Hi, I'll start with being a girl in my 20s. Because of some circumstances, I haven't had sex yet, and they're the following: I'm more anxious, I can't engage with men I don't like visually (to know it's superficial, but to understand it I would explain it like this: "when you don't like what a food looks like and you haven't tasted it, would you ever eat it? "... Anyway, I've always received male attention, but it's normal, every girl gets! I don't think I'm a top beauty, but I don't think I'm ugly. So, let's move on to the essential part! When my acquaintances started to lead a sex life, I found the way they started out as super wrong and didn't want to be like them, they just went to bed with guys they didn't know and didn't like just so they could boast that they were no longer virgins, or so began to propose to men that I wondered, do these people have elementary dignity? While I thought that being a virgin wasn't a problem, someone would at least like me and physically appeal to me to have a desire to go to bed with that person, that's already starting to become a problem. I don't know if it's all in my head, as I know girls who are still virgins and don't care and don't have my worries. And my worries are that eventually when I make a friend, and he's unlikely to be my age because I always like me older than me by at least five years, this guy will expect me to let him go on the 2nd, 3rd week, and maybe when he finds out I'm 20 and I'm not having sex, it's going to be weird because we live in a society like this. That girls start a sex life before they even have their cycle! I don't know if it's normal to still be a virgin, probably not, but no one can say "when is it normal and when you're not"! The problem is, I keep hearing girlfriends explain themselves to their partners, and I'm standing and listening and not even having a boyfriend. I'm starting to feel like some super-clogged 20-year-old virgin! And to know the problem is not in men, but in me, maybe I have too high criteria, but I can not pay attention to everyone who writes to me, so there are those (many) who can not write properly, or when the conversation with "what are you doing sweet", I just feel sick! And the men I like are some total slobs with tremendous self-esteem! And damn it, people, it's not for my fucking sex, if it's my dawn, believe me, I can get it at any time there are enough men who are willing to lick my soles to go to bed with them, but I don't just want sex as much as I say I'm not a virgin!
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nicoleniagara answered · June 23, 2020
I'm not sure you have the problem. Men are their pussy these days. But don't worry, sooner or later you'il find the right person. If he's worried about being a virgin and not letting him go in the second week, then it's not a big loss. If the guy cares about you and he's a good guy, that's not going to be his problem.
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muslim_candy answered · June 23, 2020
Man in his 40s:
If you've gotten there to write here, it looks like your situation is heavy. especially at the end of confession, you become emotional about the subject.
My opinion is that there's nothing wrong with being a virgin in his 20s. Each person is different, has different thinking, different life events and choices that lead to certain results. For the record... I had sex for the first time at the age of 24 and frankly I didn't really care until then. I was just a shy (otherwise very sympathetic) young man who, like you, enjoyed female attention, but I didn't have the right approach to women and didn't know how to materialfor their interest :) No one knew about this secret of mine because I didn't look like I was a virgin. With me, there was no internal tension and aspiration to be "like the others"... and eventually at some point a girl appeared, with which it happened.
Be who you are, don't listen to or look at the "others," stop comparing yourself to them and let your moods be influenced by their actions or opinions. Don't think you're in a hurry or you're missing something.
I promise you, at some point, the right man will appear, with whom the mechanism will click. Just relax, socialize, flirt, spark interest. You women do that ;)
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shyncguy answered · June 23, 2020
How weird? I know people like you, I know people who are two or three years older than you and have the same fate. There are also men among these acquaintances of mine, which to me is more surprising, because girls seem to be more cautious about their first time. Anyway, go out with people, socialize, and it's going to happen. If you're not up to your sex and you don't take virginity as a disease, then keep waiting. I guess different men will react differently, but don't think they're all like sexual animals whose sole purpose is to be satisfied.
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loves_weet answered · June 23, 2020
It's not you, it's today's moral norms. Your problem is in choosing which orders to choose. Actually, you've already chosen, but know one thing- you're not the only one. There's a lot like you. Just watch.
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alexkissmexox answered · June 23, 2020
Let him go, I was born a few centuries later than planned, that's for sure.
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amy_queen7 answered · June 24, 2020
It's not too late at 20, but make sure you don't get stuck until 25. It's a psychological problem.
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sweet_ella answered · June 24, 2020
You wait for the prince to come, but by substitution the role is performed by Casanova, which leaves broken hearts. Or you'il get together with a guy who's fine, but in time. Finding someone with the right values, albeit with gaps in spelling, is the right approach. Over time, you'il develop each other, because everything changes.
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mena_lee answered · June 25, 2020
I think your problem is this - you look at people as some offers from the shops and you compare them, and you're so obsessed with picking the best offer and not getting away with it, you don't end up taking anything. Because the shops offer you a lot of offers, your self-esteem as a customer has inflated like a balloon and you've become capricious and pretentious. I want to warn you that over time things won't go any worse, but worse. If you just let go without consciously trying to change for the better, here's how events will unfold: you're going to get more and more dissatisfied and blame others for your misfortune, you're going to get more sarcastic, pretentious and demanding, your appearance, if you don't put too much effort to maintain it, you're going to start to get too angry and spoil it, the attention you're getting now will start to wane and disappear, and you won't know how to handle it. this situation and you will fall into depression.
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ljtheg answered · June 25, 2020
No, it's not a problem, even girls like you are preferable to some bunch of girls, playmates and all kinds of shit.
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black__swan69 answered · June 25, 2020
There are a lot of people in their 20s who are virgins and it's not the crazy thing about you, and with the rest of the so-called k@rvi who go to bed with everyone they meet, which is a problem in our society and start to take off on everyone from an early age and then get their self-esteem and what they brag about - to show how easy they are, you're not one of them and you've kept your dignity, in the near future you'll be able to find the right person.
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taniawong answered · June 26, 2020
Calm down! Change the environment and the environment a little bit to meet new people. You'il always find someone to like you and start a relationship with him. Don't think so. You can lower the criteria a little bit. Try the first one not macho type. Don't expect miracles with the first one. Your body will need time until you feel a real woman and unleash your sexuality. Grab a decent, thoughtful boy, not a cheeky hitman, because you still don't have the experience and the mechanisms to deal with him and his ego on a big deal.
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picaaachu answered · June 26, 2020
Well, it seems perfectly normal not to have sex with a man who doesn't visually attract you. It's crazy to have sex with a man you don't like just to show off in front of girlfriends. There has to be a sex drive for the other person, that's our nature. And this attraction is on the one hand visually, and on the other, mentally. Yes, 20 years is a little later than the standard, but you're not 24-25, are you? There's no point in going to bed with someone like that. You're not going to like it. Sex with a guy you don't like, it sucks. Wait, you're not an old maid. After 25 and a virgin, it's weird, but in five years you're always going to meet someone you like.