Hello! In my family, I have never had the right to a personal opinion - whenever I express my point of view, it becomes the same - it is ignored to the last or simply accepted with ridicule and ends there. Even now I am facing something that I was firmly against, namely the sale of our own property. The same thing happens when I share something from my everyday life - be it with personal problems or just to lose some money - no one takes me seriously for anything or they just make inappropriate jokes with what I'm trying to say . If they were outsiders I would have figured it out, but it's still my family, I expect a little bit of understanding !? The most recent case - I'm trying to catch up with a girl, I'm telling my sister, she helped with exactly one thing - where to start the conversation. Then our bone, our news - only side comments [mostly mocking]. All this was a secret from my father until recently, because I know what kind of person he is and I knew what would happen next. Somewhere he found out and one night he asked me how things were going with the girl - when I answered he just started insulting her as he boiled ... Of course I care about this man and I was very angry, but hey, what can I do? to do? He has very serious problems with alcohol, which he denies and always after drinking he forgets what and to whom he spoke ... I deviated from the topic, but anyway. I'm just terribly sick of how everyone around me is always have been and will be supported by their families, and I am alone in whatever I undertake or say, etc. I do not have a normally functioning family and this weighs on me, not for anything else, but because they should be my supposed closest.
1 nateberkus answered
It is normal, the norm is behavior that is moderate, so your situation is normal. As far as you understand your son in this family, it is not clear whether you are an adult or not, but still this one. It is normal for the property not to have the right to vote, the property is owned by your parents and they have the right to do with it whatever they see fit. It's your fault for your girlfriend, you know your sister and your family well, who makes you share knowing what will happen? I don't find anything wrong with a family teaching their son not to share personal things, to teach them in a nasty mocking way, but that's the way it is. I'm sorry, but not everyone in this world has the dream family, that's life, that's why people are different because we were raised and brought up differently.