I have known for a long time that my mother is cheating on my father. I hadn't said it before because I thought it was all fleeting, or at least she would tell my father herself and get a divorce. I know you will say that this is a foreign relationship and I should not interfere, but I know about this also lie to my father, and since we have debts to pay my mother used my father to work. That's why she didn't tell him, I guess. I don't want to lie to him anymore, I can't stand how he uses it, he insults her and he's like a puppet .. Besides, he doesn't treat me well, it's not just about my father, but in general he insults me, I don't have personal life and I constantly do work that I can do on my own, she behaves very strictly, she doesn't understand me at all (I'm 20 years old). I really don't know what to do, my father comes home next week (because he's a driver) and I want to tell him everything to finally stop all this farce. Please give me advice what to do! Not to mention that it seems that the lovers became 2: x
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If you want him to treat you like a big man - get out.
Do not confuse! What do you think you will achieve? Divorce and you in the middle? Think about it, you're not a child. Live alone and you will not witness all this. It is selfish of you to break up their marriage and in two years to start your own family, and they will be alone in their old age! Take care of yourself, not them. This is their relationship. The messenger is not loved by anyone! It is also unknown whether they have an appointment. As soon as Toch travels, they may have got along. I have an acquaintance, her husband is a driver and so are they. He has a mind out, she has a lover and they both know. He is here a few days a month. If they agreed on this and you intervened, it would be very awkward. Don't think that your father doesn't do anything until he's with you.
Hello! It's really best to tell him, but let him go. Many will begin to explain to you how noble it is to lie to your father, how well your mother does by cheating on him, lying and behaving badly with him. My job is like your father's truck driver. My son also had great suspicions about his mother, but he preferred to last. And if he persists once more, I will manage on my own in life. You can save a relationship with your father. And the debts of your mother to be repaid by the lovers - obviously "superior" to your father. And now we can offer what suggestions will follow from light women? !!
If my mother treated me like that and had a lover on top of that, I would tell my father.
What's wrong with you people, how could you not tell him that? And from where to where should he be silent, they are also parents, they are not strangers to be silent. If you think that's better, tell him!
Because the drivers don't cheat on a long trip, you think: D Get a little better, you're 20 years old: D What do you think, that your father doesn't wear it with various cars on the road? Get out of it, you're 20, and see for yourself! Good thing they told you above! Sex in a family where the partners are far from each other usually comes from third parties, this is clear to everyone. There is no point in humiliating him by telling him, because neither he nor your mother are sexually faithful. Surely they are both shaking. So, don't think that your father is holy water without drinking.
Get out so you don't do "your mother's job". You will live like a king, no one will make you do anything. And when you dive into the garbage, you will just change the accommodation, and again!
The best option is to move out. Victor 420
Just make sure he finds out for himself. It's not about interfering, but what your mother is doing is a disgrace and wrong. So he pushes on the roads and pays the bills, she puts it with others. It doesn't happen to me.
Infidelity is never without consequences and everyone pays their price for it - including other people's guilt. The whole family - without exception. Parents, children, everyone - innocent and guilty. Your mother has destroyed the family (not you) by acting rudely and irresponsibly on her own, selfish motives and motives. But you are part of this family and you also pay your price, so you have the right to take a stand, instead of "not messing around" and "living alone" and not witnessing these things - understand burying your head in the sand and to live complacently. Neglecting the problem will not solve it on its own, it will only deepen it. In your place, I would talk to my mother - she is the mess and the responsibility. It will act depending on the level of its responsibility, dignity, moral and ethical basis. Whatever happens, however, you did the right thing - the rest is your mother's job. I wouldn't tell your father - the only thing you can achieve is to throw him years into the horror of mistrust, betrayal and betrayal. He doesn't need that, take his bitter cup, and divorce is the least he can go through. Believe me - I have experienced it and I do not wish it on my worst enemy - it's awful, just a man dies alive. Talk to your mother and hopefully a little smart and responsible woman will come out, but ... it depends on her who did what and the whole village can't do it to him. Good luck. take his bitter cup, and divorce is the least he can go through. Believe me - I have experienced it and I do not wish it on my worst enemy - it's awful, just a man dies alive. Talk to your mother and hopefully a little smart and responsible woman will come out, but ... it depends on her who did what and the whole village can't do it to him. Good luck. take his bitter cup, and divorce is the least he can go through. Believe me - I have experienced it and I do not wish it on my worst enemy - it's awful, just a man dies alive. Talk to your mother and hopefully a little smart and responsible woman will come out, but ... it depends on her who did what and the whole village can't do it to him. Good luck.
I don't believe that a 20-year-old can think so shallowly. 1. Do not rule out the option of being together for you and saving you some mental trauma, especially during puberty. 2. Do you know what your father does when he is a truck driver? It is easy to defend one, because you see guilt only in the other. It is ridiculous. My father now pretends to be a long-suffering Genoveva in front of everyone, and forgets the time when there was money and lovers (I know about 2, and maybe more).
My advice is to tell your father. Personally, I would never forgive my children if they knew that their father was cheating on me, but they are silent. And on №2 I will tell him there will be a lot of health that the messengers hate them. I consider myself my best friend and I will respect her while I am alive, namely the woman who came face to face with me and told me about my husband's relationship with his colleague. The others cost a fortune and had fun at our expense. And I got friends. Come on, you who know so much, look real and say - you see that your friend's husband is cheating on her, taking his mistress home and what are you going to do? Will you be silent? Is this friendship? Is this how close people do? Shame on anyone who thinks this mean way. To me he is an invertebrate and a hypocrite ....
And I think you should stay away. You will not do anyone a favor. Leave time to have your say
I would never say. They have this relationship from before you. And it seems to me that you are personally looking for a benefit from what you will say.
Number 2, not only if she is single may not be a witness. She could close her eyes and cover her ears - then, she heard us, she saw us. How did one of your children get scared not to notice what you were doing to them !? You say to yourself, “They may have an appointment.” So, great solution to tell your father. Isn't that so? Number 12, let's look at your "deep" thoughts. "1. Don't rule out the possibility that they are together because of you and have spared you some mental trauma, especially during puberty." of course - the mother generously accepts money from the father), only for the sake of her daughter? I have a feeling that the father may not have been notified of this arrangement? "2. Do you know what your dad does when he's a truck driver?" If she wasn't interested, she might not know. Since I suspect that you don't know either, I will explain briefly: Very often he works 15 hours a day, goes to the toilet in the bushes, the bathroom is sometimes a luxury. And sometimes drivers go to jail, it's more abstract, but I know such people personally. And they do this to provide their family with financial stability. In which some impudent wives, as they say: "Find, and shit!" And so these "wives" have time to think that they are not paid attention or some other stupid excuse to go and put it on recklessly. By this without a number: "... when there was money and lovers (I know about 2 ..." Here her mother now has as much as your father had at all. And does she herself know all of them? And on this point ( without a point) and by your logic it's time to tell him. Unless you make some perverse argument that only infidelity is bad for men and great for women? !!
Author, my advice is to talk to your mother first, that she is setting a bad example for you in this way. Tell her that you love her as a parent, but you also love your father, and if she doesn't stop lying to him and end her relationship with these lovers, you will tell everything to your father. You can't keep quiet and live in such an atmosphere because it poisons you and ruins your family. Maybe it's time to have such an extremely serious conversation with your mother and hear what she has to say about it. Then you will finally decide what to do, but do not let it manipulate and deceive you.
Did you tell your father, or are you still watching your mother flirt with foreign men? Because the site is full of such stories. Your man has been watching for 20 years. and you are so thankful.