wife, who is the mother of your children, who you supposedly love. What's coming out? That men get married to have a maid and a sex robot, and you see, because he's too sorry to marry you, you have to fulfill 1,001 desires in sex every day and be submissive, and that was an obligation. What are your duties, mister, to shake your legs and fart on the couch? I don't understand the women who tolerate this. And for sex on schedule, I don't know anyone doing one, but for example, if you plan for the holidays, when you can leave the grandparents' kids and you're not at work, I think it's ok. Or plan for someone less busy a week, too. But forcing your wife/husband, because it was an obligation, i'd break his mouth.
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chrisdiamond97 answered · June 16, 2020
Ha ha marital obligations
This word is used for a whole other thing, and in combination with intimacy is used as a joke. And you author you're hooked on this joke and you're crucifying locums.
Marriage as such gives rights that you can call obligations. You look pretty young, and I'm going to compare you to the students because it seems closer to you. Just as on the last page of the student notebook there are written rights and obligations of the student. And as you can accept, it says, for example, that the student has the right to go to school regularly, and that he also has an obligation to go to school regularly. I hope you understand that rights and obligations are blurred because they are obligations, but they are for the benefit of yourself and are also your rights.
So it is with marriage rights and obligations, by signing a marriage you agree to have intimate contacts with this person, it is obtained so that it is your right and obligation, as is your husband's right and obligation, because you are equal.
Equality between spouses is provided for in the Constitution of the Republic of Bulgaria in Art. 46
(1) Marriage is a voluntary union between a man and a woman. Only civil marriage is legal.
(2) Spouses shall have equal rights and obligations in marriage and family.
(3) The form of the marriage, the terms and conditions for its conclusion and termination, the personal and property relations between the spouses shall be governed by law.
From there on, you catch the Family Code and all its members and subparagraphs are your rights and obligations after the signing of a marriage, as are the rights and obligations of your husband of course.
However, by reading the entire bin, you will not find a single word of intimacy obligation. Your right to be intimate with your husband is implied by the very signing of marriage, and this nonsense of an obligation to live a regular intimate life with a husband is a joke that you've been hooked on and stretched out. The reality is that each spouse has the right to be intimate with his spouse, and whether his mate accepts this right as an obligation is a completely different matter. That is, when a person begins to accept his rights only as obligations, he has the right to request a divorce and to terminate the marriage. At any time after marriage, a person has the right to give up his rights and obligations from his marriage and to request a divorce.
Just as the law gave the student the right to give up their right to education after the age of 16, children have no obligation to educate themselves, they have only that right. After 16 years of age, each person has the right to choose his own duties and his rights come from his own choice.
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rocknrollhot answered · June 16, 2020
People who are used to living by force, by obligation, will not understand us. They think things are done because they should, not because they make a certain sense. They get married, and they have sex, because that's how it's accepted, and period. Because only stupid individuals are guided by similar rules throughout their lives, and in this country it is 90 percent of the population.
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boobies_big answered · June 17, 2020
Number 13 is watching things on the one hand. I help mine, I do a lot of chores at home, but she doesn't want to. Even if he's been lying there all day, he still doesn't want to. He's been digging into the net, looking at his recipes, napping and poo that I haven't had sex in four months. I'm tied up, I'm paying bills, doing assignments, and so on, why have sex? That's something you want to say? Yes, I know what it's going to be like, "talk to her." Hahaahhahaha! I've already played this game.
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tyfrex2 answered · June 17, 2020
Up to 18 out of 7
The answer to your question is in your own comment... "I'm tied up, I'm tied up, I'm paying bills, I'm doing assignments, and so on, why do you have sex?" Stop paying bills, do assignments, etc., and you'il see how quickly he'il know she's got a husband. You must be worried about the child, but trust me, this environment is not good for him, too.
That's what I was talking about in my comment. People take their halves for granted and not only forget, but also start not caring about their needs. That's why you have to be held accountable, that's why he has obligations. Mine if he stops having sex with me, on the left. I have no intention of getting married to stay dry. Besides, if he doesn't want to, I stop cooking, stop cleaning and maintain the house, and I go call the neighbor.
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mialuman answered · June 18, 2020
In this order of thoughts, why should a woman perform other family duties - to cook, clean, to let the washing machine ... For the man, what about ... Why should you be obliged to repair everything at home, maintain the car, give money ("the more ..."), to do everything heavy that the woman is not able ... However, there are cases in which he must also perform intimate duties not quite at his will. Women, of course, there is no way to understand the difference in the possibility of doing it you and a man despite the lack of desire. When you "roll your finger" that this man is important to you, there's no problem "getting too sorry." In men, it can't just be about "pity." If he doesn't "come from the inside," it's not going to work. And when you screw up the moment, then you accuse him of not doing the job. But it doesn't always happen when you're the only one you want! Understand it!