Honey, I'm writing to you from the position of a mother with a daughter 16 years:) And I'm going to tell you one thing: good or bad, she's your ONLY mother, another you won't have, even if your father changes his wife. I know it's not easy for you, and I wanted to escape from home when I was your age, but when life pushed me and I was alone with a child on my hands, my parents picked me up. So don't judge her! Face it!!! She's going to support your life...
Hi, Honey. You're right that neither a court nor a madhouse will help. If you get a chance, you can save yourself. At least I haven't been able to. That's what I can tell you.
It's very difficult to give advice. In time, you might have somewhere to run, but it would be bad to let your father handle himself. In my opinion, you have to squeeze your teeth and support all of this and support your father for the sake of your own good, you know it's not easy for him. You have to keep up with him so you can live a little bit if that's possible. You can not give advice because you only I don't know if you're a believer but pray to God to help you. Good luck and be very, very strong.
Try to talk to her when she's sober and show that she can trust you as well as your father, maybe something makes her behave like this
Unfortunately your mother is ill, she needs professional help-she is an alcoholic and needs treatment. You and your father have to make a decision, because it will be against her will. At the moment she does not realize what she is doing, so your signatures are needed to treat her! After the treatment I believe there is an Alcoholics Anonymous club, so they help themselves!
Only one is the possible advice-do not blame yourself and do not burden yourself with the care of your parents, these are their mistakes-learn from them, but do not take them to heart. They're big people, and they're going to find a way to get better--that's their life. Make sure you find your peace and get the most out of these scandals by telling yourself that it's not your fault and you have nothing to do with them. Your mother if she's willing to heal, it's all fixed. Success.
I agree with 6. Your dad's going to be fine, he doesn't mean it. Don't believe the words that binge didn't realize what he was doing-he realizes very well, but he doesn't care. I would advise you a very good and 100% accurate way to deal with the situation, but still you are a girl and you would not go. I grew up in a similar environment, and from experience I tell you that binge is like the animal--of course only one. He understands only a stick. Literal and portable.
Gee, I've never heard of it, but first your father has to take his hand and prove that he's the man in charge, he's not going to beat her just with character and with gestures, talk that if you worried your kids and he doesn't have a place in the house, I know he's afraid because he's a good man and his word isn't heard in your family. If he does not change things will not get better especially when a woman reaches the bottom very hard to emerge
Hello, dear girl, alcoholism is a disease and is treated in specialized establishments. Your mother can't help herself, only the people around her who really love her will find the right way to treat her. A man goes to the bottom with some help, it's foolish to accuse her as intolerable as her behavior is. If you are strong and you want to help, because you care for her, when you ask your soul, you will find the right way to help. With much faith and true love, things get better, but you need time, patience, perseverance. If you angry to her constantly and you do not understand her cry for help, you will be miserable for a long time, because it is your test and the solution is only from you until you find the good.
Hi. I am the mother of teenagers who obviously have not yet realized my problem. I guess I haven't hit the bottom yet, but I've started to scare myself.
The situation with me is that I realize it, and your mother doesn't. The fact that you share the problem means that she is not indifferent to you. If you love her from all your heart and have tried to help her with all possible ways, try to be with the impossible so that you can be together and once you have your own children. Because people said the pear didn't fall farther than the tree. A little support and trust is never superfluous.
Have confidence in you and trust in your mother, and after a while, after years you will not be able to say that you have not understood the problem that prompted her to sow the cup. So dear girl, don't blame only your mother for reaching for the cup. First try to find out the problem that makes her get drunk and then when you have Done and the Innode to help her does not help try again. Don't give up. You don't know....
No one has ever become an alcoholic for good. Dear girl, look at your parents ' relationship. Doesn't your dad play too much of a victim, and he's not a good guy. I think it's advantageous for people to look like the man who sacrificed himself for his children. What he does to help the woman to herself. If you're the closest person who betrays you, what can we expect from others? What about you and your brother? Are you really the good kids who listened to mom, and she's been acting like this for no reason, and she's come to this. She's desperate. You must be in pain when you're gone. You three are the people you can help and not to wonder how to save yourself individually, after/sure I am/And you have not a small share for the Pova situation.
For the 11 and 10 I can only say one thing and it is that you can never blame the children for the problems of the adults. My father doesn't pretend to be a victim, because no one knows about the problems he has with his wife. The only problem is that this woman cannot live with people, and proof of that is that she drove her own son and told him to fend for herself, that was three months ago, and she never thought of calling him or looking for him. It is easy to talk from the name of parents and especially to mothers, but why not ask yourself what is it with your children, because first of all we are such children who share on such sites, so as not to blame their parents. Just because nobody blames and tries to fix things with good, that's why all the bad things are piled on the head and instead of gratitude gets a kick in....
1. I pray to God that my daughter will not hate me as you hate yours. A day will come, and you will become a mother, then you will understand how much this woman needs from caring, loving and good attitude from her closest.
You have a very heavy family problem and you have to discuss what to change in your attitude, what treatment to take, etc. You will need a lot of patience, effort and compromises. Nobody's just bad. The smile strikes with a smile. Success!
Ladies, I do not say it in order to humiliate you, insult or embarrass you, but look at the statistics of how many children are abandoned, not only from Gypsies and then conclude that the concept of mother is not idealized at least to some extent.
1, you're happy you had a mother. Do not write that this woman will be the support of the girl in life after she can not recover herself, and she needs help. You just look at things from what happened to you. Be thankful you've done it, but don't be fooled. And the others, respectively. Don't be an idealist. You can't understand the girl because you didn't feel it, but just the opposite, you got help.
I totally agree with 9. It is a disease and it is necessarytreatment.
10, I guarantee you 110% that your kids are very aware of what you're doing. You don't seem to see it. It's wonderful that you've realized. What's in it for you to put on your own tailback? The money you give for the alcohol you give them for the family or if necessary give them to a doctor to help you.
11, you are a horse with lids! If the girl wanted to be rescued individually, would she be writing here and asking for advice? "No one has ever become an alcoholic of good." I don't know, but I've never met a bigger fool. There are none that are alcoholics just to be a fiddle and self-esteem? Why don't you go by the restaurant at night? I see you're pretending to be a victim in your case. You can tell that you're eating your conscience and writing this to make excuses for yourself.
13, and to you I write that the girl does not hate her mother when she writes here and seeks advice on how to help.
And here's what I'm going to advise you:
First, ask yourself what causes your mother to drink, and then how to liquidate them so that the consequences are gone. There's a reason and a consequence for every thing. Talk to your father and seek medical attention, including from a psychologist and not just for her, but for you, your father and your brother. And you need it. The environment strongly suppresses you and this will help you stabilize. There's no shame in turning to a psychologist, even a foolish man not to look for him when he needs it. If necessary, the psychologist will talk to your mother and without her knowing in advance that he is such. I totally agree with everything that says 9. Don't answer aggression with aggression. This creates new aggression. This will tell you the psychologist.
I wish you all good!
You're having a hard time at home, aren't you? It's kind of like the Twilight Zone zone. I have the same mother. I was a tinker when he started drinking. I haven't been a teenager in a long time, and it's been very bad with her. But the worst part is, she feels good. Just in the meantime, shorten all our lives. The whole family. And looking at her is very good. It's like alcohol keeps it in shape. We put her in the hospital many times because she has cirrhosis. They told her bofor not to drink, but she didn't even drink water. Just vodka. Clean. And it's not getting worse. Everyone around her is getting worse.
That kind of people don't fix it. And in a mental hospital, we brought her with my brother. To treat her for alcoholism. You were scared for a while and then again. He's doing extremely crazy things.
You can't save yourself from a man like that. I haven't lived with her for many years. I have my family, my children and my home. But she hangs us like a rock on the necks of everyone. Every other day, something happened and we run to rescue the situation. My father's locked himself in, and I don't know how the man stood.
We don't talk about shame. We got used to it.
There are such people, born, exist, harass others, live relatively long.
And sadly, you were lucky enough to be the daughter of a woman like that.
It's not your fault. Just watch out and look philosophical. And keep your family away from her.
And one more thing--this talk about hard life we know. And your life, and mine, and our fathers.... All alcoholics have an excuse for their heavy lives. And they always find a way to buy liquor. But not bread.
My father also drank my mother by seeing him drunk and leaving the house and I was only 10 years old and I can not deal with him, he walked to me bed and I was never alone and I washed advice.
Until the 16th, does your mother take you with her? How can I leave you? What do you mean, you bed to me? When you're not alone with who you are? -Give us more information to know how to help you.
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