Hello, I am writing this with great pain in my heart and soul. I loved him and I still love him, and maybe I shouldn't, he was my first love and the first man I gave myself to both body and spirit, I felt like my soulmate, the man I could trust and share everything, I needed from him every moment as from air, hours passed in conversations, we listened to each other. In the middle of the night we talked, we couldn't sleep thinking about each other, we wrote to each other constantly, we missed each other, and so 3 and a half years passed, we hoped to get together to live together, our relationship was painful and from a distance, somewhere around 400 km., from different cities and regions, I from the south, he from northern Bulgaria. He kept me all the time, promising to come to me, he finally came up with thousands of excuses and reasons to run away from the situation and force me and his parents to go to him. I feel hellishly deceived and betrayed, as if in front of me he is already a different person, with his real nature. I see him realistically, full of ego and a person who wants to impose himself at all costs, this naturally repulses and hurts me. He is ready to continue without me, if I don't go, and he claimed that he can't live without me ... What would you call such a person, how would you act in my place, how would you feel? I cannot be with him after all he has done to me, because nothing is the same anymore, because it is as if he has made a hole in my heart with his lies and promises. who wants to impose himself at all costs, this naturally repulses and hurts me. He is ready to continue without me, if I don't go, and he claimed that he can't live without me ...
What would you call such a person, how would you act in my place, how would you feel? I cannot be with him after all he has done to me, because nothing is the same anymore, because it is as if he has made a hole in my heart with his lies and promises. who wants to impose himself at all costs, this naturally repulses and hurts me. He is ready to continue without me, if I don't go, and he claimed that he can't live without me ... What would you call such a person, how would you act in my place, how would you feel? I cannot be with him after all he has done to me, because nothing is the same anymore, because it is as if he has made a hole in my heart with his lies and promises.
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No one can love another person more than himself. At least in my opinion. Even if they have feelings for you, everyone tries to satisfy their own needs first and fulfill their expectations, to make their life easier. It's really hard when you believe, when you give all your trust to someone and he goes over it with the roller. But what can I tell you ... it often happens. Just give yourself some time to let go of the emotion. Now, I guess you're still too affected and you can't think soberly enough about the situation. For at least a few days, try to distract yourself with other things, try to find the positive in life. I know it's hard, but try to force yourself to do it. When the bitterness of what happened fades, then you will be able to make a final decision - whether to go to him, although it has not kept its word and has shattered your expectations and dreams, or move forward stronger after this disappointment. You didn't write your age, but I guess you're a young girl (under 30, maybe under 20). Well, if so, there is no point in compromising for someone who has disappointed you to such an extent, because there are many more opportunities before you. Just give yourself time and open up to the world and you will see how you will overcome the pain and one day you will meet a more suitable person with whom to share wonderful moments. And yet the decision is yours. because there are many more opportunities before you. Just give yourself time and open up to the world and you will see how you will overcome the pain and one day you will meet a more suitable person with whom to share wonderful moments. And yet the decision is yours. because there are many more opportunities before you. Just give yourself time and open up to the world and you will see how you will overcome the pain and one day you will meet a more suitable person with whom to share wonderful moments. And yet the decision is yours.