It Turns Out That The Cheaters Do Not Like To Cheat On Them

I quickly share. Two years ago, I parted with my girlfriend because of her infidelity with another boy. We've been together for three years. I loved her very much and thought she was happy with me, but she was obviously not.

After the separation, she got together to live with this boy. Two years later, she is trapped in infidelity with another girl and the whole is overwhelmed with grief, never letting it happen. She cries and can't find a place.

So what's coming out: always the cheaters claim that they have a reason for cheating, and don't assume that they can cheat on them for some reason. Some may admit that they do not want to get together with their lovers, otherwise, they do not prevent them from cheating on their halves.

So how does it happen that cheaters approve of cheating when it is theirs, and at the same time condemn it if committed against them? God, I don't understand anything anymore!

What is happening! We are not yet 30 years old, and now we are entangled in sexual swirls, and what awaits us after we are married and have children?

I'll explain to you. Your point has nothing to do with infidelity, it is more a manifestation of a larger phenomenon that expresses itself - "The rules apply to others, not to me. I can do my best being a chef." This is the mentality of today. The rest are empty tales, as you understand.

Well, no one likes to feel betrayed, and this is infidelity. Also a great blow to the ego. Yes, it is very hypocritical and once you cheat, you have no right to raise the mare when it happens to you.

It is the same when men explain how they can look at other women, discuss and twist their mustache, but if their half does, it starts with singing and indignation.

With me, my first big love was cheating on me, and he was even super pleased with explaining to me how his babe was doing blowjobs on a bench in front of the National Palace of Culture. I will never forget the feeling. My relationships weren't much better then, so I got used to it being the "norm". I judged not only from personal experience but also from what was happening to my friends. Apparently that's the way the table works, the non-deceivers are some minerals you are very unlikely to encounter.

By "non-treacherous" I mean those who comment to you on how cool this one is, what they would do to it, liking various nudes on social networks and, generally speaking, everything that goes into the sphere of "micro-deception". Over time, I abandoned my ideals and romantic nonsense, and I also began to cheat and do whatever I knew.

BUT! I expect the same on the other side. I do not hope that anyone will be faithful to me as I ride my horse. I accept that this is a massive situation and I do not hope for the truth, because then there will be roar, snot and false expectations. Sure sounds bad, but I prefer this defense mechanism over a broken heart.

I have a friend of several years now. I didn't cheat on him either, but I told him I was OK if something clicked or I didn't know what. I do not stop him, I give him complete freedom. I'm tired of thinking, wondering if she'll meet anyone at the bar, etc. I kind of pre-prepared for that moment, if it comes to that because I'm used to it, I've learned it over the years.

So my advice is to sharply lower expectations - people are fickle, today we can swear in love and love and tomorrow we will be gone. Everything happens. Have relationships, enjoy the person with you, but always with one in mind. In the end, we have only ourselves.