Hello :) I am a girl of 21, my friend is 25. We have been together for 7-8 months, we spend our free time together and we are happy. Since we have been together, there is almost no evening in which we are not together - at home, at home. My question comes from the fact that he has to change the apartment very soon (we are both rented, he lives alone and I live with a roommate) and yesterday he joked that he will move in with me while he organizes everything. I told him he was always welcome, but he wouldn't last when I wasn't here and he was alone with my roommate. Then we changed the subject. So my question is, should I suggest that we move somewhere together. Anyway, we spend every night together, and the whole run from work-home and then at home sometimes comes in handy. This will make the process easier and we will spend more time together. I'm not sure about some things, though. Is it too early? How will my parents react if we take this step? Aren't we too young for something like that? We talked about marriage and children, about our views. We think similarly - we do not want children for the next 4-5 years, we prefer to get on our feet, we have not postponed marriage, but we both think that it is more for the family, just a holiday .. But something else is in my head - A few months ago we just talked and I told him about a friend who got engaged a few days earlier. I was shocked because they have been together with the boy for less than a year and have been living in the same apartment since the third month of their relationship. He told me that he thought it was too much, he would not do so and we talked about how it is too early for us to live together. But that was a few months ago, when we were just on stage, in which we were afraid to tell each other how we were feeling. My idea is what do you think - is it too early, is it too much, does it sound normal to start a life together at this stage?
1 turquoisefruit answered
It is early for you, not because of your age, but because of your understandings. Marriage was a holiday for your parents, ha ha, dear marriage is a contract of rights and obligations of those who sign it. Whether there will be a holiday for relatives or not is irrelevant, you can sign without any holiday. And marriage more often protects a woman's rights in the family, because a man may not recognize a baby as his own, leave while a woman is pregnant, but a woman cannot but recognize her child. More often when buying a house, villa or car men prevail and write the common property in their name, then easily when they want they can kick you out of the house, etc. There are of course cunning women who do such numbers to men but they are much rarer.