Nowadays, no matter how much you pretend to be like that, it doesn't work :)
I don't know what other women think, but for me a man to be a man should behave like a man - to be kind to me, loving, to behave well with others, not to bother me, to know what he wants, in no way case he's not some aggressive bully or alpha male clown guy who thinks he's the master. Well, that's all. Be a good person and everything will be fine.
That word sounds simple to me. I connect it with the dictionary of some. I don't want to have anything to do with such people.
This is my personal opinion and I have the right to say it. If you personally think that you are a man, when you pretend to be one in front of girls and women in order to stock them and take them down, then you have confused the page. To me, a man means a person who knows his interests, knows how to treat people and knows how to behave in the family. I can call men men who served in the army 50-80 years ago, because these people were literally men in the literal sense of the word. Now these pishkotnkovtsi who go with 6-7 friends to beat a man, this, my friend is a male bird! To be a man, you have to defend your place, to have morals, dignity and honor. Something that today's young people do not have, even though they think they do.
If a woman is a man who walks on many women, then the man is a man who walks on many men.
A man for me is a man who makes me smile, a man who does not lie to me and treats me well. Cars and money lose their meaning if they behave badly and have no respect. There are few people who make me smile but He does and I just sink into his eyes.
I am not a pussy by nature, that is, I have perseverance and predictability in my actions, I keep my word, I am not aggressive and indifferent to others, even on the contrary, if I can try to help. I don't epilate but I maintain personal hygiene, I've been a soldier, I'm ugly but a guy like actor Jean Reno - I think I'm a man. I don't have much success with women, it must be due to my ugliness.
I'm not a lady yet, I hope I don't get up soon, but I'll tell you how I see it through women's eyes watching.
The male must have everything the woman wants and treat her the way she wants. But at the same time to be lohman and clumsy, so that she can complain about him, to have loopholes for infidelity, occasions for scandals and reasons for re-education.
Mature, literate, independent, independent, controlling, good, kind, kind, hardworking, communicative, gentleman, real. Tends to listen more than to chat endlessly like a woman. There are many more things I can list
This can be described to you by older women. Because the younger ones don't know what it is at all. Especially if you pay attention to what kind of boys they grab for boyfriends. Total disappointments and misunderstandings.
A man presupposes for me a kind of maturity that no one has at the age of 20. The male has a strong body and is not afraid to stand up for his lady, giving her protection if she cannot defend herself without forcing her. He respects the woman in the lady and knows how to grit his teeth, does not whine, does not ask her about anything, can run a washing machine and make lunch. He will find a way to make money, but he will give her flowers at least on a holiday. Besides, he's not always available, he's not a friend, he doesn't have to notice her new haircut, but he's always ready for sex, and in most cases he makes sure they're both cool, not done faster.
A man is someone with position, opinion and self-confidence.
The man, in my eyes. This is a man who is not a p ... ka. Hey, I am infuriated by such people.
It is.
Go to 10, list the other things so that we know what you are looking for. So far it is easy to please you.
Your grandfathers were male, you were not. Learn from them. It is not a joke. Ask them how they lived, their relationship with their wives.
What else to list. It depends. It is relative and you are either male or you are not, so you are born and gradually improve over the years. You don't have to be super beautiful, there are just people who, wherever they go, all eyes are on them, they just carry this thing, this energy, and you don't have to be a model. There has to be a posture, and not is a mold that does what a woman says. A leader, a leader, to be able to provide the woman with security, to make her feel strong, loved, understood. He must be compliant, but also aggressive, to know who the man is. And no, I'm not easy at all, very rarely can a man impress me. ;)
Don't confuse a man with a man.
Male includes testosterone. You either have testosterone or you don't.
Author, you are not a man, you say it yourself "behave as such". You better not try. You do not emit the necessary pheromones.
I don't see why it's for you. Testosterone is also to blame for human aggression.
Wanting a woman to describe a man to you is like a man explaining to a woman what it's like to be pregnant. There is a saying - make the woman describe the ideal man to you and she will describe another woman to you. Women will describe to you the qualities they like, not the ones that make you a man - there is a big difference.
For me, the definition of a man, or more importantly - a MAN, is contained in R. Kipling's poem "If".
I personally don't have a certain type of men that I like, which means I have to grab my attention first. Here's what a real man looks like in my head:
-kind, but still hides a slight arrogance in himself, quite light
-loyal
-good listener
-careful, but not pretentious, it is known when it takes to overdo it
These are the basics, separately it would not be bad to be intelligent and fun. I've dated men and I've really loathed them, literally. One thinks of himself as the greatest, treats me as if I were an expert, at first speaks kindly to me, then gets annoyed with something and attacks me with words, and then tries to hit me. Nothing masculine. Another woman, older than me, got bored at the tenth minute. Well, he didn't stop talking about himself. I understood his whole life, from the zodiac sign to every disease and allergy he had.
Friend, if you ask women for their opinion, then you are not a man.
Nowadays, if you are not strong, you do not have a BMW and an apartment, you are not a man at all. The qualities of the character do not cost a penny.
A man is a man who sleeps and trains during the day and drinks and knocks at night.
The word "male" sounds very bad to me too, but I will explain how I understand it in the sense you put it.
The male is:
1. Always and absolutely always an honest person, good, caring, kind, polite, intelligent and you can talk to him about everything. He also has morals, he keeps the woman close to him and he would never think of cheating on her because he has a heart and is not a whore like the other "men".
2. Mentally healthy. He doesn't watch porn, he's not perverted, he doesn't try to make his wife a disgusting rag in bed.
3. He takes care of his children, does housework just as much as his wife. And don't whine. Children are common, not just women. Home and care for him too.
4. Do not drink like a dragon, do not smoke.
5. No matter the circumstances, always keep your word.
6. He is not vicious, secretive, does not flirt.
7. Shares problems, dreams, is not ashamed to seek help or advice.
8. It is not played by the "eternal male", because he is aware that every person on this planet has had and will have more weak moments and there is nothing better than a warm hug in such moments.
She is not ashamed to even cry. In fact, there is nothing shameful about that.
9. He is not lazy.
10. Takes good care of your appearance and maintains excellent hygiene.
I deviated a little from the topic, but I was as honest as possible.
The man works in a call center and takes 2002 or is a programmer and walks with narrow legs, reads over the ankles and a jacket with a down hood
I don't know why, but when I hear "male", the image of the traditional Bulgarian anabolic man with unrealistically high and unjustified self-confidence comes to my mind. You know - from those whose gaze says "I have big muscles, therefore the world is mine, women are at my feet, I am unpunished, I will crush you, you are nothing before my great person."
At one time they were males - in the hands of everyone there was a sword that rotates like an angle grinder and flew heads. They rode horses and conquered territories, they took care not of their own useless ass, but of the whole community. your livelihood.
Now everyone who has a duck in his pants thinks he is a man. Nothing like that, not even a man.
Yes, and that word sounds out of place to me. Decent women are just looking for ordinary decent men. A man sounds to me like he's pretending to be some big and powerful person, that he can beat anyone up and think about the big deal. Women do not need such men.
I'm a woman, but I think most women here confuse a man with what they want men to be. Or what I think they should be. Because many women say kind, caring, polite, but they are not really attracted to such men. Which is perfectly normal, because it's not typically masculine. This doesn't mean they're bad, but they're in the background ahead of others. However, the role of the man is to protect, provide, and protect, which duties are a little incompatible with other qualities, which are rather typical for a close female friend.
Male is a definition of character, not a bodybuilding category. It is not serious to claim that a man sounds aggressive and related to fitness. As for me, men usually understand punctual and serious males, who have had difficult moments in life and they have gone through them, they are honest and do not break in front of certain social models to be liked like today's large percentage of squids. Such a man will appear to be a man, and your chosen ones tremble with malice and envy when one appears because he is a potential tramp.
I laughed a lot at some of the comments especially 23 25 27
The male should be able to boil and drink brandy and his word at 2 should not be. Must know all the modules and technologies in knee bacon processing, etc.
and pig processing. He must be able to pee against the wind when he goes to the Balkans. To dig with a digger for at least 2 hours without interruption.
And the most important thing is not to have in his head questions about what women wanted, that he was growing up like that. There is more, but that is the most important thing
Dude, you don't ask the fish how to fish, you ask the fisherman. What women want and what they really have are two separate dimensions.
Just because you look like a man doesn't mean they'll stick to you. This is similar to buying an "expensive" car and expecting them to faint. People car pu * ka is not * e. You also need action, you can't stand idly by and expect her to faint on you. Catch a friend and ask her what a dream man is for her, she will start explaining to you qualities that the one next to her does not have. It is not a dream for anything else, as we know all dreams are free. In order to want, you must have. Everyone wants to be tall, slender, with a sense of humor, to court and pamper her, to be financially successful, to respect her, to be in place. But it offers ...
Here 32 and 33 are very straight, the males are stable and suggest this with their radiance. In our country the idea of a man is blurred, but the mass woman is instinctively attracted to this type, to whom I send negatives in the comments. :) Actually, today every lochman with a good salary and an apartment is treated like a man, but gentle people do not give what women need.
One quality definitely distinguishes the "male" and that is the sense of self-worth. Not to be confused with the pub aplomb of the type "Do you respect me?" By "dignity" in this case I mean independence, justice and responsibility. The man would rather build a hut in the woods than smear himself on a piece of bread of people he despises. He openly stands by his beliefs and is always on the side of the right, not the strong, no matter what it costs him. The male is ready to lead the others and take personal responsibility for their survival, even if he is not completely convinced whether he is leading them in the right direction, he knows how to take risks.
As for appearance, I think it doesn't matter. The professional profile of the man with a capital "M" is also irrelevant, as well as his social benefits. A distinctive feature is perhaps only his good physical health, ie the calm and confident radiance of a person who is not tormented by any disease.
In love, the male is willing to give up the main role of the woman, this is his way to rest. He will not pursue the lady, he will not shower her with gestures of attention, he will not pretend to be a jester in front of her, nor will he waste his time and money on nonsense. The man is generally looking for a reliable partner, he is looking for another fighter whom he can respect and rely on, as a rule, the woman's financial situation, education and origin are insignificant for him; the qualities sought are: perseverance, honesty and diligence (not to be confused with "sick ambitions"). A man with a muffin or a gold digger or an ankle father's daughter are unthinkable configurations. Until he finds "his wife", the male doesn't mind smudging with whatever he finds in his net, but - I repeat - without making any effort. However, he never suffers from a lack of sex (we women obviously can't live if a man doesn't fall to our knees and we usually don't smell until we drag him to bed - and the male knows that). He is a gentleman in bed, but he promises nothing, he will never lie that he has intentions he does not have, he gives pleasure to the woman and gets his own, but that's all. However, if he finds his partner, the male is ready to die for her. With this woman he is gentle, faithful, flattering, generous, passionate, and strong. If she deceives him, his suffering is bottomless and often self-destructive, but he never takes revenge. But he does not forgive - the way back is excluded.
These are my observations on the "male" breed. And my father, his light finger, was like that, and now so is my husband. The influence of such a man on the others in the family is huge - I myself feel certain masculine qualities in myself, I see them in my daughter as well. Just in such families, the words "honor," "duty," and "responsibility" are not archaisms left in Victorian novels, but real moral pillars by which to live. You definitely have to be a strong woman to partner with a strong man.
The modern woman has understood nothing of "what a man is." Today such men are not sought after because the age is different. Today, a woman is looking for a man who has completely different qualities and has yet to look for a definition of this type of man.
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