It was a while for a man to be "in love," and everything was supposed to be great... But... It happened that we broke up, not so much because we wanted it, but because we felt almost forced by reasons created by his family, they did not approve of our relationship for religious reasons (we are of different religions with him), not that this for us ever mattered, in fact, it did not, but for adults, it is definitely a big problem. He had an argument with his family over it, I started to feel guilty, I didn't want him to still be in a bad relationship with them, they were his family after all. We split up. I just left, no matter how hard it was for me. For several months, we had completely cut off contact with each other. I myself did not forget it during these months, I difficult and hard experienced it, and I never succeeded at all. Until one day he called me, we talked for hours, we wanted to both just see each other. That's what we did. We saw each other, but secretly, hiding, no one would know, we kept texting, talking... So... With secretive meetings, he visits me, I see him, we see him about 2 months, for 2 3 weeks. This hiding has been going on for nearly three years, and we both realize that as much as it is sweet to be together, we are so tortured, by keeping it all a secret, and when one of us has to leave, only we know what's wrong with us. And we can't stop, it's supposed to be the last time, but it's not, and we can't stop, that's the only way we're torturing ourselves, and we're getting nowhere. We know that if we keep going like this, there's no future, but we can't give up on each other.
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nsa403 answered · June 02, 2020
If he loves you, he'il act like a man and stand up for you, despite his family. But realize that three years have passed, in which you have never lived together, nor has he stood up for you and your relationship. It's a long time in a man's life. A time when very serious couples live together and have a child. You're in a favorable position here, no matter how weird it sounds, on the one hand. Because they openly share their problem with you, with religion, as you will call it. I know a lot of couples where a man's relatives don't say a bad word, but they do their best to separate him from the woman. And the man is such a confused one, and he does not even realize that they are against the woman, and this is known in many, even small things. They have it for nobody and they're engaging it, just like that, by the way. And then the woman comes out guilty, wonders what's going on. With you, as in the case I've described to you, it's now the man's responsibility to stand up for his girlfriend and their relationship if he loves her. If not, if he allows his relatives to move him away from her, to set a tone what religion, what kind of family she is from, all of this does not speak well of him. Accept that he has lost three precious years of your life in a game of hide-and-seek and give him an ultimatum. In most cases like this, a woman is an enemy, and his family is the kind and the good. Good luck, though.
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1riz answered · June 02, 2020
They have no future, people who can't build it. And my parents were against the man I loved, albeit for other reasons, but that didn't stop me from marrying him. If a person loves can face relatives, prejudices and everything. And you've given up on your love. I'm sorry, but it seems crazy that free adults (I guess you are)hide like mice because they love themselves. What kind of man is he if he can't stand up for himself and his choice? What makes you worse than women than women than his religion? What century does this man live in? And where, in the Arab world or in Europe? I wouldn't love a coward, a characterless, involuntary man, but you know it. If you really love each other, why are you hurting yourself? You can get together to live in a big city or abroad, and theirs to do so with their prejudices. If you can't fight for your love and the right to be together, you won't be truly happy.
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valeria_riazco answered · June 02, 2020
Go somewhere where that's not a problem.
Find The Story of Annie Vladimirova about a Bulgarian woman married to a Turk or a pomac and how the father falls into the hospital where she works. In the end, he regretted his behavior and the disapproval of the relationship. Sit down and talk in the 21st century, we live one life, it's all prejudice and narrow-mindedness.
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loves_weet answered · June 02, 2020
How old are you, if it's not a secret? If you are old and support yourself and if you love yourself - you should not care at all for the opinion of others, even your families.
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karlita_hoty answered · June 02, 2020
Religions divide people. Love brings them together.
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jopheener answered · June 02, 2020
Number 4,
I'm 26 and he's 29, of course we live on our own and support ourselves. He in Varna, I in Plovdiv, I have no parents myself, I grew up in orphanages, I do not know what it is like to have a family, maybe in it at least in the beginning I have seen the potential to create my own family with him, but... over time, this dream seems to be money.
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cunninglyxx answered · June 03, 2020
This can't go on anymore. Either stand up for your love, or you split up because you deserve to be happy, and if you don't plan to have a common future together now you're just wasting your time.
I don't understand something else, if you're from different cities, why do you have to hide? Is there another woman?
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dirtyysexyyshawtyred answered · June 03, 2020
6, that growing up in homes explains a lot of things, you didn't feel what it was like to do. Until now, it was right for him to meet you with his family, even if they didn't like you, he would try to involve you. All men who act like him are hypocrites, they do not belong a woman to their own family, and they have two lives. A serious man will show his family that the woman next to him is his companion, even the holidays will take her with him. The other are just not normal men...
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megvrga answered · June 03, 2020
The more you hide, the sweeter it will be, keep going.
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someguy3121 answered · June 04, 2020
Number 7,
No wife
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lolanaton answered · June 04, 2020
I don't think there's another woman. Or so I hope so. It's about why we're hiding. Well, neighbors gossip, someone saw us again and sang to his parents, and he's going to have some fights with them again.
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