Take the step. You lose nothing.
It plays you from a distance to prepare to put it on you without being burdened by the consequences of relationships.
Wow, I'm hurt, I can't find myself, but I'm a terrible dude, let me put it on you a little, and you can always hope it "changes" for you.
There is such a movie as if someone is hurt and doesn't want another person for a week. After that amok, if someone with qualities appears ... it just blows you away. Now ... if someone just shows up ... you play him injured and with the regret card you enter the cave.
About what to do depends only on what you expect.
Quite a nasty situation. To stop this torture - stop communicating outside of office. If he asks, tell him directly what the problem is. If he likes you, he'll ask for a connection, if not, he'll keep muttering.
Up to 2 ... I don't think that's exactly what things look like, because there are others he deals with, I think so and he's never been rude or impudent, he's just more defensive, and we have a relationship somewhere for a year, why to wait so long, so I think he thinks things over and is more withdrawn so as not to get scalded again .. I believe a little in the signs after we always come across by chance or not "there is something :)
It is obvious that 2 has no experience with women, he is annoyed that someone shines on him. It is possible that this version is confusing, but I think he is afraid of you. Quite logically, there will still be a bunch of requirements for it. He runs away from the so-called "mass woman".
He has no real interest. Look for another.
Bro, you make me very happy! As always painfully honest and straightforward! Thank you for writing here!
To the author: Make no effort. Drop this one, lie to you, manipulate you and it's not worth it.
Number 2 is right. We have listened to how fainted and bitter a man is to the point of fainting. Women believe in the tale of Beauty and the Beast and how we can change and save a man injured by the world. That he will become his former essence and will be infinitely grateful to us. But this is just a fairy tale. In reality, this is called male manipulation. Both injured and avoided by women, he keeps in touch with you. Whatever he has experienced, once you have known each other for a year, you should have been closer for a long time, even if you are together. He has told you from the very beginning what he does not want, you stubbornly believe in the other. The truth is, he may not want a relationship with you. It is unlikely that if he appears, everyone will pull. He may be nice to him, but he really doesn't want to have a relationship with you. You're wasting your time.
In general, I rarely share an opinion, but here I think he is right.
As much as I don't like my little brother, he is right and I support him.
Injured, offended, abandoned, oh, poor thing! And another rush to comfort him in her arms and to restore his faith in love! A plot for a Turkish TV series.
Eventually, someone will roar abandoned, but it won't be him.
Thanks for the comments, obviously I really have unrealistic expectations, I just think that everyone has some periods and they are affected differently ... but gentlemen are very rare and that attracted me ...
folks, isn't this your soap opera? What does scald mean, author? If he's not in love, he can't get burned, and he obviously has no serious interest in you.
One piece in more or less will not hurt him, he tells you these things so that you do not have hope if you happen to push or have sex.
Gentlemen meet when they want to attract you, then when he plays his cards he becomes an average man.
I'm pretty sure he's afraid of high standards. Many men try to stab each other and not commit because we have financial problems. If you do not have high requirements for it, you will certainly get a good connection.
I think the man is doing the right thing. If he chased you, you would pull away. So, do not jump to conclusions. If the man is not a little manipulator, he will be a fool. Do you want to deal with fools? The easiest way is to cross out one chance - so you don't risk anything. But ... who plays us, who beats us, right? .. Therefore, these categorical advisers from above are not right.
Be patient, don't press him, but give him light targets so that he can trust you that you won't play with him to pump up your ego. In principle, both sides must take equal steps to each other.
If you ignore it, as some advice, you will surely lose it. He has already fallen and will not fall into the trap a second time. The tactics of outwitting lead to a dead-end - keep that in mind.
№8, you vomited a bunch of prejudices and prejudices: Both hurt and shunned by women, and kept in touch with you. But that argument! ... That he, being injured, did not swear to become a monk ??? Do you even use your brain for its intended purpose? Obviously, the man did not want to throw himself headlong into the abyss, and if he wanted to, he would be someone. He waits, orients himself in the situation ... - normal.
Author, everyone is a gentleman until he puts you to bed.
Then his mask falls off. There is no such thing as a period, it has long passed with you. So you can hope for 3 years for something to happen. There's no point.
In one of the conversations he had told me to be bolder and to still be smiling and positive, that he was pleasantly surprised by my attitude towards him, but it was summer. Now, in recent, albeit rare, meetings, I have again been respectful and focused. So I think there is some sympathy and I decided to write to you for advice. And from my husband's point of view, the logic was interesting.
Thank you most sincerely and looking at most opinions is that it seems pointless, but other supporters, I think I do not expect anything or think so much! Whatever happens, will happen! Thank you for the written opinions and for making your life smile :)
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