Hello! I am a 16 year old girl. I'm terribly confused and I don't know what to do, what to do. I always thought my family was the most wonderful, and it really looked that way. But over time, and as I grew older, that notion disappeared. The bubble burst and I realized that many things are not what they seem. 2-3 days ago I found out that my mother has been cheating on my father secretly for a long time with ... my uncle. Yes, it sounds like a script from "Fates at the Crossroads", but it's true. Painful for me. I had suspicions of infidelity, but I closed my eyes and thought that "I got into the movie" and things are just fantasy in my head, teen nonsense, but my intuition turned out to be true. The only thing I thought was that my mother was cheating (but I didn't know who). My mother's phone was on the table, and she was taking a bath when my uncle called. I thought it was normal and picked it up because he called home often. The moment I picked it up (I couldn't even say "Hello"), he started saying things to me that I'm ashamed not only to write but also to say. I hung up immediately and just waited for my mother to come out of the bathroom to ask for an explanation. There was a big scandal, I didn't hear any insults about myself, but in anger that I picked up the phone, my mother admitted. I had the feeling that the floor under my feet was collapsing. It was as if I was in a black hole. I felt terrible and cried, I locked myself in my room and I haven't been on my own since. It hurts a lot, especially for Dad. He always loved us both and made sure we didn't miss anything. Because of us, he is gone for weeks to work and provide me with the most important things in life. He doesn't even suspect anything. Every time he came home he brought presents to my mother, and she treated him most hypocritically all the time, as if she had done nothing. I don't want to imagine how much pain he will feel when he learns. Double betrayal - by husband and brother. I also hated my uncle from the incident, although I felt like a stepfather. He has been divorced for a long time, he has no children and he accepted me as his child, they have a great relationship with my father, but for how long ... There really is no such hypocrisy and hypocrisy. So that you don't think I'm attacking my mother, I decided to put myself in her shoes. After calming down a bit, I barely found the strength to ask her about everything: since she had been doing it, had she only been with my uncle, and most of all why. It turned out that she had been doing it for almost 2 years, my uncle was attracted to her, and she was attracted to him. She was only with him because my father was away for a long time, in her words, he was no longer "like once" and did not feel anything for him, but otherwise she was grateful to him for the gifts she made. Every time she left me to visit my grandmother (my father's mother) and when my father was at work, she would get away and meet him. Maybe I started to see when I was 15, because she was deceiving me that she was dating friends, and she generally doesn't have many. The constant hiding of the phone from me and a bunch of other similar things further confirmed all this. When I found out, I started connecting some things and I wanted to kill her. After learning the whole truth, I really hated my mother. I don't want to sit with her under one roof. I try to go out with friends and when I come back to have dinner in my room. Her hypocrisy is killing me. Although he knows I discovered it, she treats me as usual and with all her impudence calls my father to ask him how she is, and the man enjoys her calls. He called me a while ago and you just don't know how I wanted to tell him everything. My father will be home soon (in 4 days). After much deliberation, I finally decided that I would tell him what was going to happen. I love him very much and I am grateful to him for everything I have and I do not think he should live in a lie. He raised me to always tell the truth, whatever it is, and that's why I will do it. I also explicitly threatened my mother that I would reveal her. There were some silences and tears, not to mention, I was going to ruin the whole family. But it's really broken ... Even my uncle called me and threatened me not to say. I am stubborn, I will say, but not out of pride, but out of a sense of justice. My father always believed me, I think he will believe me this time as well. I hope they divorce and no matter how hard it is, I have made my choice, I will stay with him, he deserves it. My mother does not exist for me, nor does my uncle. I'm in pain, but that's the reality. I'm sorry it took so long, thanks to the readers. I just wanted to share with you and if you were me, what would you do?
1 salmankhanplanet answered
Very difficult decision and congratulations on your courage! In your place, maybe I would do the same. Success!