Hello, I would like to create something like a discussion in which everyone can express their opinion on the matter. You all know daffodils, people who think they're more than others, they're inflated and they emit negative energy. These people have a lot of complexes and deep down they are unhappy. But there are also other kinds of people who behave well with other people and are perfectly normal, think they are equal to other people, but are self-absorbed and vain, look at themselves constantly in the mirror and sometimes brag, but without crushing others. These people are confident in themselves and have no complexes. Very often society thinks that these people of the second type are irritating because they have very high self-esteem, but in fact, there is nothing wrong with this because they do not denigrate others with their love for themselves, unlike the first kind. Do you think there's anything wrong with being the second guy I told you about? I don't think self-absorbed people have complexes and kill them, unlike those who have more than others. Express your opinion in the comments!
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arkven answered · June 18, 2020
In both types, it's not OK, but at least the second ones, which, in my observations, are very not irritating. You should rather know not to mess with them because you're just wasting your time.
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eryrainbow answered · June 18, 2020
Loving yourself is only useful if it is in moderation and is not diluting. I'm a boy, and I make sure I look good. You could say I'm vain, but it didn't bother anyone, just me. I also don't consider me anything more than the others.
But when we exchange a word and see that I'm earthly, things stabilize.
I end with a quote: "If you want to be criticized do nothing, don't say anything, don't be anyone. "
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creamiepeachandsir answered · June 18, 2020
I'm the second type and the people who know me love me very much.
I always manage to contagious them with my confidence and pull them a little further than they used to be.
They know that I will never encounter envy or mistreatment.
Something that complexed people eventually pour over their loved ones, acquaintances and strangers.
It's nice to be a second-type guy, but you have to be very careful not to start hurting people like that.
There will always be someone to envy you and spit on you, to be unhappy because of your happiness, in the moments when you are successful and good at something, it is inevitable in this day and day.
I'm talking about not doing it intentionally, not trying to make misery and having backdoor intentions.
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charliecakesssss answered · June 18, 2020
Self-expression is a way in which flaws and lack of real qualities, skills, or otherwise are whitewashed. It's one thing to have self-confidence and self-esteem, but when you find it under the noses of others, it means something doesn't work properly. The crushing of others is subjective whether or not they are. Bragging usually extols a very fragile ego that cries to be praised, praised, praised. Skills are only "fasteners".
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ricocums answered · June 18, 2020
In my opinion, vanity always hides some complexity. I am far from the thought that the majority of the population is fully satisfied with its appearance and there is nothing that wants to change. I believe most people hide their worries and complexes, but they have them. If you're vain, then you want to look good and clothes, makeup, time in front of a mirror make you feel a little more beautiful. Which is perfectly normal and true. I don't find myself a vain person, but I definitely feel more confident when I've picked my clothes in advance, not when I've grabbed the first one from the wardrobe. Self-indulgent people are not my favorites, but I find nothing wrong with being accepted and liked. As long as they don't intrude on me with every second word, I have no problem spending my free time with them. I don't usually like any kind of intrusion. I know the second-type guys you've described, and my opinion is that many of those around them are looking for weakness. You know, it's not cool to feel good in your skin and everyone's looking for your minuses. These people I know are actually wonderful, positive people who at least don't show having any problem with anything. They sometimes spend more time in front of the mirror, but they seem wonderful and without doing so. If you have a lot of complexes yourself, it will be difficult to stand next to a person who exudes confidence and does not show that there are. However, no one should feel guilty that it is well received and feels good in their skin, even on the contrary, everyone should strive for these constructive sensations.
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twinfeets answered · June 18, 2020
I'd be interested to read opinions, too, because I recognized myself in the second type of people. I can add that we suffer from certain complexes and addictions. The help, support and attention we give to others, at least for me, are selfless and joyfully committed whenever and as much as I can. But I feel deeply hurt when others not only do not respond to me with such attitude, but at one point they take me for granted. Yes, I will take it for granted because I will always continue to help and be positive about myself, the world and the people around me. I'm never going to be bitter about an attitude I haven't earned, but the pain will be deep. I've never had anything more than the others, and even if I've achieved a lot, I'd never downplay anyone's achievements. The difference is, I know my price, I'm proud of my successes and my life, I'm proud of who I am and I feel great. So the conclusion, at least for me, is that I'm self-absorbed and i don't kill complexes, but that doesn't mean I don't have them. Much more wounded is a self-absorbed man, much more severely experiencing insults and neglect because he has a high appreciation for himself. So, it's okay to be self-absorbed, but this state of mind has a price.
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ezekildream answered · June 19, 2020
Number one- what do you think the second guy isn't okay? Everyone says how do you have to have self-esteem and love each other, but it's bad to be self-absorbed? Isn't it the same?