Hello, This is about my friend, with whom we generally plan to start a family. However, I have some worries. I leave aside some other problems between us. I didn't know his father very well (his little finger died a year ago) because my friend was ashamed of him and avoided contact. I know from him that he was a drunkard. I don't call him an alcoholic because he was obviously unconscious. Ever since my friend was little, his father loved to pour (literally) alcohol. They quarreled with him a lot because of that, he was ashamed. His father exposed him more than once in front of his acquaintances and friends. He found him falling in front of the block drunk. They were drunk and fell. He became picky as he drank. He told me that he did not harass them physically, but mentally, that he could not stand it. This made my friend quite nervous. Otherwise he's smart, responsible and handsome man. What worries me is that despite his father's hatred of drunkenness, he likes to drink. Of course, we are young people, we like to have fun, we go out, I drink alcohol myself, but I know how much and when. And when he starts drinking and pours a lot. He starts to stagger, behaves dully. Not aggressive or anything like that, but you know a drunk person is not a nice sight. I have told him many times - sometimes more tactfully, sometimes directly, that there must be some measure, that it is ugly on the side ... But he is angry with me, he says that you knew what he was doing. No one else around us gets so drunk. Otherwise, getting drunk is still in his head. When I tell him to go out for a walk or to see someone just for coffee, he does not want and has no interest. But when it comes to going out somewhere where you can get drunk, he is the first. And he is already 30 years old. Sam bragged to me how in his village (where his father was born), when he went there and gathered with the villagers to drink until someone rejoiced? !! Isn't that some kind of pride? !! And I have to understand that he doesn't drink much. And there is such a mentality ... I don't know either. , in which he grew up, instead of giving him up alcohol, he made him a potential drunkard. What if after a year or two he gets drunk like his father? !! Do you think drunkenness and alcoholism are hereditary? Isn't that some kind of pride? !! And I have to understand that he doesn't drink much. And there is such a mentality ... I don't know either. , in which he grew up, instead of giving him up alcohol, he made him a potential drunkard. What if after a year or two he gets drunk like his father? !! Do you think drunkenness and alcoholism are hereditary? Isn't that some kind of pride? !! And I have to understand that he doesn't drink much. And there is such a mentality ... I don't know either. , in which he grew up, instead of giving him up alcohol, he made him a potential drunkard. What if after a year or two he gets drunk like his father? !! Do you think drunkenness and alcoholism are hereditary? instead of giving him up, he made him a potential drunk. What if after a year or two he gets drunk like his father? !! Do you think drunkenness and alcoholism are hereditary? instead of giving him up, he made him a potential drunk. What if after a year or two he gets drunk like his father? !! Do you think drunkenness and alcoholism are hereditary?
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Your observations are correct - in part drunkenness is inherited ... or at least the predisposition is genetic. Yes, anyone can become an alcoholic, but some people are more likely. Scientists have been able to cross-breed alcoholic mice - they always pour alcohol under stress, which is not typical for mice otherwise. It is believed that such people cannot break down stress hormones quickly enough under stress and therefore resort to alcohol. This is genetically set. When your friend feels pressured or stressed, then he will mostly resort to the cup. In my father's family, everyone was a hidden alcoholic - that is, they go to work, have family, friends and are socially accepted, but they faint quite regularly. The family suffers, especially the children. I know that I am predisposed and do not drink any alcohol. I have a bottle of champagne at home for occasions and for guests, but so far. Talk to your friend and take him to a psychologist if necessary. If it doesn't stop pouring, be sure to dump it, because you will become the mother of another unfortunate child of an alcoholic. You can record him on camera when he is drunk and especially disgusting and show him the recording afterwards. If he is not disgusted with himself, if he does not want to stop and change, save himself! Some people (alcoholics) cannot be helped. He will become 100% like his father if he doesn't stop now. You can record him on camera when he is drunk and especially disgusting and show him the recording afterwards. If he is not disgusted with himself, if he does not want to stop and change, save himself! Some people (alcoholics) cannot be helped. He will become 100% like his father if he doesn't stop now. You can record him on camera when he is drunk and especially disgusting and show him the recording afterwards. If he is not disgusted with himself, if he does not want to stop and change, save himself! Some people (alcoholics) cannot be helped. He will become 100% like his father if he doesn't stop now.