Hello! I'm not sure if my topic is for here, I'm sorry if I put it in the wrong section. So let me start with my problem. I am a woman of 20 years. I notice that I have no particular desire for sex. I'm not sure what it's due to. In general, as a child I started watching porn and I had a lot of orgasms in the evening. When I say small, I mean the period 12-15 years. Then I stopped and I reached a maximum of 2 orgasms and only from porn. Without looking I can't get aroused (if I'm alone I mean). When I was 16 it was my first time and in the beginning we did it quite often with my ex, we reached many times a day, but after a year or 2 I felt a decrease in this desire for sex. I can't say I'm tired of sex, I like to have sex. My current boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year now and I still can't say that I have who knows what desire. It's not from him, he turns me on, I like him, I love him. But if he doesn't start touching me, maybe it will be over 1 month and I won't want to do it. Well, in the period around the cycle I want a lot, but maybe only then. It's not about the way I have sex, I like the act, but like I said before it came to me, I don't want to do it. There are many times when I am tired, nervous, stressed, etc. and then I just tell my friend that I'm not doing right now .. (we talk to him about everything, even this, but we also do not find an answer). I don't know if it's because of my worries about studying ... I also don't know if it affects the fact that I drink Yasmin contraceptives. I've been drinking them since October. I think before them I had a little more desire for intimacy. Where do you think this problem may be hiding? I feel stupid sometimes, because my boyfriend wants me, he has needs, and I can't satisfy them because I just don't want intimacy. I don't think I'm asexual because I still have some desire, albeit rarely. I don't know what to do or stop
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One of the side effects of contraceptives is decreased sexual libido. I have the same problem - I don't remember the last time I had sex, honestly. I'm even annoyed, I don't get aroused at all. I guess the only way is to stop the pills.