Jealousy-Catalleya4you

   As a parent, you need to realize that the problem is not yours! That she must realize that she has a problem and fight it alone to build a strong person out of it. Stop making her dependent on you, how do you expect her to discover and solve her problems on her own as you try to solve them before she discovers them? As far as I understand from your story, she has not yet decided that there is a problem, she is begging the enslaver for forgiveness. Her behavior, to feel guilty when she did not specify where she was and what exactly she was doing, is rooted in her childhood, guess who. The enslaver uses the fact that you have raised a girl who, when attacked verbally and physically, feels guilty and prays instead of retaliating. It's okay to show her your support, tell her, for example, that she is always welcome at your place and you will be by her side if she doesn't feel well. But to attack people, who have hurt her, even if you speak ill of them in front of her, this is a big mistake. Hug her silently, let her cry, if she wants, let her tell what is happening to her, but you as a parent should not give advice, hugging is enough, it will give her strength to cope and then she will be a strong woman, because she will stay with the impression and confidence that she had done it alone.

   The problem is not in your child - but in you - go to a psychologist, I hope you get better.

   Talk, tell and how a man should behave and what not to tolerate in a relationship, but it is still great and she makes decisions about her life.

   I lasted, I lasted, I loved him, but I couldn't stand it. And with my future husband, as I said, there were similar things, there were writings with others, but then I was no longer the first child, I shouted, I left, he left, he ran to run after me, he loved me for at least 1 hour, he begged me to come back. He took me and carried me, he wouldn't let me go, and he still listens to me, but if I had left him like that, the same thing would have happened, I think:

   Hello! I read your story. I don't know if I will be able to help you, but I know that it is not only you who are having a hard time at this moment. I'm not 22 years old, nor am I a mother, I don't know what it's like to see my child in tears every day. Which mother would want it !? I have a friend right now and I'm living the same life as your daughter. Is this normal and I do not know. As far as I understand, she tolerates all this and tramples on her own dignity, for the sake of the person she loves. He hides and does not say how it is just so as not to worry you. I also never told my mother what was going on. I say what I think will make her think I'm fine. I wouldn't want her to worry. But then I tell myself that she is the woman who will only stand by me no matter what. Try to get her to share with you .. I'm sure that it needs exactly your support. I hope I helped.

   A nightmare! The girl has lost herself in this relationship. I guess she's smart enough to realize it's not love, but she doesn't have the strength to get out right now, hoping things will change. In addition, in such cases, the victim's unhealthy attachment to the jealous person often appears. I do not know, it is best to visit a psychologist and tell about the problem. I think he would give you the most adequate solution. I mean, you go yourself. Don't waste time

   Help and see from the side. He also speaks as a friend, pointing out only the changes in it without insulting or accusing him, because that is how he will take the position of a defender. She will want to protect him and she will not see reality as it is. Just talk about it NOW, what has changed in its behavior, its energy. The idea is to see itself as a bystander. and, she herself will begin to realize, and in a short time she will only want to end this poisonous relationship. But you really have to try not to give it YOUR decision and conclusions, and to direct it with a lot of tact and discretion to get to them. Otherwise, you will not be able to direct it to this thinking and let this veil of illusion fall, so that it may see the truth. She doesn't even realize she's a victim. Will accept as an attack on the "man of life and" any interference or attempt to separate them. That's why - thinly, discreetly, touch with gloves ... just point, talk and that you are worried about this change in her, that she doesn't have that energy from before, (don't point to the boy) that she already looks eternally stressed, scared. That she doesn't laugh like she used to, that she's sick, etc. Don't create an atmosphere of heavy, dramatic conversation. Drink a cup of coffee in neutral territory and talk calmly, again, the goal is not to see how worried you are, but to see yourself aside, realize what is happening and come to conclusions and decisions on your own. If there is no reason for him to protect him, there will be no reason for him to see him as "poor", then he will think for himself. After a few such "plantings", you can try a similar conversation in front of him, if he cuts you off or attacks you in any way, then your daughter, after already having these doubts in her head, will see him in a worse light, as she will attack her mother, who only worries that her daughter does not look as good as before, without insulting him. especially ... Don't worry about cheating, manipulating, etc. It's about your child! Good luck darling! Do not leave it in the paws of such a creature.