I have always been clear with myself and it has never been difficult for me to make decisions, they were wrong (I am now 24) I have a girlfriend of 8 months in the beginning I liked her a lot but over time I do not know what exactly it happened but somehow I don't feel so close anymore. I need something really spontaneous (she is 19) but she is too quiet, she doesn't talk much when we are with friends (mostly mine) she doesn't say a word unless someone asks her something and she answers quite succinctly with 1-2 words and that is. When we are at a party or a pub the situation is almost the same he sits and wants to sit and I talk. She is too shy. I didn't bend over to relax, but things didn't work out. Her girlfriends are so crazy lively and fun with them I really have fun while sitting on the couch or anywhere and just smiling or talking to them. Again, I'm just angry. Before I met her I had a serious relationship that lasted almost 3 years then Visco was so normal.
My ex-girlfriend was exactly my type, but unfortunately, I listened to the wrong person and broke up with her now, maybe I'm sorry, but I'm looking forward. I want to be with my current girlfriend but she doesn't know and I'm bored with her. She wants us to be together watching movies, sitting huddled somewhere, and talking or kissing !!!!! GOD! I may be 24, but I need to expend energy not only in love, but I also love the company of people, music, and fun.
When we are together I feel that I always feel sleepy when I come home, but I don't feel sleepy and when someone calls me I go out and I feel very good and then I blame myself for what a fool I am why I'm not with her and I'm somewhere and having fun. I'm so confused I don't know what to do. The bad thing is that I'm starting to think about another relationship but I can't cut it because I really care about her, I don't know if I love her but I have feelings for her. Some time ago, one of her good friends went for a few days to another friend's villa and when she returned she was already with a new friend, although she had a 4-year relationship with a boy from here. She just dumped him because she realized she had never loved him, now she was so happy. At first, I was outraged just what I didn't say about the girl but when I saw her I realized that she just found what she didn't get and what could be better than that. Yes, it is selfish because it hurt the boy terribly and I honestly sympathize with him. But it shook me after I learned it, I started thinking about how I might meet another and how I would fall in love but I don't want to hurt my girlfriend.
I'm cold with her, I feel it and I say to myself now it won't be like that and when we see each other we just have no idea what's going on but I just can't behave the way I want. Is it my fault? Don't I know what I want, am I so bad that I must hurt her and I know I'm doing it but I'm not changing ... I don't know. The very fact that I feel like she's afraid of leaving her, how she always makes some hints to me that she loves me, that she was afraid to be with someone but she trusted me, they make me even more depressed and I get even more confused. WHAT TO DO!
1 denis_bl answered
Oh, your poor man ... if I were right away, I would have dumped her. Because I'm a big chatterbox and energetic and I'm always looking for a person like me to cheer me up ... I don't know how you put up with her sitting around looking at you without babbling lol and she is such meleee horror you my advice is listen to your heart do not think only about her but also about yourself if you do not feel happy with her better dump her before and she does not bite you harder then more you will suffer I do not know ...GOOD LUCK...