Hello! How to deal briefly is my question? I know what my problems are: a child of divorced parents who will never receive their love and attention, therefore I am very self-doubtful and I still need an external affirmation that I am valuable, beautiful, valuable. When my friend talks about porn, I get sad, but I'm not like that, and that's just a normal conversation. I know I can't fill the void of not having a loving family, but I can't take it anymore. I tried to focus on different areas and activities, but I still come to the conclusion that I AM NOT. I don't want it to be like that anymore, I want to live normally without the excessive fear that I AM NOT. Maybe it's work, maybe my friend, but it's still NOT something and that's me. I AM NOT, I am whipping myself, how can someone want me like that, but this one is more. It's as if there is something that has to be for TO BE ME, BUT I AM NOT. How to deal with these things, where to find my value and get pleasure. Any detailed stories will be useful to me, but please I have done a lot of things and I still am NOT. At the age of 23 I have a job that I could say that I like and do with pleasure, I graduate with a specialty of my choice chosen only for personal reasons because it is humanitarian and I will not see finances from it, I communicate a little with people, but after all, there are some, I rarely do charity, here and there sports or photography, mountaineering, but my insecurity is disastrous for me. I need someone to constantly prove to me who I am, how important I am, etc., and don't tell me that I'm the only person. It doesn't work, I like to spend time with myself alone, but I am still unhappy and suffering from a lack of love. Where can I find it? What can I do to be confident or at least balanced, my fears, insecurities, lack make me a sad person.
1 lardajani answered
It's not that you lack confidence, it's that you want to be the most important. And the most significant ones are not, or at least a few are chosen. Like the Queen of England, for example. Working with a psychologist would help you understand yourself. And one detail - every person is more or less dissatisfied and wants more and more.