Is It Unnatural That You've Never Had Sex Before?

Oh, that's a tough subject! I have a close friend of a man who is now 32 years old and has not yet had a first time with a woman. Nature doesn't seem to have created it for that. Even if he comes across the most drunk and sado masochistic party, no woman will want it. But everything else in his life is working - wonderful family, loyal friends, worth work and colleagues. Every time I think that for such critical situations, in later years of life you will find a living wise woman who prefers a family with a stable man, regardless of his appearance and lack of sex life. Of course, if a man wants and strives for such actions... We have to respect a- sexual men and women who do not need sex, and consider it only a means of reproduction!

People have not accidentally said love is blind and that there are passengers for every train. No serious woman cares if you've had sex or if you're small. The serious woman is looking to be serious with serious intentions and to provide her with a good family and a family hearth with one word of certainty.

'Do you think this is unnatural and can damage a man's psyche, cause him to shut himself up, suffer from depression or other diseases, or even unlock an interest in his own sex? Not. Because I pose too much, who were super "active" during the school years, but again they were "hardened," "depressed" and someone had a LOT of interest in their own gender.

Physiologically no one died from a lack of sex, no one dies. Such individuals under such a mask are often serial killers, rapists, paedophiles and mass executioners.In the right conditions of proper light you will see their true nature.Few individuals manage to channel sexual energy in building fruitful power, it requires high spiritual maturity, inherent only in the most towering souls. So be careful with the people who don't do sex-under the rabbit jacket is hiding a saber-toothed tiger.

Stop thinking and think you're defective. Women are repelled by complex men.

You've covered the basics. Yes, it's a problem. First, the reasons. There's probably a problem. Low self-esteem, social inadequacy, bad appearance, etc. Second, the aftermath. Depression, bitter lye, lack of experience, etc., which make things even more difficult. Third, the decisions. If you're a woman, every road is easier, because in women, virginity is still a value (although at a certain age I don't know exactly what exactly), you're not supposed to be such an active country, and it's easier for you to get a little girl. In men, however, activity is expected, they are expected to lead, to be experienced, and women choose more. And as you can feel, most women wouldn't be someone's teacher. For example, it actually strikes me as a slightly humiliating, slightly perverse (and not in a good way) and a little mean-thinking to teach someone that kind of thing. And it's not some cool young man, but someone... Well, with an apology, rejected from everywhere. I'm going to feel like a prostitute or some tanned madam. Somehow I'm not having a good time. Another is a man with experience and self-esteem, and you both know what you're doing, what you want and how to do it. But that doesn't mean such men are a lost cause. I think it's up to them to get tight and act. Nowadays, there are many ways to quickly turn around some experience. Whether you're going to make a seftician, if you're going to soak up the discos, it's about overcoming the barrier to act and gaining a little confidence that you know what it's like to touch a woman. The downside is that most such men are so immersed in self-pity and bitterness that they only calm down with tales of how black the world is and how bad women are and don't want to move an inch of something to change. G30

17-19 years seems to me the optimal age. This is the perfect combination of hormones, body and mental maturation, opportunities enough time to communicate with the other sex, luck, desire, etc. etc. After 25 years, it is already an obvious indication that a person has something serious limp in personal development. If he didn't do it after 30, it's already 95% certain that this will never happen (in the normal way)...

I'm a 42-year-old man, and I've come to terms with never getting a woman closer.

The lack of experience can catch up. It's bad if the man is filled with complexes, because they're going to interfere with his relationship. To such a person I would give advice to visit a psychologist to find out what prevents him from having a relationship with the opposite sex and to overcome it. One should not despair - that someone is a virgin does not define him as a person and does not give him a lower value. If the guy's a good guy and we like each other, I'd give him a chance :) G31

By "unlocking an interest in one's own sex" it just shattered me. :D Otherwise, low self-esteem is a major factor in the delay the first time. A depression person may also have after having sex because she does not treat him. If you're with the right person, yes, depression would affect and heal, but not because of sex, but because you have a healthy emotional connection with the person that cures most mental disorders.

It's better to be a virgin than to be with a lot. But being a virgin because he has morals and wants to be with only one, not because he's asexual.

Women think anyone with no money is defective. And if there's money, no matter what else, it's spectacular.

Oh, guys, I don't understand. And what's the big deal that he didn't have sex with? What if he suddenly does and hops a miracle happens, or if he doesn't? He's got the notorious sex, just for him, he's got the power of me.

I'm not :) a man at 39 and I haven't had sex. If I fall in love with a suitable partner and if everything gets impulsive, without the masks and stupid "just let me go" masks, perfect, I'd do anything with her, we'd do anything with her, we'd both do anything with her. Everything else to me is hypocrisy and begging for sex, and I am not a beggar and do not serve myself with lower techniques just because of something primitive and not so necessary. I'm not in a hurry and I'm not comparing myself to anyone, I'm happy, I look a lot younger, and what I've learned in this life is that nothing gets forced or you fall to someone else's level to experience your ego or not stand out from others. if not okay, there are other lives besides this one!

I don't think there's a problem with that. I'm a woman in my 20s. My first time was when I was 18. Before that, I thought I was going to die on my own, I was super closed and depressed, but things happened. However, I still feel like, even if I have a person by my side, it's hard to relax in front of other people and I think that's going to play a very bad joke for me.. As for your "problem" - everything will come with time, it is enough to have desire and more confidence! Success!

Number 4, what you say applies to every person, as long as the malice, such people need not so much physical closeness as an inner one, as number 11 wrote, a healthy emotional connection that heals.

14, as if to say "What's as much as his nose purple?". Well, nothing, but it's an indication of something... for example, that his nose became infected and gangrene had occurred... Does that seem normal to you? Otherwise, for the color itself- no problem...

No7 and No8 are right. Life is not endless to think about everything and wait years for the perfect one. It may not sound very pleasant, but no one prefers an old, aged commodity over a crisp and fresh one. Every thing in their time. Virginity at 30, 4th, that more is something unnatural from everywhere.

There is no upper limit, of course. And how you have to act depends on personality, character, values, etc. I think the most important thing is not to get into movies alone. Sex is a good thing, but its meaning is very far-fetched by hormones. In that sense, if your values allow it, try a prostitute. Millions of men do it - there's no shame in that. Use a condom necessarily. At least you'il have an idea of what you're missing. And don't despair, don't get down outside a normal level, which is even healthy in my opinion. Come on, good luck.

Number 21 well when you see an indication of something, and I'm talking not only about you, but also about everyone who's unnatural and a sign of disease, don't communicate with people like that, stay away and don't interfere, it's already a natural reaction (keeping yourself from disease not to get infected) that is clear to everyone, you can see that you cannot give them what they need to help them, at least do not prevent them.

Hello, author! Hello, forum! I'm a 25-year-old boy. I'm still a virgin. Student, young, polite, polite, with a sense of humor, relatively attractive and with enough self-esteem to have coverage. There were always girls around me. However, I still do not know love. That's right, I haven't had an intimate girlfriend. I'm not gay, bi-sexual or a-sexual. I like adult movies, and I like to self-indulgent. Many times I've wanted to rip the shirt off or reach into a colleague's panties. It's happened to me, my mate in my boxer shorts, so much so that he can't go outside, that at one point he won't hold out and shed white tears. Essentially. Personally, I'm ashamed to share with my friends that I'm a virgin. But so I don't lie to them, I've told them that sexual topics don't comment on them. If they ask me about sex and intimacy, I answer with the line that a gentleman doesn't share such things. Only my best friend knows about me, but the irony is that he is also childish, 24 years old. We've been living together since we were students. We're studying psychology. We've known each other for 17 years. We're not hiding anything from each other. Tell me (in earlier years) that there is interest in my body and especially in my genitals. The situation was awkward, but I allowed myself to run the channel, undress (we had never seen each other naked before) and masturbate together. I let him touch me there, research and feel what he was feeling. I was researching, too. There was excitement from both of us, but at some point we looked at each other and it actually became clear that we were not experiencing sex drive for each other. We laughed and threw jokes about being big. Since then, however, we don't hide from each other if we're complacent. It doesn't stop us from getting around the house naked, even if we're us right now. We're just throwing jokes. We're a lot of jerk-offs together. Sooner or later, these children's or if you're going to call them gay performances will stop. The moment we find friends. On a psychological level, we feel very close and with these actions we maintain our libido. On an emotional level, we thus support each other for not being sexually assaulted from society (there is at least one who is willing to perform a sexual act with me). On a physical level, we accept our nudity, and that doesn't bother us. All this, if you're going to believe it, works. Because my boyfriend has raised his self-esteem and is increasingly going out to companies where there are girls. She even has a girl she's intimate with and sex in. And I'm writing a lot of interesting stuff with a colleague, and I've even already put two condoms in my jacket to be ready for my first time.

Well, my lack of sexual and romantic life is probably rooted in my insecurities and my fear of meeting new people. I finally got off to a loss because my obesity had started to give me health problems (purely physical, not just mental), I started playing sports, even got that I liked it, the girls started smiling at me from time to time, but I'm still a big nerd, especially around girls I like. I'm 22.

For me, the problem would be that this man has never experienced intimacy than inexperience. At 30, I'm still sitting down to teach him what's normal in sex, even before and after.

It depends on what your values and goals are in life! Not having sex itself is not pre-empting your mental and emotional state. Those who start to la*cat at 11-13 years old. are they very well mentally? If, however, you haven't done it at the age of 20 and a few, 30 years, it can already be a symptom of some kind of problem! Someone will ask why it is normal between the ages of 16 and 25, or why between 20 and 25 is not a symptom of something! Later start of a sex life can be preordained by the environment in which you live and move - parents, marital status, material situation, the lack of a suitable person to do it with, etc. On Earth there are remote places like islets and hard-to-reach small settlements with few inhabitants - there how do things sit? Not to mention that at these latitudes, there's also sex with relatives... Does that make it more normal than not doing it? It is clear from the female comments that the ladies are rather intolerant of the inexperience of the man, and this is a problem for them. But they don't think about how long they've been spinning boyfriends, that they're afraid of the first time, that they have to wait; They have been spinning them and continue to spin them for months before they enter into sexual relationships, killing the male desire and crushing the male dignity - as if he were some sole who must endure unmoshed lyrical stupidity and unrealized desires for the opposite saint... Of course, these same ones will never revolve around a young man and thus give him the relevant signals, but they will prefer to remain unsatisfied, whine everywhere in public places or compete a few for one - understand someone cooler, richer, etc.... And in their nervous state, they will click through the forums, that they have no desire to show how it works without remembering how a significant part of them at the beginning of their sex life in all likelihood brought out the skin some "teacher".

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