Hello. I'm 22 years old and I'm not doing well with women. I think I'm ugly and that's why my self-esteem is low. They say that things don't work out for me because of my self-esteem. I am also too modest and good (people's opinion). Why do I think I'm ugly Because every girl I tried told me that I wasn't her type or that they didn't want a relationship at the moment and in a few days they have a new boyfriend. I also think I'm ugly because they told me to. "Every girl wanted a nice man to be ashamed of when they went out" (her opinion). Anyway ... I've had boyfriends and I don't get along with any of them, and my longest relationship was two months of agony. In the first week, everything was flowers and roses, but then it changed. In the end, I realized that she was breaking me all the time and I, the fool in love, could not forget her for three years. I tried to forget her with other girls, but it still didn't work. Then I lowered the bar a bit and caught up with sex. Ok, but I'm still not happy. I still haven't had a little more serious relationship that we both care about. Maybe because I live back in time. I'm that type of guy, romantic with gifts and good manners. Such boys are clearly out of fashion. I tried to pretend to be bad with a girl but it didn't work out, it's not for me. So, after a lifetime of frustration, I stopped thinking about it. I drive it day after day. Now I thought of a few more facts about me. I live abroad. Half a year here and the other half in Bulgaria. Here I met the perfect girl. At my age, beautiful, smart, working and helping my family, she is not vain and impressed me the most with the different way of thinking of all the other girls I know. Don't think she's congested because she goes to discos every week and has fun to the max. She paid attention to me, but because of my low self-esteem I did not dare to do anything. I went to Bulgaria and when I came back here it already started to change after someone made fun of it. It's like everyone else now, and I wonder if the bird landed on my shoulder (as they say).
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Look ... it's easiest to complain that we're abandoned for no reason, that we're great and good, but others don't appreciate us. You may be really good as a person, but in connection with this low self-esteem you can be a complete rusk. In fact, the truth is that no one runs away from the good. Let's say one or two girls abandoned you, let's say that there was something to blame in them, but in order not to keep your relationship for so long, obviously something in you pushes them to lose interest. If you stay with this low self-esteem and feeling that you are good, and you still see others do not understand you and leave you .. there is no way soon to keep a more serious relationship. Every man or woman loses interest when they smell that the other has too low self-esteem and have to handle it one way or another. The man with too low self-esteem is like a wounded animal to me, which you still have to carry on your back. I also had low self-esteem like you, but with age I realized that I would not achieve anything like that, and why should I have such self-confidence when I am healthy and right. And let me tell you, since I started thinking that way, I've gotten happiness on a personal level. Rethink a good thing and what is really wrong with you, where you are wrong. The problem will not be solved if you transfer from one connection to another immediately. Think carefully about where your mistake is and believe in yourself a little more as a person. Everything is within normal limits. However, too low or too high self-esteem is irritating, so find the right balance. And let me tell you, since I started thinking that way, I've gotten happiness on a personal level. Rethink a good thing and what is really wrong with you, where you are wrong. The problem will not be solved if from one connection, you transfer to another immediately. Think carefully about where your mistake is and believe in yourself a little more as a person. Everything is within normal limits. However, too low or too high self-esteem is irritating, so find the right balance. And let me tell you, since I started thinking that way, I've gotten happiness on a personal level. Rethink a good thing and what is really wrong with you, where you are wrong. The problem will not be solved if you transfer from one connection to another immediately. Think carefully about where your mistake is and believe in yourself a little more as a person. Everything is within normal limits. However, too low or too high self-esteem is irritating, so find the right balance.
Brother, you're fine, 50% of men are like that. Only this last part with the bird is a bit unreal - you can't think that the bird landed on your shoulder. No way. If it had landed, it wouldn't have changed, you remember :) In fact, it had to happen the way it did to understand what it really is. There are 2 options: either you adjust according to the situation or you do not adjust. That is, you either become wanted or you don't. Keep in mind that women put appearance second. In the first place are the character and ahem .. potential (as it is called "money"). Only stronger clothes, for example (but you like them) will raise your "potential".
Maybe traveling between two countries prevents you from making a serious connection. If you stay in one place, you may have one. I don't think beauty is crucial to a relationship. Even if it is a reason for attraction in the beginning, if people don't like it, it also loses strength. Be more confident. If you like a girl, court her. Even if nothing happens, at least you will try, and you will gain experience. Success!
There are ugly men and women and they are engaged, aren't they? So that's not the reason. It's in you, you approach a girl you've already written in your head the result. Besides, the speaker what they said, what their opinion was. Realize the reason is in your head. I know a beautiful girl, not engaged, she will not be engaged. In her head stands a muscular ideal prince who has nowhere to find. It's the same with you. Rethink your behavior and perceptions.