Hello! I will drive essentially! I have been in a relationship with my friend for a year and a few months. The problem is that I can't understand his selfish demeanor. We live in Sofia. We see each other for a few days, which is good, there is no need to suffocate, but when we don't see each other for a long time I ask him why we don't go out, and he answers me because the car spent a lot and he wasn't given money. He didn't make common plans, we don't go out together, he likes me even for a coffee. So for this one year I showed that I hold the person next to me and I don't like it, I'm not a petty person, I found myself in a very difficult situation, I ran out of money, but when I share it I make a comment and change the topic. He sees me struggling and it's hard in this situation, but he doesn't care. I don't want money or anything, I realize he doesn't have to, but I would help him with whatever happens and whatever I can. This is his love. When it comes to me and whether I have a problem, be it financial or personal, it is not there. He likes to hear only the good and to always be smiling without burdening him. If I tell him what I think about these issues, he behaves stupidly and doesn't seem to care. What do you think I should do? I want to shake off my feelings and dump him, but it's hard for me. I realize it doesn't make me happy in any way. I'm tired of giving my best and finally being taken for granted!
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yesikdovejean answered · June 27, 2020
Find another nice one you won't see !!
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andreita_martinez answered · June 27, 2020
If from now on it does not show that it is next to you and you can count on it in need, what can you expect in the future? It's best to move on, but it's up to you.
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99dafne answered · June 27, 2020
Why not comment on such interesting topics? I feel exactly the same way and I understand you very well. And I do not receive any support from my man, neither emotional nor financial, on the contrary. I just despair when I read how unhappy people are in their relationships and I am patient and afraid for not being alone one day. I don't know what to say, I sympathize with you and I understand you!
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tinasugar69 answered · June 27, 2020
Girl ... how many such boyfriends and friends in quotes did I have.
Understand that this will not change.
So what's going on, what is this world. People like you who don't move and have such a miracle and fairytale boyfriend like you, and people like me, who will respond to you with understanding and support and will always be by your side, stand alone.
Yours deserves to be alone forever.
Get out on time. Somewhere out there, someone will carry you in their arms because you deserve it.
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chelseajonathan answered · June 27, 2020
In short and clear - he is no friend to you, and he is not worried about you.
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gurlathome answered · June 27, 2020
Being in such a relationship is worse than being alone. In both cases, you do not have a partner to rely on, but in one you are bothered unnecessarily, because you get a bunch of disappointments in parallel with the problems you already have. Run with 200 even if it is difficult for you at the beginning, this is his character and he will not get better with time, even the opposite - he is more likely to get worse.
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iris_candy answered · June 28, 2020
It's not your relationship, it's just sex. At least for him for sure. Better alone than with this stupid egoist.
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superbeauty answered · June 28, 2020
Of course, this is not normal. Your friend doesn't care about you, he stays in this relationship as long as he's not completely alone, he has someone to go out with and have sex with when he likes it. I don't see how you're going to change it, so dump it. I will not give examples in the future how much worse it can be for you when you cannot rely on the person next to you. It is better to know that you are alone, not to deceive yourself and to find the right person for you.
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jadezzz answered · June 28, 2020
He is looking for a serious person, there is no point in such people. This is not love. He who loves you will want you to feel good.
If it mattered to him, even if he didn't have the money, he would figure out how. He would come by subway if he had to. He would take you for a walk with homemade coffee in a thermos, for example. There are also more accessible ways to show concern and poor people love.
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aliceplatinum444 answered · June 29, 2020
What to comment on this? That someone / she does not have enough reason and will to dump the one with whom he feels unhappy, but is waiting to dump him? They stay in such a supposedly "relationship" for years, although they see how they waste their time, feelings, nerves for a person who does not deserve it with the explanation "I love him" or "I am afraid of loneliness". And they do not understand that they are already alone.
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wet_and_ready69 answered · June 29, 2020
3, what is interesting in this topic? You and the author do not realize that you are weak-willed women. You are not able to organize your life on your own. You are looking for approval and sympathy on the forums for sticking to some selfish person. To me, these tearful stories come in handy. Every second is such a long-suffering, misunderstood martyr, but she does nothing about it and suffers bad treatment until the Second Coming. I neither sympathize with you nor support you. If you don't fix yourself, there is no one to help you.
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lionandlaura answered · June 30, 2020
Because you have both positioned yourself in this relationship from the very beginning in this way. You expect development, but no ideas and suggestions - maybe because you liked it that way or you just swore in everyday life, routine and some inner comfort. You need to get each other out of your comfort zone even if it leads to a conflict between you. Everything happens with conversations and if there is a wall on the other side and indifference means that you are alone.
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lollitamonet answered · June 30, 2020
It is strikingly reminiscent of a man with whom I had a brief relationship and quickly realized that we would not be. A programmer, he must be 37 now, a big man, rude physique with stupid behavior, superficial and tight ... At first glance, he looks like a funny "image", even the children he teaches like him. He imitates all kinds of relationships and concerns until he gets what he is looking for, then he almost waits for you to beg and seek attention. Personally, I regret the wasted time. I was ready to help psychologically, I asked if he was hurt. I felt sorry for him as an orphan. But your feelings and time are no less valuable to waste on them. These men only use women as objects and give nothing in return. Beat his jester and move on.
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grant696969696911 answered · July 01, 2020
What you gave of yourself as you yourself have nothing or you think that sex is all that a woman can give. Bray, it's enough that you have sex and he owes you everything else. All women think that for one sex you have to get everything you want. You will be waiting for your unlimited desires for one sex to be fulfilled. Keep waiting.
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captainbastable answered · July 01, 2020
Author: I did not mention that I am 22 years old, if that matters. I don't have much experience in relationships, but I am aware that the relationship is to be committed to the person. And yes, I want to admit that I'm afraid to be alone. I realize I deserve better, but it's stronger than me. As a child, my father abandoned me and this left such a mark on me that in any relationship I become attached and the fear of loneliness is stronger with me. I obviously have a psychological problem since for me the end of a relationship is literally death. I go through it a lot, I drop out of university, I do everything. I'm just terrified of being alone.