Love From High School

The Story

Hello! I am a 21 year old girl. and I need advice. I have been in a relationship for 5 years with a boy. It all started in high school when I was 16 years old. He was dating a girl in my class, just as friends, but he was in love with her. And I was dating another boy in his class. but things didn't work out between us, he backed away, even before anything happened, we didn't even kiss because he wanted a lighter girl, and I was pretty tough. The same thing had happened to them, and the girl he was dating introduced us. He had fallen in love with me at first sight because I could see him looking at me as we walked down the halls of the school, but I didn't care about boys just then. But one night we started writing to each other, I started in vain because I was hurt, we went out and after a few months we left. We've had a lot of scandals, a lot of problems, as in any relationship. When I was 18, we did it for the first time, and it was the first time for both of us. We were on vacation and it was something I will never forget. It was important to me, so I waited for the right boy. We broke up a few times, but not seriously, and we got along in a few days. But the last time was about a month and a half. There had come a time when only the two of us wanted to separate, and we were constantly arguing about it, we were nervous. We haven't had a relationship for a month and a half, when there were holidays, we congratulated each other, but that's it. I decided to invite him to my birthday, to go out, and give ourselves another chance, to try to make things right. He said he didn't know if he could, but I told him I just wanted to treat him because he was important to me. The next day he wrote to me and said he could come. When he called to wish me a happy birthday, I was excited because I didn't expect him to. I missed him so much and during that time, I didn't look at another boy. They came to meet me, but I told them I had a boyfriend. The evening came when we had to go out. He came to us to pick me up and we went to a restaurant. It was a little strange, and uncomfortable. As soon as I got in the car, I saw that he was different, that he had changed, and I decided that when we returned, I would tell him everything I felt. But suddenly he started crying in front of me and went outside, then my stomach tightened and I realized that something had happened. We left the restaurant and went to us. I told him to tell me what was going on. Crying, he told me he didn't know if we could be together again. When he said that, I knew he had done something. He told me he slept with another woman, and that he deeply regrets it. I was shocked because I never thought he would be able to do it. When I wanted to tell me in detail what happened, he told me it didn't matter. But in the end she told me that she was with a colleague from work, much older, probably by 10 years. She even has a child, but they were separated from her husband. She told me it was 4 5 times, and she didn't know what she was doing and thought about me after it happened. I don't know how confused a man can be to allow such a thing. Everything I wanted to tell him suddenly disappeared. I was afraid of losing him again, and I told him that the first step I could take was to try to be at least friends, and that I would look for him when I decided I was ready for it. He agreed, I don't know how he came home even because he kept crying. I went home and cried so much, that the next day I couldn't go to work and said I was sick. Despite his actions, I wanted to do the same as him. I registered on a website and wrote to several guys, but only one of them stood out. It turned out that we have mutual friends and we are in the same university. He was a very nice boy and he behaved quite well, he saw me at exams and when I had a relationship, he sent me an invitation for friendship, but I did not accept it. Two days later, the other boy I had a relationship with called me and told me he had quit his job. I told him we could go out as friends. So I started dating two people at the same time. The boy I was dating was dating for a few months, but as friends, he didn't try to do anything. And with the boy I was in a relationship with, it just so happened that one night we just kissed, I immediately cried and he told me that everything was fine and that he would never hurt me again and one leads to another and so we started doing it anywhere, even in the car. But I didn't end my friendship with the other boy either. We kept flirting, writing, going out, because he was really behaving like a girl. There came a time when I had to choose one of the two. The boy I slept with knew about the other and told me that he couldn't wait forever for me to decide, and he had set me a deadline. One day I don't know if it was an accident, but we were in the car next to them with the boy I was in a relationship with and we were going somewhere, then suddenly the boy I was writing to passed by and saw us, I was shocked, but he didn't react in any way. , didn't even turn around, he was going to the gym where he trains. He had written to me earlier, but there was no way to answer him and I told him that I had seen him and he said and I also asked him if the appointment remained for tomorrow and he told me yes and we continued to write to each other. The next day I went out with him, and I asked him why he was going out with me, if he wanted something from me, etc., and he replied that he didn't know me so well and he was happy to write and go out with me. Then I told him that I had a relationship for 5 years and yesterday when he saw me I was with him, but we remained friends because we have known each other for a long time. And he told me he knew, but I didn't owe him an explanation because we didn't have a relationship, and I told him I couldn't do anything with him, start a new relationship when I had feelings for someone else. He told me that it was normal to feel that way after so long. We clarified and went home. Then I really thought it was over, when he wrote to me again the next day to ask me something, but I did not answer. After two days I decided to answer him and so we started writing to each other again. The other boy I was in a relationship with didn't like this thing because I told him I was going to stop writing to him and he believed me. But every time something happened and I was tempted to write to him, until at one point I just stopped because I really had to choose between the two. I had to get him out of here because I knew that if we had gone on and on, we would have started a relationship. And I chose the boy I was in a relationship with because he showed me, did everything for me and corrected his mistake, he talked to our people about his intentions for me. It's been a few months since we've been together, we've been fighting, getting along, I've broken up with him a few times, but this time it's different, we can't even stand apart for a day. However, this problem reappears, in which we can not separate and be the two of us, and when he raised the topic of it, he gets sick and we fight and it is quite common. Then I think about the other boy and whether it would have been so if I had chosen him. Sometimes I act like I'm in a relationship with someone else and he asks me if that's the case and I tell him outright that there is no such thing. I was tempted to write to the boy I was dating again or to send him an invitation, but I don't know if it's the right thing to do. I'm confused because I'm busy at work, at university. So far, I've only been faithful to one boy. So if you have any advice, please tell me. Then I think about the other boy and whether it would have been so if I had chosen him. Sometimes I act like I'm in a relationship with someone else and he asks me if that's the case and I tell him outright that there is no such thing. I was tempted to write to the boy I was dating again or to send him an invitation, but I don't know if it's the right thing to do. I'm confused because I'm busy at work, at university. So far, I've only been faithful to one boy. So if you have any advice, please tell me. Then I think about the other boy and whether it would have been so if I had chosen him. Sometimes I act like I'm in a relationship with someone else and he asks me if that's the case and I tell him outright that there is no such thing. I was tempted to write to the boy I was dating again or to send him an invitation, but I don't know if it's the right thing to do. I'm confused because I'm busy at work, at university. So far, I've only been faithful to one boy. So if you have any advice, please tell me. So far, I've only been faithful to one boy. So if you have any advice, please tell me. So far, I've only been faithful to one boy. So if you have any advice, please tell me.

Last Updated
November 11, 2020
Author:
domsherwood

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