Hello! From the summer until now I have been dealing with a boy and at first it was just sex for both of them. But gradually I secretly fell in love with him and whenever he was looking for me I was available. I finally got tired of writing to him every time and was always ready to see him, and I stopped communicating with him. Then he started looking for me again so that we could see each other again and the same story ... And so several times. He writes to me for a while then stops ... I don't look for him during that time and he reappears. So the last time he looked for me, I totally cut him off again and told him I was busy. In the morning he called me to see me again and I told him again that I could not. A few days later he wrote to see me for the New Year and I told him that I could not and would not even be in Sofia. But when he wrote to me AGAIN after the New Year, I decided to see you. He came with his friend (as is almost always the case) and we had a lot of fun. We are super good together, of course, he is very caring for me and always tries to please me and make me feel good ... until we separate.
So when he came home we had a great time until a mutual friend of ours called (with whom I had a relationship for only 1 night) and he wanted to come to us. I saw that he didn't want to call him, but I didn't say exactly whether I wanted him to come or not, and in the end the other one came too ... Then it turned out that they wrote to each other and the one I have feelings for wrote to the other ( which was for 1 night) that we will be together in the evening ... And I do not understand whether they compete and whether any of them have feelings at all because the moment I happened to be alone with the boy for one night on the other to which I have felt something happened to him and he decided to leave! Now he called me again and wanted to see me ... And I really want him, but it seems to me that he is looking for me only for fun and I want to have the will to refuse him and not be on call! I want him to fight for me and I know that if he stops looking for me after I refuse him several times, then he is not worth it !!! I wonder why he is looking for me if he has no feelings for me and is only for one night ... Since I am no longer easy for him to find and I am not always free for him ...
1 odaniel6767 answered
No wonder. There are men for whom sex is sex, they can only meet a woman for years to have sex, and at the same time to have supposedly serious girlfriends. Well, he may have some feelings for you, but do you think he would tell you? You are always available when he looks for you, he obviously sees that it does not bother you, it depends a lot on his views on your relationship. If you think you really like him, the best option is to ask him directly what and if he feels something about you, to tell him that it's not just sex for you anymore, etc. If he cuts you off, accept that he doesn't you lose nothing. Anyway, this is the other option - to stop with this "connection". Good luck :)