Is There A "connection", No "connection"?

Hello, I am writing here to get advice, because no one can give me such ... really no one, except people who do not know me. At the age of 20 I am a girl neither beautiful nor ugly, I consider myself a well-read person, but I always come across abnormal boys, and who knows, I may be abnormal. So the story is as follows, 8 months ago after parting with my ex-boyfriend, with whom I was 4 years old, I met a boy of 23, kind, intelligent, polite, meek ... at least that was my first impression. We went out a few times and we both wanted a relationship ... but we had to stay afloat ... hmm well I told myself it might be fun. It was not at all and still is not! In the beginning it was perfect we talked every day, we wrote to each other every day, we went out less often because my work is quite obsessive about time: D. And yet we were ok. Yes, but for 8 months we do not know what we are. Everyone says how much we go as a couple, and he is silent ... not a word, he says how special I am, how much he liked me, how he likes to spend time with me and the next moment we do not hear from each other for days ... seven days he didn't call, he didn't write ... and then he tells me that I ruined his fun ... that's how this job works, when I want a serious conversation he avoids it I know if he avoids me for what he wants. I give him freedom, I'm not looking for him honestly because I know that he is a freedom-loving by nature and quite a big partygoer ... I'm not saying that I love him, I was in love and this is definitely not love, but I like him as a person and as a friend. yes, appearance is not who knows what, but I'm not a top model, and appearance has never mattered, but what is this complicated situation, what is it about ... I can't and can't understand how one day he is kind and caring to me, and the next he doesn't seem to care about me And isn't that so ... all my friends say he doesn't sleep ... but then why did he introduce me to his parents, to his friends ... oh I'm crazy, I've already become like a maniac. In the end, I decided to let myself go with the flow and I made trouble ... I cheated on him - it's not entirely about kissing, because we don't have sex either ... he understood because I told him .... he told me if you want to cheat on me, I can't stop you, everyone does what they want - that's what it is now ... By the way, I know that he doesn't cheat on me ... this is at least 100% clear, but what is the reason for it his demeanor? And what can I do to keep trying or get out of this pseudo-relationship? Please give advice ...