Hello !!! I see that a lot of people share their sadness here and I decided to give it a try. I am a minor girl and I live in a medium-sized city. I study well, I train volleyball in general, so far everything is OK. The problem is with my father - he drinks alcohol every week. Even when I was little he used to get drunk in front of my eyes and since then every time I see him in such a state I feel like crying. I talked to him. I explained to him that I didn't enjoy watching him like that at all and that he was exposing himself that way. But he can't hear it, he even fights me. Once I was so angry when I saw him half-dead from the dose he had taken that I screamed in his face "stop drinking like a pig, this is every week, don't you have a family, don't you have children ??" the next day he answered me with the words, "Look, you're out of your mind, and at the age of talking to me like that. "Even after this incident, he continues to drink, even now. My eyes are full of tears again. I hear his vague words only on the 2nd floor, and he is in the yard. I can't live anymore so give me advice please, if this continues a little longer .... I don't know what will happen to me, I don't know how I will live and in what care "I will grow up .....! I can't take it anymore, this tension is ruining me ...; (; (; (
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I have experienced the same thing but mine did not drink and still does not drink every week but every day. I couldn't stop drinking it and I hurried to get married.
To № 1. Well, yes, I would do the same, but I'm not 16 yet and it's just impossible. Besides, I can't do it, because I will feel sorry for him, and especially for my mother! ; Thanks anyway: (author)
There is no salvation from alcohol. Whatever you do, it will not stop. I know it from personal experience. My husband is an alcoholic, I have been fighting alcohol for 18 years, but he always wins. Only your father has to decide to give up, no one else can help him. It's all about realizing that it hurts others, but alcoholics rarely admit it. When it comes to alcohol, they shut themselves in and vehemently deny it. There is a saying that is quite appropriate here "Whore is up to time, drunkenness all my life." So, darling, stand next to your mother and support her as much as you can, she really needs it. Unfortunately, there is nothing else you can do. I've tried everything, believe me. But I hope I'm still wrong and you succeed in some way.
So I don't know how to start, it was the same with me, the only difference was that my mother drank every day, she came home drunk, she beat me, I was only 15, and I tried to talk to her, I threatened her that I would run away from us if she didn't stop, but alas, nothing helped now, my mother is not alive - the reason is stupid alcohol, I wish you with all my heart to cope and give a little intelligence to your father and he to stop before it's too late. Good luck darling and have strength you will need a lot I hope your mother supports you because it is difficult to fight alone against this, I know from experience I did not have the support of my father and I still do not have but life has taught me to be strong and you will you learn and whatever the ending (hopefully good) remember that life goes on. Kisses and good luck. f-16
I will continue to fight him, no matter how difficult it is for me, "hope dies last". Thank you for the advice. (author)
My father is the same, he had problems with alcohol from a very young age - even some of his friends told me that this partially ruined his sports career ... After work he tells me - I go to drink a beer, and then disappears for 2- 3 days ... They call him from work, I don't know what to tell them ... If it weren't for this damn alcohol, he would be the hottest and best father - I'm sure ... Well, for your problem - it can't to ignore and not pay attention to him - IT EITHER HAS OR HE DOESN'T HAVE ... Either a person has self-control or he doesn't ... Try to ignore him by the friends he hangs out with, go on vacation, I just don't know what advice to give you, it's a disease and an addiction :( I hope you find the strength until you become strong enough to go on your own life path ...
I can't separate him from his friends, so he will shut himself in and start drinking even more, and he won't listen to me either. Somewhere I think he drinks for me because I'm not wanted in his life. I overheard such a conversation, which leads me to this thought :(
Hello darling, I had the same problem with my father, only he wasn't with me every day, but when he got drunk, there were cases when he hit my mother, I was very sick, I broke my nerves, I tried to hate him , but it didn't happen ... The only advice I will give you is to stay with your mother and when you finish school, go somewhere to study or work, away from your father, I did so and I feel very good, this problem is already he's gone, obviously because we've grown up, I don't know, but I wish you well too :) a lot of success and kisses from me, and I'll be happy if I helped :) sisi
friend ... what are you complaining about my father has been drunk to insanity since he was born .. he has always exposed me to my friends, watched domestic beatings scandals everyday, policemen at home, knives pans falling up .. big pate .. in in general, and you went crazy from an incident, aren't you ashamed?
Nom. 9, no author should be ashamed in this case. from one such-and-such ....