Hello. I am a 21-year-old boy and I have a girlfriend who turned 19 and this is her last year. We have been together for three years, everything is going in the best possible way and we fight very rarely, two or three times a month. We love each other infinitely, we are not jealous and we trust each other completely. On her recent birthday, I took her to a romantic dinner and then surprised her. Everything was wonderful, but while we were having dinner at the restaurant, she said something that really worried me. I am studying international law and since this is her last year I asked her if she still wants to study what science she is coming to or if she has decided to change her mind. Since she had been saying for a long time that she would study some kind of science because it attracted her, I didn't think they would have changed their minds. Then she said she wanted to study forensics. I was really worried when I heard this but I covered it so as not to ruin the evening. The next day we talked and she said she would study science just for me. At first I was relieved but I started to feel guilty and convinced her to choose what would make her happy, because I would be by her side whatever she chose. However, I'm afraid something might happen to her. It can affect her psyche, someone can hurt her for what she does. I don't want to lose because of such a thing. I know it sounds pretty pessimistic but I just want her to be well, I want her to be happy she changed her mind very suddenly and .. I don't want to give her up but I'm worried that I might lose her charge the risk she takes through this job. Do you think I should talk to her Or am I exaggerating? The next day we talked and she said she would study science just for me. At first I was relieved but I started to feel guilty and convinced her to choose what would make her happy, because I would be by her side whatever she chose. However, I'm afraid something might happen to her. It can affect her psyche, someone can hurt her for what she does. I don't want to lose because of such a thing. I know it sounds pretty pessimistic but I just want her to be well, I want her to be happy she changed her mind very suddenly and .. I don't want to give her up but I'm worried that I might lose her charge the risk she takes through this job. Do you think I should talk to her? Or am I exaggerating? The next day we talked and she said she would study science just for me. At first I was relieved but I started to feel guilty and convinced her to choose what would make her happy, because I would be by her side whatever she chose. However, I'm afraid something might happen to her. It can affect her psyche, someone can hurt her for what she does. I don't want to lose because of such a thing. I know it sounds pretty pessimistic but I just want her to be well, I want her to be happy she changed her mind very suddenly and .. I don't want to give her up but I'm worried that I might lose her charge the risk she takes through this job. Do you think I should talk to her? Or am I exaggerating? However, I'm afraid something might happen to her. It can affect her psyche, someone can hurt her for what she does. I don't want to lose because of something like that. I know it sounds pretty pessimistic but I just want her to be well, I want her to be happy she changed her mind very suddenly and .. I don't want to give her up but I'm worried that I might lose her charge the risk she takes through this job. Do you think I should talk to her? Or am I exaggerating? However, I'm afraid something might happen to her. It can affect her psyche, someone can hurt her for what she does. I don't want to lose because of such a thing. I know it sounds pretty pessimistic but I just want her to be well, I want her to be happy she changed her mind very suddenly and .. I don't want to give her up but I'm worried that I might lose her charge the risk she takes through this job. Do you think I should talk to her? Or am I exaggerating? Do you think I should talk to her? Or am I exaggerating? Do you think I should talk to her? Or am I exaggerating?
1 sarawonder69x answered
You are exaggerating to the point of paranoia. First, what exactly he wants to study, forensics is very general. Investigator, lab technician ... what? In fact, forensic scientists are much better protected than you might think. Don't impose your dreams on her, sooner or later she will be fucked and then the problems will start and the separation will take place. She has her own head, that is, her own dreams, goals in life. You can obviously manipulate her now, but in a few years she will turn against you the most, and for her it will be a waste of time to learn something that is YOURS, not her dream, and to be with a person who does not respect her. desires and dreams, and imposes its own. Let her follow her wishes. Only in this way can you be happy in a couple, and not as one depersonalizes the other, because he was "worried" about the future.