I don't have time to read the comments. I recently became a mother and maybe I can help with advice to the Author, in the beginning I really liked it. At least try to try to look like you're a person who takes responsibility and knows what he's doing. Marriage is not easy (I have been with one man for 15 years, we have been married for 3 years), living with another person is not easy, children are not easy. I don't think your weight is the main cause of your problems. You have always been full and such has taken you. For me, the problem with you is that you have started to experience yourself as a victim in your family relationships, as a giving country, and as if your husband owes you because you think that because of "his children" you are fat. "I do my best to lose those pounds, but it's not because I have a health problem that I got to have children. "First of all, these children are for you two. You participated in their planning and chose to get married at the age of 25. Secondly, it is not your children or your husband who is to blame for your weight, but you yourself know that you were full before, and without children for 10 years you would have that you have gained those pounds, and the diagnosis they have given you is not some disease independent of you, but a consequence of your lifestyle. There's nothing to fear. I myself had and still have a weight problem. I gave birth 6 months ago. I was 85 kg. before the birth, after the birth I was 73 kg, but it was also due to dehydration. I gained up to 77-78 kg. , but I know why - I relaxed to eat jam, I wanted more milk from it, I ate bread, potatoes, chips, garbage. Neither my child nor my husband is to blame for making these choices. Before my pregnancy and for most of my pregnancy, I was on an LCHF regimen. Paleo mode. That is, I deprive myself of a maximum of simple carbohydrates - sugar - all kinds of wheat, breads, pastries - starchy like potatoes, rice - I do not consume oil and fast food, all kinds of packaged foods. I'm careful even with fruits .... I eat a lot of fat - butter, fatty meat , fish, cook with ointment and eat 2 times a day - 12 and 18 hours without snacks. I eat at will without limiting myself. I sometimes do 1-2 days with 1 meal a day, but still plenty of stomach. I eat mostly vegetables on my stomach. With this regimen I used to cure my acne and PCOS, PMS, so I managed to get pregnant and I no longer have these problems. And here - every week WITHOUT SPORT 1 kg permanently melts, only fat burns, my belly is almost as flat as before pregnancy and today I was 73 kg. WITHOUT COUNTING CALORIES AND WITHOUT HUNGER. I lived like this for 3 years, I took a break, but here I am again. In addition, I consume only organic food from the store or from the villages I deliver food depending on the season. More information about this way of life and nutrition to live to life. The only problem is that you can lose too much weight. My dinner, for example, is a huge bowl with broccoli and carrots, Brussels sprouts, I fill it with oil (to swim), salt. I eat a huge steak of 250-350 g with this garnish !!! At lunch I fry 3 eggs with spinach. I can eat 4 eggs, maybe 5 with Avocado, I even pour butter, olive oil, vegetables, salad. I do not feel any hunger and I forget to eat. Today at noon I was hungry, at dinner I forgot to eat and at one point I remembered and made this meal. Good luck and smart P.P. Don't listen to fools, who advise you to break up your family for your own complexes. Also revise your behavior - do your children noticeably have a regime to go to bed early so that you can pay attention to your husband. I taught my baby at the age of 4 months to go to bed at 7 o'clock and then my husband and I are alone and we talk, we pay attention. And with older children it is done - to go to their rooms at 7-8 o'clock and not to bother you. Many mothers neglect their husbands for the sake of their children, and the children themselves often manipulate their parents and seek to separate them. However, I do not think that your husband loves weak women - he has already taken you full. he called you a "pig" because he was a verbally retarded person or at that moment he simply could not come up with arguments against you. Also revise your behavior - do your children noticeably have a regime to go to bed early so that you can pay attention to your husband. I taught my baby at the age of 4 months to go to bed at 7 o'clock and then my husband and I are alone and we talk, we pay attention. And with older children it is done - to go to their rooms at 7-8 o'clock and not to bother you. Many mothers neglect their husbands for the sake of their children, and the children themselves often manipulate their parents and seek to separate them. However, I do not think that your husband loves weak women - he has already taken you full. he called you a "pig" because he was a verbally retarded person or at that moment he simply could not come up with arguments against you. Also revise your behavior - do your children noticeably have a regime to go to bed early so that you can pay attention to your husband. I taught my baby at the age of 4 months to go to bed at 7 o'clock and then my husband and I are alone and we talk, we pay attention. And with older children it is done - to go to their rooms at 7-8 o'clock and not to bother you. Many mothers neglect their husbands for the sake of their children, and the children themselves often manipulate their parents and seek to separate them. However, I do not think that your husband loves weak women - he has already taken you full. he called you a "pig" because he was a verbally retarded person or at that moment he simply could not come up with arguments against you. we pay attention. And with older children it is done - to go to their rooms at 7-8 o'clock and not to bother you. Many mothers neglect their husbands for the sake of their children, and the children themselves often manipulate their parents and seek to separate them. However, I do not think that your husband loves weak women - he has already taken you full. he called you a "pig" because he was a verbally retarded person or at that moment he simply could not come up with arguments against you. we pay attention. And with older children it is done - to go to their rooms at 7-8 o'clock and not to bother you. Many mothers neglect their husbands for the sake of their children, and the children themselves often manipulate their parents and seek to separate them. However, I do not think that your husband loves weak women - he has already taken you full. he called you a "pig" because he was a verbally retarded person or at that moment he simply could not come up with arguments against you.
1 mistressmohini answered
Very ugly of him, you will do well. When there is no respect, there will be no respect for him.