Is There Emotional Infidelity And Friendship Between A Man And A Woman

   Everything is in this world! Absolutely everything. We humans try to categorize things and fit them into certain frameworks, to fit things according to our ideas, not our ideas according to them. This is where the problems come from. In fact, the dynamics of human relationships are more like molecular or fluid dynamics than the simplistic notion: "today you are with this one, tomorrow you are no longer with him, the day after tomorrow you are with another, and so on." In practice, the movement towards each other and back is smooth and rather wavy, without sharp jumps. You can be in a different phase of rapprochement or distance at the same time with several people (whether it is intellectual, emotional, spiritual, sexual or something else).

   There are, if they have a brain and are not susceptible to random thoughts and emotions.

   You don't say the most important thing: what problem do you have with your husband that you can't share with him? You certainly become addicted, and the worst thing is that there comes a time when you ignore everyone and everything around you to hear your emotional partner, and at the slightest problem you seek his opinion, and finally you completely depersonalize yourself and ignore your own. your strength to deal with the problem. And this man is definitely not mentally well, committed, but looking for an emotional partner for emotional outpourings. Get away from those! I had a similar problem only with a fortune teller. I had suggested various things. I called her on the phone, walked to her feet. I asked her about the smallest thing, of course I paid. Until my husband understood and hit me two slaps, which I will remember for a lifetime, but I deserved them, they made me sober and I understood, that if you do not face the problem yourself, there is no one else to solve it for you. Don't delve into this person anymore. This is an abnormal job

   You better not try to ruin someone's relationship. In my opinion, if the man has not taken the step so far, then he does not want to and keeps to his partner. The other option is not to squeeze it :) But you better stay aside, not to get the curve in the end.

   Thank you, I have been separated from my husband for a year, the man I communicate with is 7 years younger than me, I forgot to say and as if my behavior respects him is respectful, but you are right that he seeks advice or opinion on a lot of things. needs to hear what I have to say. When I stop communicating, although I am pleasant, not annoying and annoying, I disappear for two days and he looks for me immediately, he wants to know what I did and explains where he was and what, I don't know I'm really confused and this goes on for a long time and doesn't stop but lives with my girlfriend.

   There is emotional infidelity, usually preceded by bed ... Friendship between a man and a woman? Great joke.

   Come on, let him get over your desire to ask what to do during the day. : D

   Say something about you? Is he married? How old are you? Do you have a husband

   Number 3 crushes, cleans and transports - And "she had a similar problem with a fortune teller" :) Yes, really, there is a great similarity between the 2 situations, they are exactly the same :) and they needed 2 slaps to wake up and stop to fill the pockets of various fortune tellers :) I always thought that "paint builds, not to break down". It's just that some people only understand that. And, yes, and from fortune tellers, to whom the stars whisper :) The bastards aside, on the subject I think that the author does not know exactly what she expects and wants. On the one hand, you keep muttering that you are just sexual objects and men do not "see" yourself but just a set of holes. They always "used" you while you had the most platonic and innocent motives and aspirations. But when such a person appears who, while talking to you, doesn't imagine how he shakes you (well, I can imagine, I know :)) and treats you as a person who has his dreams and fears, then "his behavior is strange" :) In any case - more "strange" than, say, your idea that you will get an adequate answer for your case on this intimate question between you, from this site where lame, blind and crippled minds. Instead of just asking the person with whom you have been sharing a lot of personal things for a year now - what exactly does he expect from your relationship :) I don't know if you realize, but in fact your way of thinking is "strange". And obviously you yourself have some expectations but you do not know how to approach. And your patience begins to run out as you wait for him to take the first step. Maybe you realize that he may withdraw and you may lose a friend. Personally, I don't believe it will get there, but it still depends on how you present things and how you ask him. How he will interpret it is a separate topic. I wish you success in resolving this dilemma of yours. and one last joker - do not go to a fortune teller :)

   Yes, if one of the two is the opposite. In heterosexuals, there is no way to have only friendship - always one at some point tends to sexual intercourse. The question of whether it will take place is quite another, but attracting on this basis is enough to tell you that there is no such friendship.

   Don't get involved with committed men !!!

   Thanks, I bring criticism and I accept your comments. Well I stopped today is day 2 I have decided to distance myself, I think I still have something in my head and I do not play the role of the 3rd, I do not suffer from lack of attention, but sharing is It was quite personal indeed, Everyone has gone through a period for this year and so the rapprochement became stronger. There is no day in which we have not written or heard and there is a person next to me. I have to try and thank you Aware and that's what I wrote, I do not believe that someone runs away from friendship really and a person with whom you can say 2 words heartily, but I will try.

   Obviously, you don't just want friendship with this man, otherwise you wouldn't have these Radini excitements: what does he expect, what does he want ... Well, in my opinion, he doesn't expect or want anything, otherwise he would have been activated so far. It hangs you, it scratches your ego ... something like that. Or you could be a backup, just in case his boyfriend beats the jester. My faith in men is touching, isn't it:))) Life experience, nothing personal. I had read a thought somewhere, I might not be able to quote it exactly, but it was something like this: There are ten steps between two people. If you have passed your five and there is no one to meet you, turn around and leave.

   I understood everything written, somehow bored but he shared ... let me inform you that after 2 days of silence on my part, he called today and said in my vacation I'm waiting for you at the cafe where we see each other 3 times and again the same does not say anything essentially, but let's see who says what and so on. and 14 BELIEVE AND MY Bitter EXPERIENCE DOES NOT LEAD TO RADIO EXCITEMENTS, I accepted the man as a friend without flirting or overplaying, etc. I do not believe in men, but sometimes that myself becomes more dangerous. And so nothing new ... my puzzle continues. That is why I wrote and I am convinced that there are other people in similar situations.

   From number 14: And why do you think a man will want to see you for coffee on your lunch break without saying anything significant, without offering you anything? Men and women in general are not philanthropists. They usually do things for a purpose. The men who invite me somewhere on my lunch break, and after it, always want something - often sex, sometimes a favor. No relatively unknown man invited me for coffee like that, to tell each other who did what until we saw / heard / wrote. Maybe you should clarify what this man really wants from you, author. And then there will be no puzzles.

   honestly, sometimes I don't understand the dramas of some, even though I'm a woman! what kind of puzzle is shaking you? I still don't understand, are you bragging or complaining? you see the person - well, you talk different things - well, you drink coffee - not bad. what exactly is your problem? that it does nothing more? or that he might not be able to do it? and what do you want - to continue or not? and how can we get into his head and know what he thinks? if you like it, continue in the same spirit (this type of communication is obviously enough for the person), if not - stop it. but you really don't know what some want ... G46

   You've been alone for a year and a half. Summer came. Your hormones are boiling. He likes you, you like him, you share ... He doesn't take the first step because he has a partner and he is not sexually "pressed". You're in trouble, so to speak. Dude is waiting for you in the most cultured way to "squat". And as I watch, he gets closer to his goal. The goal is to have sex with you. There is no movie "emotional infidelity" and "just friends". There is pleasure and sex. It's just that he's a bully, he wants you to take the step. That is his goal. It gives you all the non-verbal signs, clearly and unambiguously and is one step away from success. You want him, but you pretend to be pinched, you are one step away from offering yourself to him. You really want the opposite, but it doesn't happen. The dude is a bully. Why should he offer it to you, seeing that you are almost "ready". Decide now, what can I tell you more here? It doesn't happen the way you imagine it, you want it. You have a child, he has a girlfriend. There seems to be no option to leave his girlfriend and get engaged to a woman and take care of a child who is not his. But it seems that he hardly minds having sex with you. Comfortable and smart on his part. Sex with a woman who enjoys it, but without unpleasant responsibilities, etc ... I can say that he is a hell of a cunning dude and he works very masterfully. Why do you ask us when you have almost solved it? It's only a matter of time before you go to bed with him. You don't break relationships, I don't know what ... Chatter bang. You are lovers. You just haven't fucked yet. You're both cunning. You want it to be your way, and he wants it his way. But he has an advantage that grows in his favor. You pull, but with all your might. You know what will happen, but your desire obscures your thoughts already. You are not small. Do what you see fit. There is no one to give you advice, what to do. You can only be told what everything looks like from the side, but you can see beautifully on your own. It's just that things are coming to an end and you're torn apart by thinking. Do what you want, you are not small.

   I completely agree with 14 - it's about "Radini excitement", but you're afraid to admit it. So far there is nothing wrong, there are few who have never fallen in love in their lives, but you say "14 BELIEVE AND MY BITTER EXPERIENCE DOES NOT LEAD TO RADINA EXCITEMENT" - "bitter experience" does not scream that you have nothing to do with the young man who is probably a bachelor and his main goal is to scratch his ego ??? Doesn't your bitter experience suggest that people like him won't stay with you for long, and the moment you are physically present, the emotional infidelity will continue? Hasn't your bitter experience taught you that at best they use you as a trash can? Others have said it, but let me confirm - it's obvious that you're not clear with yourself, you don't know what you want, you don't know what you expect to happen between you, you just want a man, you want male attention, more precisely you want sex, your curtain has fallen and you are ready for any compromises. You have already made your decision and no one can stop you, the question is when the young man will ask, and you will be wetter than ever, and then you will think of him AFTER.

   19. Super adequate answer. Fuck me, he is not a fool, otherwise I would not communicate, everything happened by accident and lasted a long time, probably in a suitable situation there is everything in the face that there is attraction, but the fact that I am older does not mean that I have more experience I want good sex or I'm sorry, we're just friends. I don't play games with this man, that's why I'm hesitant. 21, 14 I'm not the trash, because I also shared without expecting a reaction at 3 in the middle of the night, say. Everyone has moments, I started to think, when he said you can count, when he shows and not says, then. So far it was all a joke, a cigarette and who he was from and I knew he didn't live alone. Thanks to all of you though for the feedback

   I am also divorced and believe that there can be a friendship between a man and a woman, but only if there is no physical attraction, even one-sided. In your case, it seems to me that this is not the case. With these frequent meetings and the excitement on your part, it seems to me the exact opposite.

   The work is clear, so end everything with the committed man. People like you are not ashamed ... Don't divide people, let them separate themselves, in case they decide. I hope they do not separate. Scratch your scabies elsewhere. That many men are looking for me, both bound and unattached ... Let me start sharing with them at any time of the day. The morality of a society is evident in women. He doesn't bother with other people's work. Don't you have the courage to face his wife, to tell her about your emotional experiences? Don't you have the courage to tell him all this? Instead of hoping to separate ... Despicable and ugly. F22

   Author, When someone starts writing sentences only in capital letters, it means expressing, emphasizing some emotion. And they aimed at the sick place. Another thing, when you start overtures like "I'm not like that, I'm not like that", etc. Why do you put unnecessary elements in your story, just excited to get a "desired good sex". Nothing more. In your other topic you say a 36-year-old woman with a child, I don't break relationships, but she looks at me, but she looks for me, but we share, but I don't know what ... He has a girlfriend at 30, young, but is there emotional infidelity, just friends ... Your desire comes down to the desired and good sex. One year alone, older gentlemen must have seen you as the perfect mistress, but lately they have been looking at young gentlemen. You do not lack attention. You feel loved and wanted, like spring, well, summer is over. It's good to be told and to feel it, right ... Only that sometimes after the desired and good sex you can hear that you are a friend. Who's crazy to tell you before. Apparently it suits you anyway. Then there is no need for drama, because it does not matter that you have a child, nor do you care that he has a relationship ... Just on the agenda is the desired and good sex. ;) Why were these stupid overtures?

   If I'm not mistaken, I write in shares. net and is are reading and posting. Your sharp tone does not excite me and does not read to me STUPID OVERTURES IN CAPITAL LETTERS .... Thanks for the comments above to all