Hello! I am a 15 year old girl. and I have a problem with my father. Ours have been separated for a year and a half. We were a good family, but a third person intervened - a woman and they separated. I will tell this briefly about the separation. My father didn't live to the age when he should have, and he went to cheat on my mother with his best friend's wife. It turns out that it is his life and no one can interfere with it. It was his job, and it didn't matter that the family broke up. This woman has 3 children and they are lovers with my father to this day. They hide like mice to be together, the moment someone raises the issue my father explodes, this woman has changed him a lot. He used to be cheerful, but now he is petty and nervous. I live with him. My relationship with my mother is wonderful - we are best friends and I share absolutely everything with her. While living with my father - for a number of good reasons and we are like roommates. His control is furious. He constantly checks my chronologies on Skype, rummages through my phone when I go out and interrogates me to the smallest detail. He raises alarms for nothing and all because of this woman. She drinks it literally. He does not recognize anyone in our country. If we interfere with his life a little, we are black, and he wants to be everywhere. I understand him from the side of control, we live in dangerous times and everything happens, but he lives with that thought. I'm a little late in broad daylight and I think I was hit by a car. He wants her to call him every time I meet my mother that we are already together and to let him know that we are separated. Like I said, it's petty for the slightest thing. For these approximately 2 years, he took me only once to Shipka, and he leads me everywhere. There is no money at home for anything, because he is fascinated by it and all means go to the wind. Lately I've been hanging out with a boy and things are getting worse and of course my mother knows everything about what's going on. I want to tell him too, but I know he's going crazy. The thought of a boy paying attention to me will just scream. He'll start checking to see if I'm there and who I'm with when I say I'm somewhere. He will start asking for my phone more often and my personal space, which is not that I have much, will narrow a little more. I must say that I have never been a problem daughter. My grades are pretty good, I don't go out to bars and discos, I go home when he tells me to, but he's like an eagle above me again. However, my best friend's birthday was a big mistake. He celebrated it at their place - a quiet atmosphere, even theirs was there, it just brought us together. Of course, my father wouldn't let me go. He said that I was too young to sleep with friends, given that my mother lived 1 block away. And as a best friend, I took a chance. I said I was going to sleep with my mother, we even talked to her, I explained what it was and I went. He understood the whole thing and caught us. Since then, control has been like living in an occupied country, a place of war. I've talked about this with Lelini and their opinion is that she's just overdoing it with fatherhood. I don't know what to do, to endure the disgusting story with his girlfriend and his hated story with my mother and control, or what? He understood the whole thing and caught us. Since then, control has been like living in an occupied country, a place of war. I've talked about this with Lelini and their opinion is that she's just overdoing it with fatherhood. I don't know what to do, to put up with the disgusting story with his girlfriend and his hated story with my mother and control, or what? He understood the whole thing and caught us. Since then, control has been like living in an occupied country, a place of war. I've talked about this with Lelini and their opinion is that she's just overdoing it with fatherhood. I don't know what to do, to endure the disgusting story with his girlfriend and his hated story with my mother and control, or what?
1 mootssb answered
Since you get along so well with your mother, why don't you live with her, but with your father? And if he doesn't allow it, your mother can always file a lawsuit against him.