No. I was in such a relationship for almost nine years and we finally broke up, after much torment. Believe me, what he and I didn't try ... and in the end we just decided that it was clear that it wouldn't work out as much as we wanted and that what we had was friendship and mutual benefit rather than love. connection. There were a lot of red lights in the beginning - he mistaken my name for hers while we were lying down once (he apologizes to me for that for a long time and he was really sorry, but still ...), he was on his ex's birthday without telling me (then he stopped to maintain any contact with her, but the insult was serious to me), somehow everything was always half-hearted. We were very close, we are good friends at the moment, we hold on to each other, but it was just not love with the main L. It was just a friendship, although unconscious on my part until recently. I thought at times that the problem was in me, but it is not. I have also had observations on the connections of acquaintances and friends. It just doesn't work. If the person is not 100% free with his heart and mind and is not 100% in love with you, you simply cannot have a full-fledged relationship. If you have small suspicions that he is not completely with you, then you know what to do. There is no point in wasting 9 years of your life like me, pursuing something non-existent.
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In principle, this is the case. Only great and true love can depersonalize such love. As well as the accumulation of emotions and memories to rewrite the previous ones. It's super simple, but only on first reading. The problem is that maybe what you now call love ... is not the same for the person who comes from love. There is always a comparison ... Tip ... be your best version ... fuck it the way you think no one has done before and stay calm. And we will see how strong your wedge will be and whether it will kill the old one. Brother.