I'm not sure you have the problem. Men are their pussy these days. But don't worry, sooner or later you'il find the right person. If he's worried about being a virgin and not letting him go in the second week, then it's not a big loss. If the guy cares about you and he's a good guy, that's not going to be his problem.
Man in his 40s:
If you've gotten there to write here, it looks like your situation is heavy. especially at the end of confession, you become emotional about the subject.
My opinion is that there's nothing wrong with being a virgin in his 20s. Each person is different, has different thinking, different life events and choices that lead to certain results. For the record... I had sex for the first time at the age of 24 and frankly I didn't really care until then. I was just a shy (otherwise very sympathetic) young man who, like you, enjoyed female attention, but I didn't have the right approach to women and didn't know how to materialfor their interest :) No one knew about this secret of mine because I didn't look like I was a virgin. With me, there was no internal tension and aspiration to be "like the others"... and eventually at some point a girl appeared, with which it happened.
Be who you are, don't listen to or look at the "others," stop comparing yourself to them and let your moods be influenced by their actions or opinions. Don't think you're in a hurry or you're missing something.
I promise you, at some point, the right man will appear, with whom the mechanism will click. Just relax, socialize, flirt, spark interest. You women do that ;)
How weird? I know people like you, I know people who are two or three years older than you and have the same fate. There are also men among these acquaintances of mine, which to me is more surprising, because girls seem to be more cautious about their first time. Anyway, go out with people, socialize, and it's going to happen. If you're not up to your sex and you don't take virginity as a disease, then keep waiting. I guess different men will react differently, but don't think they're all like sexual animals whose sole purpose is to be satisfied.
It's not you, it's today's moral norms. Your problem is in choosing which orders to choose. Actually, you've already chosen, but know one thing- you're not the only one. There's a lot like you. Just watch.
Let him go, I was born a few centuries later than planned, that's for sure.
It's not too late at 20, but make sure you don't get stuck until 25. It's a psychological problem.
You wait for the prince to come, but by substitution the role is performed by Casanova, which leaves broken hearts. Or you'il get together with a guy who's fine, but in time. Finding someone with the right values, albeit with gaps in spelling, is the right approach. Over time, you'il develop each other, because everything changes.
I think your problem is this - you look at people as some offers from the shops and you compare them, and you're so obsessed with picking the best offer and not getting away with it, you don't end up taking anything. Because the shops offer you a lot of offers, your self-esteem as a customer has inflated like a balloon and you've become capricious and pretentious. I want to warn you that over time things won't go any worse, but worse. If you just let go without consciously trying to change for the better, here's how events will unfold: you're going to get more and more dissatisfied and blame others for your misfortune, you're going to get more sarcastic, pretentious and demanding, your appearance, if you don't put too much effort to maintain it, you're going to start to get too angry and spoil it, the attention you're getting now will start to wane and disappear, and you won't know how to handle it. this situation and you will fall into depression.
No, it's not a problem, even girls like you are preferable to some bunch of girls, playmates and all kinds of shit.
There are a lot of people in their 20s who are virgins and it's not the crazy thing about you, and with the rest of the so-called k@rvi who go to bed with everyone they meet, which is a problem in our society and start to take off on everyone from an early age and then get their self-esteem and what they brag about - to show how easy they are, you're not one of them and you've kept your dignity, in the near future you'll be able to find the right person.
Calm down! Change the environment and the environment a little bit to meet new people. You'il always find someone to like you and start a relationship with him. Don't think so. You can lower the criteria a little bit. Try the first one not macho type. Don't expect miracles with the first one. Your body will need time until you feel a real woman and unleash your sexuality. Grab a decent, thoughtful boy, not a cheeky hitman, because you still don't have the experience and the mechanisms to deal with him and his ego on a big deal.
Well, it seems perfectly normal not to have sex with a man who doesn't visually attract you. It's crazy to have sex with a man you don't like just to show off in front of girlfriends. There has to be a sex drive for the other person, that's our nature. And this attraction is on the one hand visually, and on the other, mentally. Yes, 20 years is a little later than the standard, but you're not 24-25, are you? There's no point in going to bed with someone like that. You're not going to like it. Sex with a guy you don't like, it sucks. Wait, you're not an old maid. After 25 and a virgin, it's weird, but in five years you're always going to meet someone you like.
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