Ladies Help!

   You forgot to sign - "That crazy". I'm sorry, but I can't sympathize with you - you fill the site with your cries, you are brainwashed in every topic, you are vulgar and illiterate. Calm down a little.

   I understand that it's hard for you, you can unload by writing here, I don't know. We already know the story from other topics. To me, you spin like a hamster on one of those wheels in their cages. You can't do the same thing and expect a different result. It seems to me that you have depersonalized yourself as a man and as a person. That you also became a psychologist. And if God forbid you get sick, how will you help your child? You can't stand your wife and you are looking after a child in such a toxic environment? Well, she'll be nervous. If you break up with her, at least temporarily, she can calm down. You will always have the right to see your child, to help him financially. Even so, one day it will still separate, if you don't save yourself, it won't be useful to him at all. Take matters into your own hands and change your life, go to a sanatorium, no matter how short, change the environment. Go do some research, cardiologist, etc., take care of yourself. Try your luck with the new woman, it will unload a little. This is the first time I've said this to someone because I'm against infidelity and I don't, but you need something to get you out of the black hole you're in. I don't know yet what to advise you, but you need to stabilize yourself mentally and physically and think about yourself, not just the child. Talk to lawyers about a possible divorce and parental rights.

   I am the author. Number 1, thank you for your attention and for reading my story. I'm not that person and I took the trouble to find his topic. There are similarities, you're right. But if it matters at all, I'm not that person. Number 2. Thanks for the tips, but it's too late for a new relationship. I confessed to the woman in question that I was beginning to feel something for her, and that was it. It was just conversations. That's good. And I'm really going to go to a psychologist, to try to explain to me the mistake I made. This will be the ultimate experience. I have no idea where I'm wrong, and why whatever I catch hits a spectacular failure. It's just been years. I thought I had gathered experience and reason. Apparently I haven't learned anything. Thank you for your attention and time!

   As number 2, I have already read your story in other topics. I don't see how you can fix your relationship with your wife - you've already tried everything and hated each other. Yours is a mixture of masochism and constant agony. How long do you think you will be able to withstand this life and daily stress purely physically before you collapse? You deserve to be happy too. If the new woman is really serious and has some intentions towards you, and not just to use you to scratch her ego and pull away when you want something more serious, then try for God! This may be your last chance. Get out! Start fresh. Offer your wife to take the child with you and let her take care of herself, at least until she gets to her feet. If he doesn't want to, he doesn't want to - you will pay alimony then and you will look after your child again. But get out of there. Don't wait for her to leave, nor does he make plans to take the new one to his mother's house. Don't be afraid of a mistake - it can't get any worse :) Things can only go up from this situation. You deserve to try. For the child, you are not a functioning family and support at the moment.

   I have also read your story and several times I am going to ask you if this was told to you by a doctor about the 5-valent vaccine, or it is a personal observation, because my son will have one in a few months. On the subject. The same story will be repeated because there is a lack of awareness. Here is your summary: A woman who only wants you for a friend. Woman with a newborn. A woman who can't give you the child you want. An emotionally unstable woman (google it to find out what you're dealing with) And again, a woman who only wants friendship. Conclusion: you are attracted to women who are not really able to commit and give you love. You are looking for relationships in which intimacy is impossible, because in fact you yourself are subconsciously afraid of commitment, so it is this anxiety when things go well. I think I know what's going on in your head. You think, it's so good, I hope I don't lose it and get hurt again, and instead of enjoying and relaxing, you start unconsciously creating problems, withdrawing, saving your love, testing your partner, or vice versa. you deny your personal needs, you make abnormal compromises, you allow unacceptable behavior, thinking that the other person will say to himself "if he tolerates this, then he really loves me". No, man, the other person says to himself "if he tolerates this, then he is not normal" and so you lose all respect and dignity. When one does not love oneself, one cannot be loved, nor can one truly love another. There is a fairy tale by Jorge Bucay, in which a man and a woman in love walk next to each other, separated by a lattice. On their way, the man says, "I think if I cut off my hand I'll be able to get through the bars." he cuts his hand, but still fails. They walk for a long time, but he can't stand it and says again "I think that if I cut off one of my legs, I will succeed" he says "But you are no longer whole, you are no longer the one I fell in love with" and continues on his own. Do you understand what you are doing. You depersonalize, melt and amputate your personality to become what you are to be loved. Because deep down you believe that you do not deserve to be loved and accepted, as you are. This is a lack of self-love. And without self-love, love is impossible. This should be your next relationship, with yourself. Everything that happens to you is a consequence of the absent parent and the fear of abandonment. You have not received the unconditional love and presence of both parents and you are subconsciously trying to cover this deficit, to heal the trauma by reconnecting with people from whom you cannot receive love and presence. You get into similar situations, in a competition "this time I will deserve love and presence". And the truth is that you are the only one who can give them to himself, but he does not give them to himself because he does not believe that he deserves them. I will repeat it again, if you think that you do not deserve your own time / presence for yourself (to see friends, to play sports, if you want to paint something, to read, to drive without direction, to do at all something that you like only for yourself and your personal comfort), and you think it is more important / others deserve your time more than yourself (always available, always useful, in service), then your presence / time loses value. You don't appreciate it yourself, how can anyone else appreciate it? On the contrary, he even thinks that he is using it more usefully. This way you will always feel worn out, invaluable and used. That is, instead of doing good, making a sacrifice. Good is self-love (you do something because you like it, not as a reward and this thing does not interfere with your personal comfort). The victim is a hidden selfishness (you violate your personal comfort, you do something that is unpleasant to you, expecting someone day and the other to violate his comfort for you and do unpleasant things for him in your favor). When a person does not love himself and does not know how to make himself happy, it is much easier to sacrifice for the benefit of others, expecting in return that they sacrifice for him and make him happy (to know how). Well, if you don't know how and don't show it, it can't happen. I give an example with my relative. She compliments me on new sneakers, I say that my husband gave them to me, and she complains that hers will never think of and take time for such a thing, even though she works, cleans, cooks from morning till night. , washes and invests all his money in the household. And I ask her "when do you go running?" she replies that she has no time or running shoes. Somehow, however, her husband has to guess that she has such a desire because she does so much for him. Will it happen? Well, if you need peace of mind, but you don't give it to yourself, you stay patient in the toxic environment, waiting for someone to remember that you can barely breathe. Will it happen? If you really need that peace of mind, leave and go to a quiet place. You don't wait, you don't want someone else. Only then can this other person have a "bray, now she is nice company, she smiles at me, she is gentle. I will support her in this, I will surprise her with a running team, the better it is at home when she is happy. "Believe me, no one wants the person next to him to Everyone feels this as a personal defeat, as “I am not capable of bestowing happiness.” However, the trap is that happiness is inside, not outside.No one can make a happy person happy, but he can make a happy person happy. Stop waiting, stop saying what you don't like, show it. You want a normal environment for the child, you take him from there, you stick to your principles, you set the limit "You want us to be a family, go to therapy. If not, stay crazy, but away from us. " what it could be, what things you would have saved if you had loved yourself and put yourself first with your girlfriend. If he had told her "I'm not happy to just be friends, I want more, I love you as a woman and I won't sacrifice myself to have you as a friend, I deserve to be loved, I don't have a bit of a good attitude." I advise you to download the book "Poisonous Parents" to work on realizing your childhood trauma, which makes you become emotionally dependent on the love of others and develop love for yourself. And it will be useful for your child. Also read what an emotionally unstable person is, or in the spectrum of antisocial personality disorders (your wife) and what is emotionally dependent / codependent (you). Ros what it could be, what things you would have saved if you had loved yourself and put yourself first with your girlfriend. If he had told her "I'm not happy to just be friends, I want more, I love you as a woman and I won't sacrifice myself to have you as a friend, I deserve to be loved, I don't have a bit of a good attitude." I advise you to download the book "Poisonous Parents" to work on realizing your childhood trauma, which makes you become emotionally dependent on the love of others and develop love for yourself. And it will be useful for your child. Also read what an emotionally unstable person is, or in the spectrum of antisocial personality disorders (your wife) and what is emotionally dependent / codependent (you). Ros if he had loved himself and put himself first with his girlfriend. If he had told her "I'm not happy to just be friends, I want more, I love you as a woman and I won't sacrifice myself to have you as a friend, I deserve to be loved, I don't have a bit of a good attitude." I advise you to download the book "Poisonous Parents" to work on realizing your childhood trauma, which makes you become emotionally dependent on the love of others and develop love for yourself. And it will be useful for your child. Also read what an emotionally unstable person is, or in the spectrum of antisocial personality disorders (your wife) and what is emotionally dependent / codependent (you). Ros if he had loved himself and put himself first with his girlfriend. If he had told her "I'm not happy to just be friends, I want more, I love you as a woman and I won't sacrifice myself to have you as a friend, I deserve to be loved, I don't have a bit of a good attitude." I advise you to download the book "Poisonous Parents" to work on realizing your childhood trauma, which makes you become emotionally dependent on the love of others and develop love for yourself. And it will be useful for your child. Also read what an emotionally unstable person is, or in the spectrum of antisocial personality disorders (your wife) and what is emotionally dependent / codependent (you). Ros which makes you become emotionally dependent on the love of others and develop love for yourself. And it will be useful for your child. Also read what an emotionally unstable person is, or in the spectrum of antisocial personality disorders (your wife) and what is emotionally dependent / codependent (you). Ros which makes you become emotionally dependent on the love of others and develop love for yourself. And it will be useful for your child. Also read what an emotionally unstable person is, or in the spectrum of antisocial personality disorders (your wife) and what is emotionally dependent / codependent (you). Ros

   Crazy, he was my favorite in the beginning with his funny torments, but you know that tragedy is a comedy without development, which is obviously yours. Your psychoses are a little boring at this stage. Brother.

   1 to 3 You're funny. I know your style very well, and you have written so much on this site, with and without nicknames, nicknames, signatures, nicknames (whatever you want, call it that) that no one can mistake you. You deny yourself as much as you want.

   Obviously, not only am I convinced that you are the Crazy One, but I do not understand what the problem is that you deny so much. Otherwise on the topic - I think you have serious emotional problems. I don't blame you, I don't judge you, I just state. Obviously you have a gap in upbringing, which is not your fault, but it is a fact. After all, everyone has an emotional problem.

   You're a psychiatrist, but pills probably won't help. You have been living in some dramas for 20 years, mostly made up by you. It's all your own fault. Write a book like Demons. I do not recommend new relationships, even just for sex. Madness is contagious. You are permanently emotionally broken, I don't know if it's treatable. Do you drink?

   It became clear to us what kind of person you are. While your wife is taking care of your sick child, you are looking for lovers on the sites. Disgust.

   Number 5 What he wrote to me is the most accurate and real thing I have to do with my life. It is also possible to be a psychologist. I listened to you. I did as you recommended and the effect was shocking! Thank you with all my soul! Regarding vaccines, this cannot be proven by documents and tests. If an expertise is issued, there will be thousands of lawsuits filed. Two doctors told me in my ear. Unofficially. Three other children in my child's same group behave in the same way. All are referred to different specialists and only one is diagnosed with autism. The others behave in the same way and the diagnosis is a generalized brain disorder. As with our child, it was with theirs. We talked to their parents, and that's exactly what they shared. They started pronouncing words intelligibly about 2 years ago, and until the vaccine they were concentrated and you could get their attention. And we all unanimously agreed that after the vaccine (the last dose) the attitude and speech changed dramatically. No one will admit that he deliberately destroys children! I'm not a doctor. I don't know what the consequence would be if it wasn't done. I have heard that there are parents who do not get a single vaccine. But there will be consequences in his admission to kindergarten, the children will stop them and there were more things. If I knew that it would stop its development from this reception, I would not allow it! If they want to not allow it at school! Now there is another / 6 years old. I don't know anything about her. Consult more doctors. You are a smart person and you will understand what to do. Thanks also to everyone who put a label on me. I don't feel offended, but don't waste your time likening me to someone. I wish you all to be happy and that not even one percent of my crap happens to you. The author