Lack Of Sexual Attraction

   Run mother! Don't neglect sex! If you don't want it furiously and strongly now, you can't ask for it more strongly tomorrow! Don't ask the old man, but the sufferer! For me, at least, nothing has changed over time ... I wish you luck! F 44

   And I'm 28, my friend and I have been together for two years, only on my part there is no attraction, but anyway. I liked my ex-boyfriend the most, but he has been with another for a long time.

   There is no point in forcing yourself, it just won't happen. Believe it or not, men are also very sensitive. Do it when there is passion. The other is weaning the number. You don't have to let anyone who has shown interest in you. M32

   You loved your ex very much, you say, and in two weeks you start a new and serious relationship. Something is losing its meaning. If this person you know not from yesterday does not attract you sexually, I do not know what kind of relationship you imagine with him or you will be the next one who raises his legs because he is kind, beautiful and RICH. You know what you are, you don't need to ask us.

   Haven't you had at least some intimate contact - a kiss? How exactly did you get together, did you go out for coffee a few times? In my opinion, under "gathering" means that you had sex. If there is no sex between a man and a woman, as if there is nothing, what kind of couple is it? !!

   What does "he told me he had feelings for me" mean, we talked and decided to get together "!!!? How did it occur to you that someone who likes you and you have to reunite with him? First, reunite yourself after the separation and if someone attracts your attention / sexually /, then build a relationship. And now, after meeting him, you realized that he does not attract you as a man / sexually /. Don't force yourself, nothing will come out. You did well not to sleep, split up.

   You shouldn't have started dealing with him at all, since you don't feel sexually attracted to him. Attraction alone is not enough for a relationship, but without it it cannot! (it will be nasty for both of them, it is in this case more nasty for you) Whoever says that attraction / desire for sex could / would come with time, speaks full of fabrications! And it's sad that there are people who have managed to delude themselves that they might be, I think you're one of them ... I don't know. In the Middle Ages, it often happened that people, both among the aristocracy and among the poor, came together in this way - just to continue their genes, to create their own heirs, most often under pressure from their parents. The poor did it out of a sense of hopelessness (but then the life of the poor was really much harder than it is now), especially women. And for those with blue blood it was their main obligation to continue the family by concluding the most profitable alliance with another aristocratic family with a title, or if not with a title, it must be with a lot of money. And this other gender was naturally chosen by the parents, and very rarely was the son / daughter given a chance to decide for himself / herself whether he / she liked the person he / she chose or not - whether he / she felt sexually attracted to him / her. I'm writing all this to you, not because I don't think you've heard it before, but to make you think that today we are not the middle class, but the 21st century - people have freedom - the right and opportunity to choose a partner entirely on personal preferences, not simply by interests and from basic needs! And I often wonder why a lot of the masses, even today in the current age we live in, don't take advantage of that freedom,

   In no case do not force things, because it will be difficult. If he was 18, it would be even more impossible ^^

   In my opinion, the fact that he is not attracted to you is NOT due to the fact that he is different in your eyes, but to the fact that he is open, clear, frank with you and his intentions towards you. I mean, he killed the first thrill in you, the first chemistry between two people, and without looking for an effect, he's just an impulsive type. People have said that good things happen slowly ... and he in his speed did not give you the opportunity to fall in love with him, to really want him. What is it called - the fish is still in the sea, he prepared the pan. Tell me if I'm wrong.

   And have you done other things like pushing, foreplay and so on? If so, how do you feel, are you attracted to these moments, do you want to? I don't think it's entirely from the outside, because both I and a lot of my friends have found themselves in long, serious and passionate relationships with people who don't have the typical traits to attract us. For example, I've never liked blondes and blue-eyed people, but at the moment one of them affects me more than anything else so far. Appearance is not so important, he attracted me from the first two stories and after he aroused my interest I fell in love ... and you know that one lover has no eyes for others. I think that you are not quite ready for the relationship or because you have been colleagues for a long time and now it is difficult for you to accept it as a sexual object. Or you can fit very well in bed. Try the flirtation and see what happens,

   Beauty cannot be forced, don't you know this saying? And you jumped from one relationship to another, probably not to be alone and because of stupid public opinion. Leave the man and give yourself time!

   I understand you, author, and it's hard for me with mine, I endure half an hour there because it doesn't attract me as I want, I don't feel it that way, it's separate in sex with him, but he likes it that way. At first it didn't seem like it is now, just after the second month and I don't know what happened and later I realized what it was about but years have passed together and my relatives know it, there is an affection between us. He's not ugly at all, at least for me, he's not even nice, maybe, no one can compare with my ex and my feelings, but anyway. If we separate, the problem will not be the most basic, however, but we will see how things develop.

   I don't know, but I'd rather be alone than be a masochist and endure even half an hour. This is life for mice!

   To number 4: From what I've written, it seems that you thought I met the colleague in question because he is rich, or am I mistaken? It's not about such things at all, as I said he is my colleague, I work the same as him, my goal is not to look for a man for the money. I know, most people seem to be in a hurry to jump into a new relationship. But I'm not the type of person who complains and gets depressed after a breakup. My previous relationship lasted a year, plus I broke up with my ex for a number of good reasons, which are the subject of another conversation. Given that I got rid of a toxic relationship, true for me emotional, but still with a lot of deprivation on my part, I saw a problem to start a relationship with the other boy. Don't get me wrong, I haven't gotten together with him to forget my ex, he's a radically different character, we have known each other for years, we have been quite good friends, we know each other well. The lack of sexual desire, in my opinion, is due to the fact that I had other malignant problems. However, I decided to wait before judging him until I knew for sure if he had the problem or the side effects. From the author

   Author, it is almost certain that you will not fall in love with this person. As they said, he gave up early, and deprives you of the thrill of the race. But there was a paradox for me. After a year of toxic relationship, I still suffering for the "ex", I met a man. I tried to push him away for almost a year, but he was insanely stubborn, and didn't admit no answer. I don't know if he's good as a person ... but as a sexual partner he's very good. So after a while (forgetting my ex), I started to feel attracted to and strong desire for the man I'm writing about. So if the man is smart and persistent and confident ... there is always a chance

   Author, I remember a colleague of mine, right after my breakup with my ex. I had deleted his number (this happens years ago because I haven't seen my new friend since, etc.) but he tries to write to me. I agreed because I was very depressed after parting with my ex as I mentioned, I even told him he knew about my condition. I also told him - just a friendship and then we may start a relationship or we may not start, I do not know. I even thought he would give up but he didn't give up. So for months we were just friends without privileges, until I decided to try and after we had sex, I offered to be together .. :). And he covered himself, I had no feelings but I hoped they would appear and he stopped looking for me. So, after a while when I found a friend, he looked for me, but it was over for me, I cut him off and he still insisted and did not stop, I did not want to hurt him if he was in love but I did not give him hope in vain. I gave him a chance before when I was free he if he wanted then he would have tried with me :). Well that's ... I don't want to mention this topic anymore.