Hello. The topic of loneliness excites me because I myself suffer from it. I think that methods that include words like "It's your own fault" and "You did it yourself" never help. The only case in which someone is guilty of loneliness is when he is unfriendly and even cruel to others. Not everyone is to blame. Sometimes circumstances just bother you. I can tell you that by trying to instill in suffering people that they are to blame, you are not helping them, you are only hurting them even more. If you can't think of anything other than "It's your fault," it's better not to say anything. On the issue of optimism. Optimism really helps. He and inner self-confidence are the strongest drugs against mental pain. And I want to express my opinion on this issue. From personal experience I have found that there are two types of uncertainty. 1. Inner, which consists in the lack of love for yourself and, accordingly, for others. There is no cure for it. The feeling of self-importance you either have or not. It cannot be acquired. 2. Emotional. (Or planted, as I call it). It refers to people who are intrinsically confident and able to love themselves and others, but because of someone's cruel treatment have developed a sense of strong guilt and depression. That's why I call it emotional. The injured person, no matter how confident he is inside, emotions speak for themselves. Everyone is subject to them. I guess it has happened to everyone internally to feel things in one way, and on a purely emotional level - in a completely different way. For this type of loneliness, the cure is to communicate with the people we love and accordingly they love us. But because it is often caused precisely by the lack of such people in our lives, it cannot always help. My advice in such cases is to direct your negative emotions to something, instead of accumulating them. It should be related to some activity. You can scream, paint, sing. If you are a creative type, it will help you a lot :). Or read. The most important thing is not to shut yourself in for fear of being hurt. You will be surprised after a while when you see how someone's rude words have much less impact on you than before. But to achieve this, you need training. So communicate. Try it. Even if you are not sure that you will find someone, it is likely to happen. And if there is something that makes you feel good, even if it doesn't solve the problem in general, do it. It may sound funny, but remember the saying: "Drop by drop makes a pool." A little of this, a little of that, and in the end you may find yourself in a completely different position than you imagined, and much better than the previous one. Under no circumstances should you give up your life, even if it hurts and bad things happen to you. "When there is no fish, cancer is a fish." Better a poor horse than no horse at all. If you give up, it gets worse. Finally, let me repeat that "there are passengers for every train". Try to catch these passengers. You may succeed :). Even the biggest failure is better than a lifetime with the thought "What if". You should not just wonder. Take action! :) And since I've flooded you enough with folk wisdom and sayings, I stop here. :) a little of that and in the end you may find yourself in a completely different position than you ever imagined, and much better than the previous one. Under no circumstances should you give up your life, even if it hurts and bad things happen to you. "When there is no fish, cancer is a fish." Better a poor horse than no horse at all. If you give up, it gets worse. Finally, let me repeat that "there are passengers for every train". Try to catch these passengers. You may succeed :). Even the biggest failure is better than a lifetime with the thought "What if". You should not just wonder. Take action! :) And since I've flooded you enough with folk wisdom and sayings, I stop here. :) a little of that and in the end you may find yourself in a completely different position than you ever imagined, and much better than the previous one. Under no circumstances should you give up your life, even if it hurts and bad things happen to you. "When there is no fish, cancer is a fish." Better a poor horse than no horse at all. If you give up, it gets worse. Finally, let me repeat that "there are passengers for every train". Try to catch these passengers. You may succeed :). Even the biggest failure is better than a lifetime with the thought "What if". You should not just wonder. Take action! :) And since I've flooded you enough with folk wisdom and sayings, I stop here. :) even if it hurts and bad things happen to you. "When there is no fish, cancer is a fish." Better a poor horse than no horse at all. If you give up, it gets worse. Finally, let me repeat that "there are passengers for every train". Try to catch these passengers. You may succeed :). Even the biggest failure is better than a lifetime with the thought "What if". You should not just wonder. Take action! :) And since I've flooded you enough with folk wisdom and sayings, I stop here. :) even if it hurts and bad things happen to you. "When there is no fish, cancer is a fish." Better a poor horse than no horse at all. If you give up, it gets worse. Finally, let me repeat that "there are passengers for every train". Try to catch these passengers. You may succeed :). Even the biggest failure is better than a lifetime with the thought "What if". You should not just wonder. Take action! :) And since I've flooded you enough with folk wisdom and sayings, I stop here. :) You should not just wonder. Take action! :) And since I've flooded you enough with folk wisdom and sayings, I stop here. :) You should not just wonder. Take action! :) And since I've flooded you enough with folk wisdom and sayings, I stop here. :)
1 sskromnahka answered
Very poetic! How old are you?