I know that men usually ask this question. But in this case, even though I'm a woman, I feel like I've been going crazy since I've been with a boyfriend. In general, I'm quite frugal and that worries me. He constantly takes me to restaurants and then pays his half, and I pay mine. He almost never draws me. I can only get something to drink, but in the places where we go, you can't go for a coffee all night. He wants to see me all the time, and when I finally figure out how much I spent for the week, I'm not very happy. I prefer, if I'm going to spend more, to go to a disco, I've allocated my budget so that I can go to a disco once a week. Now it turns out that I have to choose a disco or a restaurant.
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"He takes me to restaurants all the time and then pays his half, and I pay mine." - What is this aunt, drop it! While everyone pays their bill, you are individuals, not a couple. Do you expect such a person to share his life with you? The salary? Caring for children? Or you shout - he will earn 3 to 5 times more than you, while you look after the children and pay everything around them, and he will take you to restaurants and leave you to pay your own bill. This man did not do well. You also. And there can be no question of anything in general.
Oh dear. I like that you have priorities :). If your disco is more important than eating, don't eat.
Amy, tell him you don't like going to restaurants. Go for a walk in nature. And in the evening, get something and sit down to talk on a bench in the park, or you can huddle under the stars in the moonlight, which is very cool :)
Tell him how things are and go have a drink somewhere ...
Obviously you answered the question yourself, but if you haven't read what you wrote, let me tell you that it's expensive for you. Sit down and talk to him, I don't believe he will bite you or eat you like a salad in a restaurant. The contribution to the problem is largely his, so he decides whether to cover your expenses or reduce restaurant outings. Obviously, it hasn't blossomed financially either, or it's just tight. You can think of some smarter and more budget-friendly activities together than soaking at a table and satisfying your eating needs. M33
See, everyone's understandings are different. When you write here, you are obviously not happy. In my opinion, the man should be able to pay the bill if he invited you. Whenever I go to a restaurant with my husband, I tell him that I liked something cheaper and something more expensive and that I am hesitant and do not know what to choose. Or I ask for advice what he would recommend to me, so that he is also good with the price. If you think that a man is worth it and you want to have balance - you can make romantic dinners at home;). Or something you're willing to do. For example, he pays for the movies, you pay for the popcorn. But this "I pay for everything I've consumed, you too" is ugly to me. If a man does not want to take care of you, after years he may not take care of your children with him. The bad thing is that things have already started this way for you. You pay, so by your standards it's okay. (At least at first glance) It will be harder for you to change it. From the very beginning, if someone doesn't want to pay me for even one mineral water-> in case we go at his request - I will pay for it, but I won't go out with him a second time. The very fact that he does not want to pay means that he is not so interested. A man who likes you very much will not allow you to perceive him as tight, so he risks not seeing you again. .
No. It's all a matter of relationship habits. You don't have to eat out every night and necessarily spend money like crazy for various pleasures. You can have a homemade dinner, take a walk around the city or sit in a café instead of a restaurant / pub. You can always talk to the boy and explain to him humanly that these outings make your pocket much lighter and you want to replace them with another type of meetings. After all, this is a normal conversation, and if you don't make it a big problem and measure your words, I don't think he'll change his mind about you and write you off. And if he does, it will speak ill of him, and I can assure you that you don't need someone who can't understand something like that. Don't ask him for money, whether he will take over his account is his decision, but offer him to change his activities. Otherwise it's not expensive to have a boyfriend,