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2 averagejoe_999 answered
It's a pity that no one has answered you so far (I see that only 1 comment is waiting for approval). But it does not surprise me, because your case requires in-depth psychological knowledge on the part of the one who would deal with it. First of all, you are intelligent enough when you follow the 4th year, and you realize where your problems are rooted. Probably your unhappy childhood has triggered a fear of communicating with people in general .. In your place I would meet new companies and people. Watch them. Follow the communication between them and soon you will easily learn this "art". I'm not saying to learn patterns, stereotypes and cues, but simply to acquire individuality. When the conversation goes smoothly, one does not even consider one's remarks for too long. Avoid virtual communication because it tarnishes our ability to speak face to face. Don't let your gestures, facial expressions and face show that you are insecure. Sooner or later you will be confident. Don't delve into yourself, emphasize your good features (and I'm sure you don't miss them). The benefits of communication are so many ... You can try with colleagues from the course, for example to exchange lectures, etc.
3 blue__water answered
Well, tighten up, don't complain and start the change in yourself. Many people are not able to change and prefer to float. And you are only 22 years old ... If you feel like that now, then how do you see your life at 30, when even your roommate will not be with you? And do not go with the numbers, it is difficult .. THERE IS ALWAYS A WAY - for everything! "I'm not going anywhere and I don't want to meet anyone." !? !? !? !! --- Why? Don't you have self-confidence, are you complex? What? To have friends you have to maintain relationships with people. Go out, meet, make connections, make friends ... It's not that hard, of course you have to ask. Without desire there is no way! "In a dialogue, he mostly talks, and I just shake my head and agree to avoid conflict, like an oligophrenic." --- Such people usually call '' uncharacteristic '' or people without an opinion! This is very repulsive and unpleasant. It is possible that people prefer to talk to themselves instead of communicating with a person like you ... Learn to express an opinion, even when you think it will not be well received. Opinion is important and you have to learn to stand behind it and be able to refute that of people who disagree with you. Until then, it will be up to your roommate to talk to you or his shadow, because consent is equal. There must be a reason to feel like a "crumb". Find it and if you know what you don't like about yourself, try to change it. No matter how animalistic it sounds to you, the stronger ones win in life ... and they are proud, have self-confidence, character, opinion and may not always be right, BUT THEY ALWAYS WIN! And the thing what makes me feel sorry for you is your age. Nowadays, people of this age have fun, go out, party and live for the moment .. This is a chance you will lose in a few years when you start a family .. And until then, think seriously about whether a self-respecting woman will want to have "crumb" next to you ... Everyone chooses how to live and I know that in words everything is very simple, but when things come down to action, you usually stand, wait ... and say to yourself "there is time, the future is in front of me '' .. Big mistake! This is a delusion, because the future depends on today and every day will pass like the others and you will still be the same unfortunate person you were years ago ... I don't know if you can get any benefit from what is written, but still try and changed ... people at this age have fun, go out, party and live for the moment .. This is a chance you will lose in a few years when you start a family .. And until then, think seriously about whether a self-respecting woman will want to have a "crumb" 'to myself ... Everyone chooses how to live and I know that in words everything is very simple, but when things come down to action, you usually stand, wait ... and say to yourself' 'there is time, the future is before me' '.. Big mistake! This is a delusion, because the future depends on today and every day will pass like the others and you will still be the same wretch you were years ago ... I don't know if you can get any benefit from what is written, but still try and changed ... people at this age have fun, go out, party and live for the moment .. This is a chance you will lose in a few years when you start a family .. And until then, think seriously about whether a self-respecting woman will want to have a "crumb" 'to myself ... Everyone chooses how to live and I know that in words everything is very simple, but when things come down to action, you usually stand, wait ... and say to yourself' 'there is time, the future is before me' '.. Big mistake! This is a delusion, because the future depends on today and every day will pass like the others and you will still be the same unfortunate person you were years ago ... I don't know if you can get any benefit from what is written, but still try and changed ... which you will lose in a few years when you start a family .. Until then, think seriously about whether a self-respecting woman will want to have a "crumb" next to her ... Everyone chooses how to live and I know that in words everything It's very simple, but when it comes to action, you usually stand, wait ... and say to yourself "there is time, the future is in front of me" .. Big mistake! This is a delusion, because the future depends on today and every day will pass like the others and you will still be the same unfortunate person you were years ago ... I don't know if you can get any benefit from what is written, but still try and changed ... which you will lose in a few years when you start a family .. Until then, think seriously about whether a self-respecting woman will want to have a "crumb" next to her ... Everyone chooses how to live and I know that in words everything It's very simple, but when it comes to action, you usually stand, wait ... and say to yourself "there is time, the future is in front of me" .. Big mistake! This is a delusion, because the future depends on today and every day will pass like the others and you will still be the same unfortunate person you were years ago ... I don't know if you can get any benefit from what is written, but still try and changed ... but when it comes to action, you usually stand, wait ... and say to yourself "there is time, the future is in front of me" .. Big mistake! This is a delusion, because the future depends on today and every day will pass like the others and you will still be the same unfortunate person you were years ago ... I don't know if you can get any benefit from what is written, but still try and changed ... but when it comes to action, you usually stand, wait ... and say to yourself "there is time, the future is in front of me" .. Big mistake! This is a delusion, because the future depends on today and every day will pass like the others and you will still be the same unfortunate person you were years ago ... I don't know if you can get any benefit from what is written, but still try and changed ...
4 yawishyadid answered
Maybe you're like me - you don't need to communicate. You know best what you need. Don't consider others at all, live as you like, for yourself, not for others. Your life is yours! Either they like you the way you are or they don't. In the second case, just ignore them. You can listen to someone, and just shake your head because you're not interested, instead of telling them they're an idiot. This is an intelligent approach. You are not weak-willed, and the people around you are bad. Fuck them, or find a new environment if you need to communicate.
5 alesso answered
I used to be like that, but I've changed. I started to communicate with people, I gained confidence and now I'm moving forward :))))
6 unholy_mary_ answered
by the author ... Thank you for the answers №1 I really have a problem. I avoid people. I'm worried about them. I have hobbies and jobs, but I have chosen them so that I do not have to leave us to practice them. I only go out to go to university, but even there I don't go often, and when I go - I shrink somewhere and stay. I really need to go out more often ... But I haven't decided where, what and with whom ... №2 For about a year I was absolutely isolated from society. Only my mother called me once a week. That was my decision. I didn't want to meet anyone. I just wanted to rest. In the beginning, people were looking for me, where I was and how I was, and I didn't pick up the phone and completely ignored them. I wanted to distance myself from the manipulative people I had been friends with for so long. I was too upset and ran away from my life. There were good people who wanted to help me ... I ignored them too. I was fine, but after 3-4 months my days started to flow like minutes and I started talking to myself ... I started doing total nonsense (once I filled a jug with gas and lit it) and decided that maybe it was good idea to have at least one person around me. I decided this would be my current roommate. A mutual acquaintance found us a place to live in his block. I thought these people would fix me at least a little. In the beginning we laughed a lot ... we didn't sober up the first month. A little time passed and it turned out that I couldn't talk to one about anything and we just passed each other in the corridors, and the other turned out to be a manipulator just like my old friends. He wants to raise me as a puppy. We drank recently and he told me that I was already trained and I was going to blow his whistle. He was a little devil and harassed children as a child. He constantly insults others behind their backs and thinks of himself as a great - absolute narcissist. At times he praises you, at times he insults you and constantly wants you to do something for him. Otherwise, it's kind ... Now I'm upset again, because in my attempt to recover, I made the huge mistake of becoming close with more users. I'm thinking of getting out of here soon. I think I know where to look for more valuable people (I know there are), but I've thought so before. №3 I believe there is a way; I don't have a lot of self-confidence and yes, I'm quite complex. I think it's silly to be so anxious, but my body doesn't listen to me. Only the presence of a stranger makes me numb. I do various mental gymnastics to calm down, but I can't do it for now. I think the reason I got here is that as a child I was isolated for a long time and found comfort in solitude. I had two friends and I had enough. I lost security when I was in 6th grade. I had two couples in Bulgarian and my mother quarreled with the teacher, and decided it would be a good idea to change schools. And I didn't know anyone at this school. I was worried from day one. In my old school we had a new classmate who came from Sofia and the other children bullied and beat him a lot. I suspected that this was waiting for me too. That's how it was. Constant harassment. I was eventually sent back to my old school in less than a school year. №4 I must be like you. I will definitely get out of here. Maybe I'll go live with my father, which means I'll quarrel with my mother because she hates him, or I'll go live in the countryside and isolate myself again ... nz I had two friends and I had enough. I lost security when I was in 6th grade. I had two couples in Bulgarian and my mother quarreled with the teacher, and decided it would be a good idea to change schools. And I didn't know anyone at this school. I was worried from day one. In my old school we had a new classmate who came from Sofia and the other children bullied and beat him a lot. I suspected that this was waiting for me too. That's how it was. Constant harassment. I was eventually sent back to my old school in less than a school year. №4 I must be like you. I will definitely get out of here. Maybe I'll go live with my father, which means I'll quarrel with my mother because she hates him, or I'll go live in the countryside and isolate myself again ... nz I had two friends and I had enough. I lost security when I was in 6th grade. I had two couples in Bulgarian and my mother quarreled with the teacher, and decided it would be a good idea to change schools. And I didn't know anyone at this school. I was worried from day one. In my old school we had a new classmate who came from Sofia and the other children bullied and beat him a lot. I suspected that this was waiting for me too. That's how it was. Constant harassment. I was eventually sent back to my old school in less than a school year. №4 I must be like you. I will definitely get out of here. Maybe I'll go live with my father, which means I'll quarrel with my mother because she hates him, or I'll go live in the countryside and isolate myself again ... nz I had two couples in Bulgarian and my mother quarreled with the teacher, and decided it would be a good idea to change schools. And I didn't know anyone at this school. I was worried from day one. In my old school we had a new classmate who came from Sofia and the other children bullied and beat him a lot. I suspected that this was waiting for me too. That's how it was. Constant harassment. I was eventually sent back to my old school in less than a school year. №4 I must be like you. I will definitely get out of here. Maybe I'll go live with my father, which means I'll quarrel with my mother because she hates him, or I'll go live in the countryside and isolate myself again ... nz I had two couples in Bulgarian and my mother quarreled with the teacher, and decided it would be a good idea to change schools. And I didn't know anyone at this school. I was worried from day one. In my old school we had a new classmate who came from Sofia and the other children bullied and beat him a lot. I suspected that this was waiting for me too. That's how it was. Constant harassment. I was eventually sent back to my old school in less than a school year. №4 I must be like you. I will definitely get out of here. Maybe I'll go live with my father, which means I'll quarrel with my mother because she hates him, or I'll go live in the countryside and isolate myself again ... nz who appeared from Sofia and the other children harassed and beat him a lot. I suspected that this was waiting for me too. That's how it was. Constant harassment. I was eventually sent back to my old school in less than a school year. №4 I must be like you. I will definitely get out of here. Maybe I'll go live with my father, which means I'll quarrel with my mother because she hates him, or I'll go live in the countryside and isolate myself again ... nz who appeared from Sofia and the other children harassed and beat him a lot. I suspected that this was waiting for me too. That's how it was. Constant harassment. I was eventually sent back to my old school in less than a school year. №4 I must be like you. I will definitely get out of here. Maybe I'll go live with my father, which means I'll quarrel with my mother because she hates him, or I'll go live in the countryside and isolate myself again ... nz
7 damonalbarnofficial answered
I see that most of you advise "Tighten up!" And I will tell you clearly and frankly that this is not a "tightening", but a psychological problem that needs to be worked on. "Tighten" does not work in this case. He can do when a person is desperate for his unlucky day, when he is trying to overcome separation, for example, when he has to achieve something concrete and difficult, etc. There are countless situations. But the author himself shares that this is a problem superimposed on time and existing since his childhood. This has shaped his character as it is now and interferes with his normal life, and can kill him in unpredictable consequences. It's good that he admits his problem, but behind his confession lies an iceberg of subconscious impulses that make him what he is now. It is best to consult a psychologist for therapy (not scary,
1 freije35 answered
The first step is to admit that you have a problem. Step number 2 - tighten up! I was like you for a long time, but I decided one thing ... to change. This is your life - live it. You say it yourself, you're a mature man, and ... Don't give up if it doesn't work out in the first place, because it won't be easy. You've been trampled all your life and you haven't behaved any differently, you have to re-educate yourself. Learn to love yourself, find a job and hobby, start going out more. It doesn't matter if you are alone - it is important not to be closed. It will be worth it and life will start to get better