Infidelity. A Different Story For Everyone Who Has Experienced Or Is Experiencing It.

   Interesting.

   So ... What did I actually understand from the story ... 1. For some reason (pregnancy), the author got married at the age of 18-19 ... 2. She experiences herself as an artistic, multi-layered person, and she is probably just like that. in her own eyes, and in the eyes of others, it is disgusting, since her husband has been more intrigued than an ordinary normal older woman. 3. She started going to bed with "wild and special". Translated from "female" - dumb as a galosh inflated who calls her a "whore", etc., slaps her from time to time, but fuck for a long time and this compensates for the rest. 4. We should all admire these things, because in her eyes she performed a feat by rubbing her husband's nose. 5. For some reason, she is convinced that the man does not like it, although she hardly knows what he does when he is not at home. Maybe he'd better think that. 6. For some reason, he thinks that men are definitely impressed by her lace and lingerie (including the "wild" one ... Abe funny thing ... M43

   Well, this 27-year-old, if he decides to have a wife and children, where are you going? ..

   Dear author, I write before I read the other comments, because they have not been published yet. I guess they'll laugh at you. I didn't, because I felt the same way, and the story with my ex-husband ended more or less like this: I met a younger man with whom everything fell into place and I got divorced. I am writing here only to advise you not to deny yourself the right to happiness. You say that your husband is not so bad, he walks and works, so your conscience can be clear. The child will always be your priority - with or without marriage. So, why do you deprive yourself of a full-fledged relationship, which fate puts under your nose? Why should you and your lover hide like students and not go to bed like normal people every night together under one roof? What do you expect to happen in your family from now on with a person with whom you have become estranged, who has lied to you (the lie is infidelity, not that he melted the pepper somewhere), who doesn't notice you as a woman and has no chance of that happening in the future? If you are financially dependent on him, I would understand you to some extent, but money is made, especially by a young woman of 32 years. The rest is not won - love, passion, emotional fullness, they are either given to you, or - no, and life flows. Five years is not God knows what age difference between a man and a woman. My husband is 9 years younger than me. If the new man in your life has serious intentions towards you, abandon this worn-out relationship and start purely just for yourself. Just imagine not one more, not two, not three, but for example another 50 years with your husband! With a person you don't trust and with whom you don't have intimacy. And now imagine these 50 years in the arms of a loved one. As for children, they accept the new much easier than we think. Their world is overcrowded with a lot of interesting things and we, the adults, generally annoy them. At least these are my observations on my husband's daughter from his first marriage, who is your child's age. I once asked her how she accepted her parents' separation, and she said literally, "I was very happy because they were always screaming at home and preventing me from watching TV, and I only got one present for Christmas, and now I get two."

   An infidelity is an occasion to see that there is a problem. Living with someone for the sake of the child is madness. You are not doing him any good, on the contrary, you are showing him the way that is "right" and your life will live tomorrow.

   I don't know you, but I know that a medal always has at least two sides - if I hear your story from your husband, it will probably sound completely different. I'm interested in this "I will not part with my dear under any circumstances" - what keeps you from a man with whom "Sex with him has never been exciting or unique", not to continue quoting about his infidelity or "When he did not sex with me, I did not miss the act itself, but to feel wanted by him. "? Don't expect reproaches from me, but why do you need to take care of a man who is no longer fit - you have enough reasons to divorce and arrange your life with the one who satisfies you emotionally and physically.

   Girl, imagine different stories, there are people here who will feel your fantasies.

   Honestly, I was sad for both of you. You look for sex and you get sex, and you don't even realize that in the 21st century this is the easiest thing to find ... Otherwise you're right about fate.

   Until n. 6, eh, dreams .... The one who satisfies her will disappear with 200, the moment she feels the slightest hint that the "poop" can hit him for something more than sex and together with the child ... We don't live in fairy tales, after all ...

   Think about which of the 2 you want to spend your life with and grow old together. Do you think you can live with your husband for another 30 years or more in a house? If you really don't love each other, now is the time to break up. That as you grow older, you will regret spending the rest of your life with the wrong person. Your lover will at some point get tired of being the "lover" and will leave you. If you want to keep him, leave your husband. And have you ever wondered why you really want to stay with your husband? If it's a child, that's very stupid. As they said number 4 will receive 2 gifts for Christmas.

   Number 9, I'm 6 and I rarely go into explanatory mode, but in this case it's worth it. I wanted to tell the poop exactly what you were saying, but in another way - I didn't accidentally ask her why she wouldn't part "under any circumstances". The author, on the one hand, pretends to be the one who opened the hot water, gives wisdom to the others "does as I do", on the other hand, she is no different from her peers, who do not let go of "uncle's money", but play the job behind him. and applause await. Just look at the title of the topic - the girl thinks she is different, and she doesn't feel that she is no different from the ones the man went to, and the only difference is that they make their living this way, and she spends other people's money. I didn't want to be so verbose, but I obviously have to - I've written in other topics, that I feel some disgust from committed women who fuck younger bachelors, the 32-37 year olds are over, but it will be much harder for you to impress them than a boy of 27. Those 37 year old "bastards" have already gone on life, do not apply to khaki where they have lost weight, dyed their hair and varnished their nails. In general, I do not believe in history and for this I wrote at the beginning that the medal has two sides, but here we are presented with only one - I would like to hear the one with the "soft" dick, it is very likely that after marriage and childbirth poop has relaxed, put twenty rings (you know where), began to have claims and "soft" has found a quiet haven with the "ugly woman". If I could I would ask the "unsightly" what she does with a man with whom she has no sex " In two words, the author expects BRAVO from us, but there is no way to get it - wait a minute and you will see what your ears will hear, but do not care, as the canals said "A new day will come! ".

   There are always two types of comments in these topics - men who are afraid that this may happen to them (and with great right) and women who dream of such an event and accordingly support and even encourage divorce. The author will praise her for putting her child first. He is not to blame for who he is and how it should be kept in mind that he needs a healthy family. My advice is this: You fuck off once you've decided, but don't let any of this seep into your family. Your husband can be anyone for you, but for your child he is a FATHER.

   Abe, I don't know how passionate and great you are, but your spelling isn't worth it! And this is more than an important sign of a person's quality (I can't explain it, because it's long, but it's true and it's not a nuisance, but an objective fact!). And how did the 43-year-old "wife" attract a married man? And married to YOU ​​!? F44

   These men are a big deal. A man cheats on his wife - she is guilty. Then she cheats on him - twice as guilty. Since biblical times, women have always been to blame. The truth is very simple - a man who is not a man frees up space for another man next to her.

   A very idealistic picture recreates n. 4, which unfortunately does not work for all and not all children accept their new fathers or mothers.

   Haha, author, you are telling my story. At least somewhere in the middle. And my husband enjoyed boundless trust on my part. I saw them come home from work every night — with the car my father had bought. I never made a scandal - what a scandal, I did not say a word. And "our" mistress was old around yours, but I am convinced that we surpass yours in ugliness and simplicity. God, what's wrong with these men - are they blind, are they crazy? If only it were someone else's ... I envy you for giving him back for the pain he caused you, for the insult that he didn't want you - I've been through it, I understand you. I could not. I just couldn't like anyone anymore, I couldn't wish for anyone - my soul was devastated ... And it's still there. Nothing will come back in my life anymore - even though I don't know you, I'm happy for you.

   Again silly comments. The woman wrote that her husband did not want to "slap" her, she was naughty, but then she found a young man who "slapped" her great and now "everything is correct". The idea is obviously for women to be encouraged and slightly envious, and for men to be scared. And what happened - a bunch of comments about the meaning of life, advice on who to grow old with, how to start a new family with someone who is doing and other such nonsense ... what is it about. Let the woman brag a little without thinking about her antiquities :)

   ... Fate Hello again, I read your comments and thank you for each one :) I'm sorry I wrote my story so chaotically and perhaps confusingly. You understand that I have not described all the disappointments and circumstances, for the simple reason that they are extremely many and varied and would take me a lot of space, time and mine and yours if you decide to read everything I would write. I will try to be as comprehensive as possible and at the same time collected in my answers to try to bring some clarity :) To №2: Let me clarify that I do not feel obliged to justify myself, but since the answers to your questions will bring at least a little clarity, I will answer. You have the right to accuse, judge and even insult me ​​... we are such people ... with many rights :) 1. - That's right, I gave birth to our daughter at 19 :) 2. - This, there is no way I can prove it to you or convince you of the truth of my words, but once you have read my story and commented, it would be more objective to accept everything as true, not just what you like. I am like that, even more than what I have described. I have no use to lie or exalt myself in front of anyone, let alone on an anonymous site with anonymous people :) He cheated on me with her, because as I said I am ambitious and difficult, I can be fire, but I can also be ice ... and not everyone can deal with people like me and let me clarify that not everyone who has blood between their legs is a man. He just can't get used to the fact that I'm always one step ahead of him and that even his parents and brother rely more on me, I helped him start his own business (not to mention financial aid) and do what he loves. brings him a good income. Sam said that he owed everything to me, and that without me he was lost. No, I do not exalt myself, I am just confident enough and I know my strengths and weaknesses. 3. - Ha! He is a very smart and able to read me. "Beating" and "Insulting" may be a little strong words and that has let you down. Rather, we use insults such as: cattle, monkey, harpy. A paint is actually a wrestling time love game, something like: he bites my lip while kissing me and I kick him out of me to murmur: D then he attacks me and raises his hands above my head so I can't she pushed him away and a passionate kiss followed, which disarmed me every time. 4. - To be admired by someone - no! That sometimes life has a strange sense of humor and puts people in the position of the one who hurt them - yes !!! 5. - You may be right here, I can't know, but to be honest, I don't care anymore. I trust the opinion of the doctors, because for a year now, in addition to the joint problems, he has been trying to fix this problem by going to doctors, healers, herbalists. 6. - I don't think anything, I just bring the gifts from my lover and like everything else it turned out that he also has a weakness for lace lingerie like me. Let my work be funny for you ... women's frustration with men is usually always fun for the "strong" sex, but until a commentator's wife or girlfriend is disappointed, then it's not so funny anymore :) Take a tip from the one you call funny, instead of reading on infidelity forums, lie down next to your partner and hug her tightly, because the path to similar to my story is exactly the lack of a strong and warm hug. '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '№3 - In truth, I will it is unpleasant and it will be hard for me, but I will experience it. We talked to him about it and I told him that this between us should not prevent him from seeing other women. He says I'm enough for 100, but I know that our separation is inevitable :) He is a wonderful person and deserves to start a normal family, something I can't give him. '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '№4 - Thanks for your answer, but I'm happy anyway. I am financially independent and I do not want more children. This 27-year-old man, let's call him "The Savage" ... has already pushed this topic many times, for family and children and cohabitation. I just don't like it, to be honest. As a matter of fact, I don't think that after everything my husband has done to me, I will trust a man so much that I want to live with him, let alone introduce him to my daughter. I realize that the world is perverted and wrong enough, and that if I live with someone he can be a psychopath, a bully or something. My husband and I thought I knew, but what happened: ) So my cohabitation with a man is possible only when my daughter takes her own path, and the advantage of being a young mother is that when your child flies out of the nest, you are still a cool boyfriend;) this for the boyfriend in the circle the joke, of course. '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' ' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' ''5 - For me, this is the right decision at the moment, my husband and I have never allowed ourselves to quarrel or even argue in front of the child. For her, we are the perfect mom and dad. I know this is not very right and we even let her live in a lie. But this way she will have a correct idea of ​​family. We always keep up with her, we never allowed her to feel that we had problems. Life and health, when she grows up and is able to understand everything correctly, we will explain. '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' ' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '№7 - I didn't understand you. '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' №8 - Yes, it's sad :) But life is not perfect, such things happen. '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' ' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '9 - I never mentioned that I wanted to give him "hit" with the child, right? In fact, the proposals for cohabitation come from him, but I do not want that. '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' №10 - I'll stay with him, because there is no better father for my daughter than her own :) and because she was brought up in such a way that Christmas presents are not essential, and that the family gathers around the table and celebrates. To what extent we are a "family" is another matter, it is important to me that she does not suffer or pay for my or his mistakes. I wish you a good evening :) because there is no better father for my daughter than her own :) and because she was brought up in such a way that Christmas presents are not essential, and that the family gathers around the table and celebrates. To what extent we are a "family" is another question, it is important to me that she does not suffer or pay for my or his mistakes. I wish you a good evening :) because there is no better father for my daughter than her own :) and because she was brought up in such a way that Christmas presents are not essential, and that the family gathers around the table and celebrates. To what extent we are a "family" is another matter, it is important to me that she does not suffer or pay for my or his mistakes. I wish you a good evening :)

   Author, I wonder if your husband knows about the lover and how you treat each other in general.

   I'm 5. You are very wrong. Whatever theater you play. Energy is energy. The child subconsciously realizes what is happening. I watched a psychologist where a family wanted to divorce but did not know how to tell the child. They had "played" with loving husbands. And do you know what the psychologist told them: the child already knows. The child on another level sensed what was happening between them.

   ... Fate №11 The 27-year-old in question impressed me not with his age, but with the fact that he is a man in the full sense of the word. We are talking about attitude, determination, character and responsibility. I think you will agree that age is not a determining factor in how mature you are. I myself have always liked older men at least 6-7 years older than me, precisely because they are more mature and intelligent than my peers. As I said, this young man has proved to me more than once that this is a complete delusion. And that woman you defend so hard knew that the "dear" had a family, and that didn't stop her from trying to break up that family. When I found out about the infidelity, I had a conversation with her, which was shocking to say the least. The woman is not at all worried that she may leave a child without a father. So let me answer why he cheated on me with her. She is the type of woman who has been beaten and harassed by her exes. He always has his head bowed. How do I know .... it doesn't matter. So when you're in a relationship with a woman like me, and you don't have the courage and manhood (I'm talking about the character) to stand up to me and talk about what you don't like and what you want us to improve in your relationship, you find one. such a chewed and spit-out woman from life that you can control and kill the complex that I planted for you, but about which you never found the courage to talk to me. I'm not going to comment too much on the other things you've written about my appearance, because they really don't matter that much. To gain weight after giving birth, but I quickly regained my old weight. I can't afford to be relaxed, firstly because I'm not that type of person and secondly because my work has always been about beauty, fashion and a lot of meeting people. I quote you "A new day will come!" - for me it passed 3 years ago :) it's the turn of others now ... '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' ' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' ' '' ' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '№13 - hah you're right, I accept the spelling remark. With the fact that she is used to no attitude from men. This type of women do and endure everything to keep a man by their side, and imagine that this is love. She is what I will never be ... weak and desperate :) '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' ' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' ' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '№14 - Exactly. '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' '' 15 task. Don't let your happiness depend on anyone but yourself. Continue forward ... '' '' '' '' '' '' '' №15 - No one is obliged to make you happy, this is your task. Don't let your happiness depend on anyone but yourself. Continue forward ... '' '' '' '' '' '' '' №15 - No one is obliged to make you happy, this is your task. Don't let your happiness depend on anyone but yourself. Continue forward ...

   ... Fate №19 - I think it only suggests. We behave very normally with each other. Just because he cheated on me doesn't mean I'll throw away all the years and all the happy moments with him. He is, after all, decent, a little uncharacteristic, but decent. We'll just keep a normal relationship until one of us explodes and breaks up ... I guess

   I agree with №20 - the author and her husband lie only to themselves. Her child knows with 99% certainty, if not - even worse. How will she feel when she finds out at the age of 20 that her parents' 'perfect' marriage is a complete lie and what trust she will have in people from then on. If she was intelligent and knowledgeable enough, the author would be up to date with these things instead of throwing empty theories at us about how successful theater plays. For reference, I am a child of such parents, in general, children's intuition can hardly be deceived.

   Disgusting! "Fate" - hahaha, obviously you consider yourself something very special, something much bigger and more out of place than others. If you can see from the side how pathetic you are ... vindictive, gloomy, counting your orgasms and who's who and how much ... Disgusting! Stay with the "man" because you are a likeness. Two complete egotists. What you missed, you will take it and you will still have nothing in your hands. The younger one will feel it at some point and will kick you. The fact that "it suits" I bet it's only in your head. And when you skin, who will look at you and your husband? No other partner, your child will not be for sure, and you will hardly have anything else (again out of selfishness).

   The story is mind-boggling, but I liked it overall. G30

   Favorite argument - "what if you grow old" ... Give your whole life to press our rags with someone we don't love, to live like nuns, without sex, without caress, to live like grandmothers, so that you can see that when we grow old there will be who will look at us ... Because he who has not looked at us all his life, but would remember as we get older ... I just have no words.

   ... Fate №25 I am nothing special, an ordinary person, firmly on the ground. I never thought of having anything serious with the young man, on the contrary, I've been seeing someone else for a while ... hahahaha this time set. The last thing I want is a relationship. That's much better. You do what you want, with whom you want and bye who is from where. There is a thrill, there is attention, there is sex ... I don't want anything else. You can call me k * urva, because I feel good with other men .... ok If that makes me feel good k * urva, I don't mind being called that. However, I am not selfish, I do not agree. I gave many years to a man who lied to me. I gave 3 more to try to forget ... selfish hardly

   Author, I am almost certain that whom you caught your husband in infidelity you insulted him and the mistress certainly defined as a k *** a. Now that you are on the other side, how are you better than him? If you are a little more valuable than him, gather courage and admit to him that you are cheating on him. You say you do it for lack of sex, have you ever wondered what he lacked for him, that he broke you? Infidelity is not something one should be proud of, as mentioned in the comments above, be with the new person, but like normal people do not hide. Doesn't fate want to show you what it's like to be the one who betrays and to understand that a person doesn't cheat like that for no reason?

   It smells like a primary mentality here. First, you self-determine, second, you almost make fun of your husband's suffering. I don't understand people who cheat at all. As I do not understand those who continue to tolerate infidels. Haven't you heard about the separation?