Male Infidelity Without Feelings

   I don't think we can talk at all. Every such relationship is different. Who is how attractive is subjective. Usually men have a different taste, not to mention that in bed an objectively unattractive woman can be very good, not to mention that they may have common themes, interests and so on. And again I say - in every relationship is different, we can not summarize. You have nothing to lose, give one more, but the LAST chance for your marriage and ask yourself if you are happy in your marriage and if you yourself want to spend your life with this man - whether now he is cheating or not. Let infidelity be a cause for balance, but keep in mind that this is just a symptom, the real problems of your marriage are in your marriage, not in third parties. Don't believe stupid explanations of how the woman was looking for him, he didn't want to. It takes two, in your case three, for such a thing, because there is a reason in you for him to look elsewhere. If you want to save your marriage, you have to forgive 1st, make a complete analysis and balance, and change something in yourself, if you do not want everything to happen again in time. You can beat a mistress, but if you don't change your marriage, your life at all, it's only a matter of time before your husband breaks up again. You have the right to blame him, which you probably do, but it's not bad to ask him what he misses and what he wants to change in your marriage, in your relationship as a whole. Otherwise, there is no female and male infidelity, infidelity is infidelity and it is always a symptom that something is wrong in the relationship, especially that at least the infidel partner is not happy in his relationship. Success w30 because there is a reason in you for him to look elsewhere. If you want to save your marriage, you have to forgive 1st, make a complete analysis and balance, and change something in yourself, if you do not want everything to happen again in time. You can beat a mistress, but if you don't change your marriage, your life at all, it's only a matter of time before your husband breaks up again. You have the right to blame him, which you probably do, but it's not bad to ask him what he misses and what he wants to change in your marriage, in your relationship as a whole. Otherwise, there is no female and male infidelity, infidelity is infidelity and it is always a symptom that something is wrong in the relationship, especially that at least the infidel partner is not happy in his relationship. Success w30 because there is a reason in you for him to look elsewhere. If you want to save your marriage, you have to forgive 1st, make a complete analysis and balance, and change something in yourself, if you do not want everything to happen again in time. You can beat a mistress, but if you don't change your marriage, your life at all, it's only a matter of time before your husband breaks up again. You have the right to blame him, which you probably do, but it's not bad to ask him what he misses and what he wants to change in your marriage, in your relationship as a whole. Otherwise, there is no female and male infidelity, infidelity is infidelity and is always a symptom that something is wrong in the relationship, especially that at least the infidel partner is not happy in their relationship. Success w30 2nd to make a complete analysis and balance and 3rd to change something in yourself, if you do not want everything to happen again over time. You can beat a mistress, but if you don't change your marriage, your life at all, it's only a matter of time before your husband breaks up again. You have the right to blame him, which you probably do, but it's not bad to ask him what he misses and what he wants to change in your marriage, in your relationship as a whole. Otherwise, there is no female and male infidelity, infidelity is infidelity and it is always a symptom that something is wrong in the relationship, especially that at least the infidel partner is not happy in his relationship. Success w30 2nd to make a complete analysis and balance and 3rd to change something in yourself, if you do not want everything to happen again over time. You can beat a mistress, but if you don't change your marriage, your life at all, it's only a matter of time before your husband breaks up again. You have the right to blame him, which you probably do, but it's not bad to ask him what he misses and what he wants to change in your marriage, in your relationship as a whole. Otherwise, there is no female and male infidelity, infidelity is infidelity and it is always a symptom that something is wrong in the relationship, especially that at least the infidel partner is not happy in his relationship. Success w30 You have the right to blame him, which you probably do, but it's not bad to ask him what he misses and what he wants to change in your marriage, in your relationship as a whole. Otherwise, there is no female and male infidelity, infidelity is infidelity and it is always a symptom that something is wrong in the relationship, especially that at least the infidel partner is not happy in his relationship. Success w30 You have the right to blame him, which you probably do, but it's not bad to ask him what he misses and what he wants to change in your marriage, in your relationship as a whole. Otherwise, there is no female and male infidelity, infidelity is infidelity and it is always a symptom that something is wrong in the relationship, especially that at least the infidel partner is not happy in his relationship. Success w30

   "I can't imagine that you can allow such intimacy with a man who means nothing to you." You know that we men don't have to experience any intimacy to have sex. For us, sex is sex, feelings are feelings. We differentiate things. So it's very likely that he doesn't feel anything for her, but that he just lacked variety in sex. And why else would he beg you? If he didn't want to be with you, he would just leave you and eventually reunite with that one. Hardly just because of children, property and the like. He did act badly, but if there is a mistake, there is forgiveness. Once everyone deserves a second chance. I know you suck, but just one mistake doesn't make it worth ending a long love affair. It's hard to find such a suitable partner to be happy with. And even if you find it, you will probably go through a lot of disappointments. Give him a chance, but also give him an ultimatum not to repeat, if it happens again, you better end the relationship, because obviously it will not work out. However, there are no sinless people and at least the first time must be forgiven. It will be difficult for you to trust him at first, but if he is determined and realizes his mistake, he will be fine. If not, you can still break up.

   Number 1 I agree with much of your comment. BUT the author has ABSOLUTELY NO guilt for her husband's infidelity. Infidelity is related to shortcomings, but inside the infidel and there are 1000 different ways to compensate them. He just chose this option for him. If he had a problem, he could talk to her, share, change and if things don't work out, but lie to her and then she's guilty, come on, come on .... You talk like a woman who's cheated , they forgave her, and she built this way of thinking so that she would not be guilty of this act in front of her. Specifically for the author's question - Mila, don't blame yourself. When it comes to sex, there is always, if not feelings, then at least sympathy (and sympathy is interesting what it is :) Your husband probably wanted variety, and the lady in question may have swallowed a little, especially if he is beautiful. Men find it very difficult to leave and ruin their families because of another woman (unlike women -78% of divisions are initiated by them because of a relationship with another man). Talk to him well, ultimately ask him not to repeat it, to break off all relations with her and do not seek retribution - it can not be useful to you. The MAIN thing is to stay with yourself and find out if you love him, if you want to be together in the future, if you can REALLY forgive him and fight your ego, and if you are ready to change some things in your marriage. If you answer YES to all four, everything will remain in the past, will fade and will remain as a bad memory. You have the UNIQUE opportunity to be more satisfied in your relationship and to make your relationship closer and more cordial. Take it as a second chance for your marriage - the way you write speaks, that you are an intelligent woman and you will understand me. Turn what happened from a liability into an asset and as an opportunity to change problems that you have dragged on for years in your relationship. Be happy and do not think about what happened, but how to be happier with him (if you choose this option ... although once you have released the topic, then you have already decided to be with him) Kai-Ren

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   Honey, men can cheat without feelings, believe me. Another in the question that the woman's feelings will be hurt, even if her husband had no feelings for the woman he was with and just fucked her. I wouldn't forgive him if I were you. Since you are not sexually compatible, it is better not to be together than to be together and lie. Tell her, how is your intimate life? Do you have one at all? Maybe you haven't aroused him for a long time and he has decided to find some poop to poison him ..

   Kai Wren, and I agree with you, but in part. Your relationship cannot be in crisis and you say to yourself - Oh, I have no guilt, ie my behavior in marriage was correct and I will drive it through the millet as before. I say this as the second wife of a divorced man who was already with me at the end of his failed first marriage. Know that it all depends in one relationship on 50% of you and lie to yourself, imagining that someone else is disproportionately responsible for your relationship. A normal two-person relationship always means a 50 to 50 division of responsibilities. If my husband's first wife had changed, I agree with Kai Ren that men find it difficult to leave their family, but when a man is unhappy, he eventually separates. The line is very thin, and the moment one decides that life is too short, to squander it with the other, he will go one way or another and it is a kind of self-delusion to look for faults in third parties, because we will repeat our mistakes in our next relationships. The only way to save the author of her marriage is to change her behavior and especially to talk to her husband about his feelings, what she wants to change in their marriage and whether he was happy in it / what would make him happier. in marriage and what he wants to change /. Be honest with each other and your marriages will not fall apart. Such a thing as a generally unfaithful man because of h ... it does not exist. If everything is fine in a relationship, no one has the interest and desire to complicate their lives with parallel relationships and nonsense. Good luck to the Author and the smart one! because we will repeat our mistakes in our next relationships. The only way to save the author of her marriage is to change her behavior and especially to talk to her husband about his feelings, what she wants to change in their marriage and whether he was happy in it / what would make him happier. in marriage and what he wants to change /. Be honest with each other and your marriages will not fall apart. Such a thing as a generally unfaithful man because of h ... it does not exist. If everything is fine in a relationship, no one has the interest and desire to complicate their lives with parallel relationships and nonsense. Good luck to the Author and the smart one! because we will repeat our mistakes in our next relationships. The only way to save the author of her marriage is to change her behavior and especially to talk to her husband about his feelings, what she wants to change in their marriage and whether he was happy in it / what would make him happier. in marriage and what he wants to change /. Be honest with each other and your marriages will not fall apart. Such a thing as a generally unfaithful man because of h ... it does not exist. If everything is fine in a relationship, no one has the interest and desire to complicate their lives with parallel relationships and nonsense. Good luck to the Author and the smart one! what he wants to change in their marriage and whether he was happy in it / what would make him happier in the marriage and what he wants to change /. Be honest with each other and your marriages will not fall apart. Such a thing as a generally unfaithful man because of h ... it does not exist. If everything is fine in a relationship, no one has the interest and desire to complicate their lives with parallel relationships and nonsense. Good luck to the Author and the smart one! what he wants to change in their marriage and whether he was happy in it / what would make him happier in the marriage and what he wants to change /. Be honest with each other and your marriages will not fall apart. Such a thing as a generally unfaithful man because of h ... it does not exist. If everything is fine in a relationship, no one has the interest and desire to complicate their lives with parallel relationships and nonsense. Good luck to the Author and the smart one!

   5, oh, and how! Especially if the doll swallows and swallows and the priceless wife refuses ...

   Eh @ 1 - you swim in your own pool, you live in your family, you are happy, you scatter advice and .... you don't know how deep the sea is, which is behind the fence of your house. Believing in your own story is necessary and very self-inspiring, but it would be useful here when you use your abilities to help each other. And to wonder what a perfect mistress you were and how you are now God's chosen and untouchable wife - it makes no sense. With your attitude and advice - the woman should change / put on, almost an Indian mask and a crown of dinosaur teeth, maybe ?? / to change the atmosphere in the family and everything will become a song !! ?? I'm sorry, but this is a statement that has no value in this particular case. You think theoretically and idealistically, but people are different and couples / families are individual. Visit a family therapy once and you may be surprised how different the therapist's approach is when struggling to help a family in such a situation. I am a man and I asked myself these questions. Even the title of my address here was similar. And so I can boldly answer: Yes - we men, sometimes we do pork. And then we wonder to ourselves - how could I lose myself like that. And we are not looking for an answer after that. And to exchange fluids with someone older or younger - and it happens. And without feelings! Listen to it, understand it and realize it - we make such mistakes sometimes. Then we regret and explain ourselves, and very often we just throw out the event and the thoughts from the consciousness and point! Writer - if what is written here affects you and you feel your family like a cage and / or a cart pulled by both of you, then do not dwell on what it was and how you are the only and unique one so hurt, etc ..., but read what he repeats to you - that YOU are the ONLY one he loves !! Ask him to tell you again and feel it - it will be easier for you to pull the cart of life / like Belcho and Sivushka / Greetings from me and - do not go to extremes in this difficult moment. M44

   M44, I accept your criticism, but you swim in your own pool and also do not see the wide sea ... By change I did not mean the appearance. I am convinced that the author is more attractive about the 6 year older mistress purely physically, but there are few men who will go to have a parallel relationship because their wife is older, especially with an older woman. We all grow old, gain weight, lose weight, but we still stay together for 20-30-50 years! I meant a change in attitude towards the partner and a balance sheet for the marriage? in general, because no one can tell me that a marriage goes on when it comes to a parallel relationship, and no one can convince me that a man has been sleeping with another woman for months, maybe years, without any feeling and intimacy, especially when it's not about an 18-year-old model and for 1 night. Yes, I believe you, that men are pigs and 90% may be cheating on a random woman for 1 night if you have the opportunity, but only those who are not completely satisfied with their relationship are looking for a parallel relationship. I do not consider myself a mistress, because I appeared at the end of a marriage, when the two were practically separated, but he told me everything, he told me about his many parallel relationships and his efforts to somehow push his marriage because of obligations , debt. For men, this is sometimes more important than even love. With this Ace, the author may keep her husband ... temporarily, she will fight with 1 mistress until she finds out about another and a third, until one day the man separates, having fulfilled his duties at the age of 40-45. Now is the time for the author to take stock of herself and, above all, to decide whether this marriage is happy for her first and if so to fight for it, including changing and trying to really give everything to her husband, listening to him and mostly FORGIVING him, accepting his responsibility for what happened. Yes, men are pigs, maybe no one is insured against a sweet affair because you remain hunters, but if the mistress appears, the long and serious relationship, suggesting intimacy, friendship and trust, then something in the marriage is lame and or behavior changes. of both, or this marriage will not be in the long run. I say this not as a mistress, as I have practically never been, because the technically separated man is no longer married, but I say it as the wife of ten years of a faithful husband and father, my best friend,

   Hi G30, I don't know if my words to you were a criticism - but obviously for the readers it sounds like that, and it's not necessary! I turned to you because you express very clearly your thoughts arising from your experience in sexual relations. So what did I write to you about - according to you / maybe? / to tell someone the truth in the eyes requires courage and some of your own moral values. Right ?? And you are convinced that this is the most direct way to the goal. You know - you're wrong. In order for that to happen, the other party, in this case the woman who wrote about her problems and thoughts, must be subconsciously ready to follow your advice. And if she is not !! ?? Then he will either answer you - yes, yes or he will be angry at your inadequate proposal. Do you follow my thoughts and understand what I'm talking about? See specifically - she writes that the other "girl" was older and .... This is a sign that she is starting to compare herself with others and ... it becomes meaningless because her thoughts are going in an unhealthy direction. And this is not right. Specifically - many people who have touched the "Third in a relationship" self-medicate with the thesis - I AM more ... / beautiful or strong, or rich or .... / The fact is that sometimes the Third is really something different. Then we must look in the mirror and see that we ourselves are human beings, not perfect creations. And to find tenderness in our partner. Something went awry. So - there are cultures, social differences and characters. Here, through this form of communication, it is not possible to feel the nuances of the person who is on the other side of the screen. And here is the thing that I did not like in your speech - give it to the drowning belt, show it to the lost Mirage in the desert, and don't tell him how he is to blame for his situation !! The analyzes - leave them for the process after the end of this extreme situation. Harness your excellent journalistic skills in inspiring and charging others, not landing them on the ground with a blow right in their weakest place, disguised as "kind and well-meaning advice" Otherwise, I would add - rejoice in what you have achieved , your happiness now and in the future and - before you say or write something, carefully understand the question, what is written or the topic !! And don't theorize / don't stretch meaningless delicacies. Specifically - see how @ 3 human gives direction to address this crisis. Greetings M44 Harness your excellent journalistic skills in inspiring and charging others, not landing them on the ground with a blow right in their weakest place, disguised as "kind and well-meaning advice" Otherwise, I would add - rejoice in what you have achieved , your happiness now and in the future and - before you say or write something, carefully understand the question, what is written or the topic !! And don't theorize / don't stretch meaningless delicacies. Specifically - see how @ 3 human gives direction to address this crisis. Greetings M44 Harness your excellent journalistic skills in inspiring and charging others, not landing them on the ground with a blow right in their weakest place, disguised as "kind and well-meaning advice" Otherwise, I would add - rejoice in what you have achieved , your happiness now and in the future and - before you say or write something, carefully understand the question, what is written or the topic !! And don't theorize / don't stretch meaningless delicacies. Specifically - see how @ 3 human gives direction to address this crisis. Greetings M44 written or topic !! And don't theorize / don't stretch meaningless delicacies. Specifically - see how @ 3 human gives direction to address this crisis. Greetings M44 written or topic !! And don't theorize / don't stretch meaningless delicacies. Specifically - see how @ 3 human gives direction to address this crisis. Greetings M44

   I am the author. Thank you all from the bottom of my heart for your time on my issue. I have read your comments very carefully. I will answer each one individually as a sign of my respect for you. №1-the first thing I asked my husband was "Where did I go wrong ... where is the problem" His answer was - you have no guilt. I only liked and loved you. Just new ... and unknown. and regarding your words that the infidel is not happy in the relationship, I will tell you that many times I was not OK, but I did not punish him with infidelity. №2-I will definitely listen to your advice - I felt like a wise and intelligent person. Thank you ... №3-Kai Ren-your warm sympathy made me cry. I really needed your kind words of comfort. №4-I understand .... not that it hurts less .... №5Our sex is decent and regular. I am much more relaxed and liberated from it and I love diversity. He is conservative in sex - we are like that from boyfriends. №6Dear lady, if anyone wanted to run away from our marriage, it was definitely not him ... but me. On the contrary, he falls at my feet not to leave him and tells me that he will not give me a divorce in any way. №7-the mistress for better or worse has no vision of a doll .. and you are very, very far from the truth - the priceless wife refuses nothing, and paws, and swallows and not by force, but with pleasure. And with the mistress was a quick standard sex in our car. How do I know? She is arrogant enough and told me everything with cruel pleasure. №8-touched me, I think you understood well what I wrote. I appreciate your opinion and advice .... and most of all, that you are cavalierly defending me from some attacks ... №9Mear lady, the only thing you hit is, that I have repeatedly and with classes above the mistress-and more attractive, and .... let's not go on. Read from the side, it must be extremely ugly to point out your advantages over a woman who, even if only for a short time, was preferred to you. for information, there was no long relationship ... they were together 3 times in about 2 months .... and my husband ended the relationship. That's what SHE told me ... not him. It became fragmented. I answered at the first sign, without arranging my thoughts and without even reading what I was writing. But at least I answered each of you sincerely. Thank you once again for your empathy ... for the goodwill that came from your words. Greetings ... which, though briefly, has been preferred to you. for information, there was no long relationship ... they were together 3 times in about 2 months .... and my husband ended the relationship. That's what SHE told me ... not him. It became fragmented. I answered at the first sign, without arranging my thoughts and without even reading what I was writing. But at least I answered each of you sincerely. Thank you once again for your empathy ... for the goodwill that came from your words. Greetings ... which, though briefly, has been preferred to you. for information, there was no long relationship ... they were together 3 times in about 2 months .... and my husband ended the relationship. That's what SHE told me ... not him. It became fragmented. I answered at the first sign, without arranging my thoughts and without even reading what I was writing. But at least I answered each of you sincerely. Thank you once again for your empathy ... for the goodwill that came from your words. Greetings ... which emanated from your words. Greetings ... which emanated from your words. Greetings ...

   He loses nothing if you haven't caught him. If he is discovered, he knows that he will be forgiven. His excuses are also elementary.

   Author, you are terribly upset, but still give him a second chance. Basically, in most cases with a man, infidelity is just sex. This does not make her any less disgusting betrayal, but men are pigs and although we love one woman, we can sleep with others. He slipped, but if he's sorry, give him a second chance. It will be difficult, trust is ruined, but if he really regrets, forgive him, because it may take years and you regret that you did not give him the opportunity! If something like this happens again, then you can draw the line. In fact, author, you know the man best, and if he doesn't have the reputation of a whore in principle, he probably won't really do it again. There are men who are women and no matter how much they swear that there will be no such thing again, in time they will die again. Men cheat, but they are much more sorry for their actions. When a woman cheats, she rarely regrets, feelings are often involved, or she is just a shavrant who is used to being trampled left and right. Statistics show that 9 out of 10 marriages in which a man cheats can be saved and about half of such marriages survive. When a woman cheats, 9 out of 10 marriages are a lost cause. The reason is that in most cases, women are involved in feelings and there is no remorse. In addition, men find it harder to swallow the infidelity of their partners and are less likely to forgive such a thing. This is due to many things, including the fear of raising someone else's child, the fear that it will happen again (in fact, a woman who cheats once cheats again in most cases). Nothing hurts a man like the infidelity of his beloved. Historically, polygamy has always existed, but polyandry has not. Otherwise, I would say that a man decides on such pigshit only if sex is lame or too rare. True, there are soulful men who fall in love with their lovers, but for men the leading motive is sex! This, of course, does not justify the author's husband, and if she has sexually satisfied him, there is no need to bother. If he is a pussy type man and wants attention, kind attitude and almost courtship, then the problem is his. Good luck author, I hope you save your marriage! Remember that there are no unforgivable things!

   I personally (M, 23 years old), have been in a relationship for 8 months, the chance of cheating is 0.01%, if the most beautiful in the world is to come, I just don't want to hurt my girlfriend, and even if she doesn't understand, I will feel bad and feel very bad, given that I love her. The only option to cheat is if it annoys me a hell of a lot for weeks in every way and I get drunk somewhere with friends and get drunk (I know it), but I may not even cheat with sex, it's very difficult for me to achieve , because of many things .. claims about the vision of the man on the other side, I do not give myself to foreign women (only mine), but I would be completely selfish, in general I can not cheat, I do not want and I think that sooner or later everything comes back . Ever since I've been in a relationship for the first month, my girlfriend has made me so angry and I've kissed and danced with a girl (she doesn't know), but I haven't done other things, and she hasn't even done that with kisses. I'm damn jealous. A man cheats without feelings!

   I want to ask the author if she had any suspicions or any signs that this is happening in her marriage ??

   From the author - Thanks for the comments on №10, 14 and 15 - helped me realize where I am in the situation. Thank you for being well-meaning - at least that's how I feel about you. Oh, I missed №16-I apologize to him, and his comment was valuable to me Now to the №17-signs you are talking about were in front of my eyes ... but immersed in everyday life I just did not pay attention to them. My husband often mentioned this woman when he told me about his day. They spent a lot of time together, talking, sharing .... I was still not touched, I did not feel it as a threat, I know the taste for women of her husband-this woman is by no means one of the women with whom men cheat ... I just can't be more tactful than that. Then he stopped having sex with me - and I found an excuse for that - a lot of work, getting tired, etc.

   I guess she just flirted with him, there are a lot of women who are just for fun having sex with married men, she was pushing him not to expose himself as a man (as my grandfather called him) ... without to have feelings, he just succumbed to his urge- and fucked her 2-3 times .... in the car. And she was flattered that she was with a man younger than her. That's what happened ... that's why he told you that it happened like that, without feelings. He was just flattered that he was liked and his angels were weak, so he couldn't resist .... There are many events like this in the world. The important thing is not to make it a habit of yours. And who knows how she twisted and turned his head ... Since he is more conservative and in principle is not such a person, he obviously did not look for him on purpose. Don't dig too deep into the incident and give the person a chance ... as long as it doesn't happen again. ж46

   Number 16, you're still too young and your relationship is too short ... At 23, when you're in love, we know that .... But men, when you get 35-40 and you get some slow and painful criticism, which it changes everything in your brain.

   Author, 10 days have passed, I hope you are better. Something very important - DO NOT ASK for details. DO NOT LOOK FOR DETAILS, DO NOT DIG and do not want to learn everything, this will not make it easier for you. I know you're going to tell me - I already understand everything, well ... you certainly aren't. If you dig a lot in the end you will only hurt yourself. STOP, spend a few days apart, think, make a decision and follow it 100 percent. I know it's hard, I've been in your situation, only my partner was in the ears in question :) Don't do it yourself. I decided a year ago and I'm on my way. The most important thing is to really forgive and stop doubting: but if tomorrow, but if the next day ... If you decide to forgive do not grit your teeth, but just FORGIVE, this is the way and do not think what would happen if .. Kindred souls are not under the way and above the way, everyone is wrong, you are not insured either :) Now it may seem impossible, but does anyone know .... Life is unpredictable. In the end you will be different, your relationship will be different and you will be stronger (if you have decided to be with your husband :). Kai-Ren

   ... a one-time infidelity with a woman - it can only be an urge, but if they still follow, there is certainly attraction, and love is clear that it is only for the wife .... and after the development of things there is really no point in delving .. ZARA

   Maybe. From what you've written, you don't seem to have deep insights into men. Accept that men are different and you can't judge them by a woman's yardstick and vice versa. Sometimes women fuck someone without feelings, like that. I know some. Don't go deep and make a drama - live your life, have interests, work, in other words - be attractive and don't drink on your head for nothing. Your husband will probably appreciate it.

   I am the author .... Thanks for the new comments. I must say that each one was valuable to me and I learned something for myself from each one, but you №19 almost hit the top ten - things with us are exactly as you describe them. №20-I absolutely agree with you ... Kai Ren-thank you again for your support. That's how I reacted, digging for details, for details ... I couldn't understand ... and I still can't ... how my husband could want such a woman at all. And every new detail I uncovered hurt me terribly. I feel disgusted even at the thought of having sex with my husband, the man closest to me so far. I'm sure some will make fun of me a lot, but I can't understand how you can have sex with a woman who after a long working day goes to fuck with a young lover unwashed and .... let's stop here. Zara, thank you for your opinion. I want to tell you that I also advised my girlfriends to whom men have cheated on them .... that they are loved, that the other is just a pastime .... but when things fall on your own head, everything seems in another way .. And in conclusion, once again I will thank from the bottom of my heart all those who took their time for me. I wish you happiness..

   I read carefully all the comments, as well as those of the author. Author, you have definitely "slept through" the signals that preceded your husband's outing. When you realized, perhaps the pain of my betrayal was quite great for you. But still, think about whether you love this man. If you love him and want him in your life, then you can forgive him and move forward together. As others before me have told you, look at your marriage and make the necessary changes to it. You say yourself that there was a period in which you somehow did not listen to him, even though he shared it with you. Apparently your husband is one of those men who share with his partner and need the presence of a loved one. From this point of view, you are really lucky, at least in my eyes. Don't let your hurt ego take over and just talk to your husband and forgive each other. It is very likely that there is some reason in you that made him look for another woman's closeness. I don't want to blame you, but there are always two sides to the problems in marriage, and "guilt" is never one-way. I wish you success. I could say for myself that if I ever found out about infidelity, it would only hurt me if I really love the man next to me, if I love and have the strength to forgive him.

   Hello from me. Author, I was in a similar situation to yours, with the same pain and torment, but with the small difference that my husband was and is a whore and that's it. Well, I decided to separate because I couldn't stand this behavior. on: But you repulsed me last month and I for this or But I had no feelings for her, it was just for sex ... Another thing I wanted to tell you, if the man is not a whore, if you love and trust each other, it just might really have "slipped" as they say. Things like that happen sometimes and I don't think I have any feelings for a man. This does not justify it, of course, but it will not be everyday. I strongly advise you to find and download a movie that very well shows the situation you are in now. Since I can't write in Latin, I will translate the title from English. It's called Last Night or Last Night, Last Night with Keira Knightley and Eva Mendes. I guarantee you that you will see many truths watching this movie. Personally, he shook me, I cried like a small child, because I experienced everything like on tape. I wish you success and give a chance to the person if he is not a sworn fustogon, if he is one, bye and live healthier ...

   That it has a male infidelity with feelings? They knock about sports and for number. Your question is funny and stupid.

   Infidelity is infidelity whether it is with feelings or not. The infidel neglects and humiliates his partner and that is it. In this regard, statistics, personal experience or examples of what the neighbor or girlfriend has experienced should not be mixed. Every situation and every person is different. You gave a lot of advice to the author, but no one wondered if she was sure that her husband had only cheated on her with the woman in question or if she was just lucky to have caught him. I will not go into depth, because the topic is old. All I can say is that if you love someone, you are not cheating. No matter the appearance, sexual capabilities, persistence, thrills or whatever everyone justifies. No matter how difficult a relationship is, whatever it is, if there is love between the partners, everything can be solved? If one looks away, however, it no longer makes sense. I am very interested in how things have developed with the Author, but time has passed. Author, if you read this, tell me! Ж32г

   As I read the comments, I thought about how easy it is to give advice to others - to change, to forgive, to give a second chance, to save the unsavable. However, when the wave sweeps us away, where are the wise advice, the positive beginning and the good tone? # 28, I think the author stayed with her husband. She forgave, even though she knows that what is broken, no matter how you glue it, remains broken. And the lost / trust / is not found. She has not forgotten, nor has it stopped hurting her. Staying is sometimes harder than leaving. I don't know if it makes sense.

   Personal observations: Infidelity does not necessarily mean neglecting your partner. In some cases, just the opposite. In an infidelity, love and falling in love are rare, but for a man there are always some feelings. He may not show them, but they are in it.

   I am the author, I was very surprised that someone commented on the topic again after so long. I answer numbers 28 and 29, which correctly suggested - yes, I'm with my husband. And I immediately explain why. When things happened, I was very careful to hide everything from our children, so that they would not witness what was happening. I am amazed at the incredible childhood intuition to feel things. They were so depressed that my heart wouldn't let me divorce. I think I mentioned above - my husband is an amazing father, a devoted family man who is rotten from work and has always been behind me - always on my side, even whom I am not right. It hurt a lot, but I thought things through soberly - he definitely deserves a second chance. Yes, you guessed it - I have neither forgotten nor completely forgiven. And not that I don't want-I want more than anything. I just can not. And when I happen to meet that scoundrel - fortunately rarely, days later I'm sick. No, jealousy is out of the question — she used to be fat and old, but now she looks awful. Yes, I don't hide - I've never hated anyone as much as I hate her. I know this will sound ugly, that I will be criticized for these words - it's just the truth. Because in order for things to happen, the main merit is hers. And no, I'm not defending my husband - I'm even mad at him anymore - but that's the truth. Thank you for your support and I wish you health in these difficult times. that I will be criticized for my words - that's just the truth. Because in order for things to happen, the main merit is hers. And no, I'm not defending my husband - I'm even mad at him anymore - but that's the truth. Thank you for your support and I wish you health in these difficult times. that I will be criticized for my words - that's just the truth. Because in order for things to happen, the main merit is hers. And no, I'm not defending my husband - I'm even mad at him anymore - but that's the truth. Thank you for your support and I wish you health in these difficult times.